Bayangxola, bakhaba, bajika baba bomvu njengeenyanya… Sonke sikhe sabona okanye saphathwa ngumsindo womntwana kwaye siye sacinga: “Umhlaba uyandiginya!”. Abantwana bavavanya umonde wethu kumaxesha amaninzi kunye nomsindo wakhe odumileyo.
Endaweni yokuphelelwa ngumsindo sinokusebenzisa ithuba bamba umntu onomsindo ngentlonelo kwaye ubafundise kulawulo lweemvakalelo. Funda ukuze ufunde iingcebiso zokwenza oko.
Kutheni abantwana besabela ngoluhlobo?
Ewe, ikakhulu kungenxa yezizathu ezibini: okokuqala kukuba abantwana abancinci abanasakhono somlomo siyimfuneko ukuveza iimfuno zabo zeemvakalelo nezomzimba ngenye indlela, kwaye okwesibini banayo inqanaba eliphantsi lokukhungathekaAbayiqondi into yokuba abanakusoloko benento abayifunayo.
Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba oku kunjalo into yethutyana, isigaba, kwaye ixesha ngalinye baya kubekwa ngaphezulu ngexesha elithile kude kube bayanyamalala. Ngokwesiqhelo oku kwenzeka malunga neminyaka emi-6. Yi icandelo eliqhelekileyo lokukhula kwabo.
Abazali bajongana nomceli mngeni omkhulu wokwazi ukuba bazisingatha njani ezi zihlandlo zoxinzelelo banazo abantwana babo, ngaphandle kokuba umsindo wabo uqhume.
Ungajongana njani nomsindo?
Ingabonakala ngathi luvavanyo lomonde kodwa ... Kuthekani ukuba siyibona njengethuba lokubafundisa ngeemvakalelo? Ukwazi indlela yokulawula kufuneka sazi kwaye sazi indlela yokuchaza ngokufanelekileyo. Iya kusebenza ukuthintela ukungqubana kwabantu kunye nokuphucula unxibelelwano lwethu kunye nabanye nakwiziqu zethu. Oko sikubiza ngokuba ngqondweni.
Uyiphatha Kanjani Ngentlonelo Impatho Yomntwana
Umntwana ukhathazwa yimvakalelo engeyiyo, kwaye wenza into ayaziyo ukuba angayenza njani: ukukhwaza kunye nokukhaba, banokuba ndlongondlongo. Abayazi indlela yokujongana nemeko ngenye indlela Kulapha apho singene khona ukukunceda:
- Musa ukucaphuka. Ingabonakala ngathi yinto engenakwenzeka, kodwa ukuba siyaphulukana nolawulo nathi, siphulukene nedabi, abantwana baxelisa abantu abadala kwaye ukuba bayabona ukuba asinakukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo ezingalunganga nazo, abasayi kuba nakho ukufunda ukujongana nazo. Phefumla kancinci, inokunceda ukuzeyisa.
- Zibeke kwinqanaba labo. Ukuba bayaxoka okanye bahlala phantsi goba phantsi ukuphakama kwabo, bachukumise kwaye uthethe nabo ngelizwi elizolileyo lelizwi.
- Chonga ukukhathazeka kwakho. “Unomsindo wokuba singayi epakini kuba kuyanetha. Ndiyakuva, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ubenomsindo ”. Umntwana uziva iimvakalelo zakhe zivakaliswa ngamazwi kwaye uziva eqondwa kwaye ethuthuzelekile. Mfutshane, musa ukunika inkcazo ezininzi.
- Nika enye indlela abanokuyenza (Ngaba ufuna ukuba silifunde eli bali ulithanda kakhulu? Okanye ngaba ufuna ukudlala ngeemoto zakho ozithandayo?).
- Buyekeza ukuthatha kwakho kodwa hayi ukuba nomsindo. Sukuvuma into enomsindo okanye umntwana uya kuyiqonda into yokuba ukuze afumane izinto kufuneka aziphathe ngolu hlobo. Xa sele behlile, singathetha naye malunga nento eyenzekileyo ngokuzolileyo.
- Sukwenza ubuhlanti ngokweemvakalelo. Kukangaphi sisiva amabinzana anje ngala "ukuba uziphatha njalo andizukuthanda", "ukuba umbi, utata uyakucaphuka". Uthando lwethu aluxhomekekanga kwindlela oziphethe ngayo kwaye ke kufuneka sibazise.
- Umvuzo wokuziphatha kakuhle. Kuya kufuneka sibanike umvuzo xa beziphethe kakuhle (ukwangana, ingqalelo, indumiso ...). Umvuzo wokuziphatha kakuhle uya kuhlala ungcono kunesohlwayo ngokuziphatha gwenxa.
Bafundise ukulinganisa iimvakalelo
Kukho iincwadi zemfundo ezinemvakalelo kunye nemidlalo kwimarike ebeka amagama kunye nobuso kwiimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo ngokobudala, ukuze qonda ukwahlulahlula nokuthetha ngomlomo kubo. Kukutyala imali kwixesha elizayo ukuba sinikele ekudlaleni nabantwana bethu ukuze ngomso babe ngabantu abadala abasemphefumlweni. Bafundise ukuba sonke sineemvakalelo ezingathandekiyo, ziyintoni, ziyintoni imisebenzi yazo kunye nendlela yokuzisingatha.
Kuba khumbula ... sonke sineemvakalelo ezimbi, zonke zinendima. Ukubaphepha okanye ukuzivumela ukuba sihanjiswe ngabo akuyi kubenza bahambe, kodwa asiyi kukwazi ukujongana nabo kwixesha elizayo.