Abasetyhini abaninzi ababa ngoomama baya kuvuma ukwamkela ukuba xa owasetyhini esiba ngumama kukho ngaphambili nasemva ebomini babo. Ukukhulelwa akuyona ibhedi yeeroses kwaye banokude bavelise unxunguphalo kwabanye abafazi abakhulelweyo ngenxa yokungonwabi okuqhubekayo abanokubandezeleka. Iintsana zineminyaka kodwa oomama babhiyozela isikhumbuzo sokuba ngoomama kunye nabantwana babo.
Ixesha lihamba kwaye into eyayisesibelekweni sakho iba lusana kwaye ungaqapheli nokuba uyakuba ngumntwana omncinci, umntwana, intombazana ... Kwaye ixesha lihamba ngaphandle kokuyeka. Phambi konyaka wabantwana bakho ungaziva udiniwe, udiniwe, uphazamisekile kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, uya kuziva ukuba ubomi bakho bonke busesiphithiphithini. Kodwa kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Umntwana wakho kufuneka abe secaleni kwakho kwaye uya kuziva unelunda ngokwazi ukuqhubela phambili, yonke imihla.
Umfazi ongekabi ngumama usenokungaziqondi zonke iimvakalelo ezinamava njengomama, nokuba uzama ukuyicinga. Ubomi butshintsha ngesiquphe xa kufika umntwana, nokuba ngowokuqala, owesibini okanye owesithathu. Ubomi buthatha ithuba elingu-180º. Usana lutshintsha yonke into kwaye kubalulekile ukuba bobabini utata nomama bazi ukuba umntwana angazitshintsha njani izinto eziphambili kuye, umbono wobomi kunye nehlabathi ngokubanzi. Ukuba ngumama kuyakutshintsha, kukwenza ube ngumntu owahlukileyo.
Kodwa ukuba awukabi ngumama okwangoku, ukuba ukhulelwe okanye ukuba uzimisele ukuba lixesha, lifikile ixesha lokuba uyazi inyaniso yokuba kuthetha ntoni ukuba ngumama Ngelixa kuyinyani ukuba yeyona nto intle kakhulu inokwenzeka kuwe ebomini, kukwakho nezinye iindawo ezinomtsalane ongazaziyo ukuze kamva, ungabambeki.
Izinto ekufuneka uzazi ngaphambi kokuba ube ngumama
Umzimba wakho uyakwahluka
Phantse iinyanga ezilishumi, umntu uya kukhula ngaphakathi kuwe. Ke xa ixesha lidlula ungayizisa emhlabeni ngokuzalwa kwendalo okanye ngecandelo le-cearean. Xa ubuyela ekhaya emva kokuzisa umntwana wakho emhlabeni, umzimba wakho awuyi kuba njengangaphambili ngaphambi kokuba ukhulelwe. Musa ukuthathela ingqalelo iimagazini ezibonisa abantu abadumileyo abasandula ukuzala. Abo bafazi baneeyure ezingama-24 zabaqeqeshi bobuqu kunye neengcali zokutya kubo. Ukongeza ekubeni nabantwana abagcina abantwana babavumela ukuba babe nexesha lokukhulula kwaye balale kamnandi ebusuku. Le nyaniso ayikho kwabanye abafazi kunye noomama behlabathi.
Ungabi nazintloni ngomzimba wakho. Enkosi kuye, ukwazile ukuzisa emhlabeni into entle: unyana wakho. Kuya kubakho ixesha lokuzikhathalela, ngoku kuya kufuneka wonwabele usana lwakho kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke, ulihloniphe ixesha lokufumana kwakhona ekukhulelweni, ekubelekeni okanye kwicandelo lokuyeka ukubeleka.
Cela uncedo nanini na ufuna
Abasetyhini noomama bacinga ukuba xa bediniwe okanye bediniwe, kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye kufuneka benyamezele. Kodwa akunjalo. Ukuba uziva udiniwe okanye udiniwe cela uncedo nanini na xa ufuna kwaye ndiziva ndinetyala lokwenza oko. Thetha neqabane lakho, abahlobo bakho, abazali bakho, abantakwenu, abakhathalelayo, okanye ugqirha. Cela uncedo kulowo kufuneka uyenze. Awuwedwa kubumama, awunyanzelekanga ukuba uzenzele ngokwakho kwaye unciphise xa uswele amandla okukufezekisa. Ukuzikhathalela wena nokuba sempilweni nako kufanele kube yinto ephambili.
Ulwalamano lwakho luya kwahluka
Oku akunakuphepheka. Ukufumana umntwana kuya kuzisa ukungalingani okuncinci kubudlelwane besi sibini. Indlela iqabane lakho elenza ngayo izinto isenokungabi yile nto uyilindeleyo, okanye ungaziva ngathi wenza yonke into kwaye neqabane lakho lingenzi nto. Unokuziva unomona kuba iqabane lakho lilele ngaphezu kwakho kwaye liphumle ngakumbi ngosuku olulandelayo. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuya kwenzakala, ngakumbi ukuvalelwa bodwa xa kungayi kubakho ukulala ngesondo kude kube uyachacha.
Uya kucaphuka ngenxa yokuba iqabane lakho lingenakuncancisa, uya kufuna ukuba aqonde ukungalingani ngokweemvakalelo nokuba akwenzi njalo, akukho mntu uqondayo ixhala lakho kwaye liyakukhathaza. Kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa kuya kufuneka uyamkele into yokuba wahlukile kwaye into ebalulekileyo kukuhamba ngendlela efanayo. Ukuba ufuna uncedo olungakumbi okanye inkxaso kwiqabane lakho kuya kufuneka uyicele, ungakhathazeki, yindlela ekufuneka niyenzile kunye.
Sukukhathazeka kakhulu ngephupha
Ukuba uthe phithi kukungalali ngokwaneleyo ebusuku, kuyakufika ixesha apho uziva udiniwe nangaphezulu kunokuba unokuba kunjalo. Kuyinyani ukuba uyakube udiniwe, kwaye uya kuswela amandla kodwa ukuba ucinga ukuba akulali, kuya kuba kubi ngakumbi. Kodwa liza kufika ixesha apho uyakuqonda ukuba ukulala iiyure ezi-4 zilandelelana kuya kukugcwalisa ngokupheleleyo kwaye uya kuvuka ungakhange uqaphele konke ukuhamba kosana lwakho ... Usenokungavuki emsindweni omkhulu ngaphambili, kodwa iintshukumo zosana lwakho ziya kukuvusa ngokukhawuleza.
Xa umntwana wakho eqala ukulala ngaphezulu kweeyure zilandelelana emva kweenyanga ezine, kuya kukwenza uzive uhlaziyiwe, kwaye xa elele ubusuku bonke iya kuba yeyona nto intle ehlabathini kuwe. Kodwa okwangoku, ungakhathazeki. Thatha ixesha lokulala xa unakho kwaye nitshintshana neqabane lakho nanini na apho nikwazi khona. Okwexeshana, uya kukwazi ukulala ubusuku bonke amaxesha ngamaxesha… Nangona xa ungumama, awusoze ulale ngendlela efanayo ngaphambili. Ayinakuphepheka.
Musa ukuba nzima kuwe
Sukuzigxeka, okanye uzithelekise, okanye uthelekise umntwana wakho, sukuziva kakubi ukuba ufuna ukondla umntwana wakho ngobisi olungumgubo kuba awufuni okanye unako ukuncancisa, sukukhangela yonke into kwi-Intanethi, buza ngcono gqirha amathandabuzo akho ezempilo, kuthintele ukufunda iindaba ezibuhlungu kuba nangona zikhona azinyanzelekanga ukuba zenzeke kuwe kwaye ukuba uzifunda ziya kukwenza uzive ukhathazeke kakhulu, ube nexesha lakho kwaye ungafuni ukuzixakekisa kakhulu xa kufuneka ndiphumle. Khangela ezinye iindlela kwaye ufumane ezona zilungele wena nosapho lwakho.