Ezi zangaphandle kufuneka zikhethwe ngokokuthanda komntwana kwaye babenakho ukuphucula izakhono ngokweempawu zomntwana. Umntwana ngamnye wahlukile, kwaye uya kuba nobuchule obahlukeneyo, ubuntu, iitalente kunye nezakhono ezahlukeneyo. Abazali bafanele hlalutya umntwana ngamnye ukwazi ukuba zeziphi izinto ezibuthathaka onokukunceda uzomeleze kwaye kwangaxeshanye ube nexesha elimnandi.
Ukudana kwabantwana
Abantwana bayakhathazeka msinya, ngakumbi xa bebancinci. Yongezwe kukungabikho kwezakhono zolwimi kukuswela kwakhe amandla okuyeka ukuqinisa. Ukuba bafuna into, bayifuna kwangoko nangoko. Kodwa kukho abantwana abanonyamezelo oluncinci okanye oluncinci lokudana, kunye nokuzilawula okungaphezulu okanye okuncinci. Kwinqaku "Ungabafundisa njani abantwana ukulawula uxinzelelo" Sikushiyele iingcebiso zokukunceda uyilawule.
Isazi ngengqondo uWalter Mischel kunye Uvavanyo lwe-marshmallow (i-marshmallow okanye amafu) isibonisa oku. Kolu vavanyo, abantwana abancinci baziswa ngeplate enesithambiso. Baxelelwe ukuba banokuyitya ngalo mzuzu, kodwa ukuba balinda ithutyana baya kuba neebini. Ucinga ukuba bakhethe ntoni? Ewe, uninzi luye lwatya i-marshmallow ngaphambi kokulinda, ngama-33% kuphela abakwaziyo ukuzeyisa ukuze ube nakho ukulinda kwaye ube neziphumo ezingaphezulu. Ndinomdla wokubona ulingelo kwaye ndikhangele indlela yokuziphatha eyahlukileyo kwi-marshmallow kunye namandla ayo okuzama ukuzilawula. Abantwana abanonyamezelo oluphantsi ngokudakumba abanakuhlala ixesha elide kolu vavanyo.
Ndishiya apha ividiyo yolingo oza kuyibona. Inomdla kakhulu.
Ukwazi ukuba zeziphi iimfuno kunye nezinto abazithandayo abantwana bethu kuya kufuneka sichithe ixesha kunye nabo, sibamamele kwaye sibazi. Ngale ndlela siya kwazi ukuba zeziphi iitalente onazo, zithini izinto ozithandayo kunye nokuba ngawaphi amanqaku ekufuneka uphuculwe. Imisebenzi Izinto ezenziwa emva kwesikolo kufuneka zigqitywe ngumntwana, kuba ukuba abazali bayabakhetha banokuthi bangalungi kwaye babone lo msebenzi njengesohlwayo. Oku kuyakwenza ukuba kungabinamsebenzi. Ukufumana okuninzi kuyo, kufuneka ikhethwe nguye kwiindlela ezininzi ezinokubakho. Ayisiyonto yokuthatha ixesha lakho kuphela, kodwa ikwenzela inzuzo kuloo msebenzi.
Emva kwesikolo saBantwana abaKhathazwa ngokulula
Apha sikushiya nemisebenzi yangaphandle yabantwana abanonyamezelo olusezantsi lokudana, ukuze baphucule amandla abo ukuzeyisa kwaye bafunde ubugcisa bokuba nomonde. Njengoko sele sibonile, kufuneka sizixabise nezinto ezithandwa ngabantwana, kwaye kufuneka babe ngabo abenza isigqibo sokugqibela malunga nokuba yeyiphi na imisebenzi yangaphandle ekufuneka ikhethwe.
- Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo. Ngakumbi nangakumbi amaziko akhetha ukubeka lo msebenzi wexesha langaphandle. Iimvakalelo zifundiswa ngendlela eyonwabisayo ukuze zifunde ukuzifumanisa kubo nakwabanye, kwaye funda ukulawula iimvakalelo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abantwana bafunde ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo, ngethemba lokuba kwiminyaka embalwa iyakuba sisifundo esinyanzelekileyo njengemathematics.
- Ukudweba. Imizobo enendlela zivelise iimvakalelo zakho kunye nokudakumba. Bafunda umonde wokuba ayisiyiyo yonke into ehamba okokuqala, ukugxila kwimisebenzi kwaye bafuna ukuyenza ngcono. Khuthaza ubuchule bakho bokuyila kunye nengcinga.
- Ukucamngca. Njengobukrelekrele bemvakalelo, ngakumbi nangakumbi iiklasi zibonwa nabantwana apho bafundiswa khona ukucamngca okanye ukukhumbula. Enkosi ngalo msebenzi banakho balahle uxinzelelo, bafunde ngakumbi ngemizimba yabo, bafunde ukujongana nokukhathazeka, baphumle, baphucule ukuhlala kunye kwaye bafunde ukulawula ukuphefumla kwabo.
- Iigadi zasezidolophini. Akukho nto inika umonde ngaphezu kwegadi. Funda ukutyala imbewu, unkcenkceshele kwaye ubone ukuba zikhula kancinci kancinci kancinci. Yi umsebenzi wokuphumla Kwaye yenziwa nangaphandle, iluncedo kakhulu ebantwaneni.
- Umdaniso. Ukufunda umdaniso wokudanisa akukho lula, kufuna ukuziqhelanisa, umgudu, ukugxila kunye nomonde. Benza imithambo, bekhupha amandla noxinzelelo, kwaye bonwabile.
- Ithiyetha. Ukusebenza njengomnye umntu, kusifundisa ukuba siqonde abanye, sizive sikho, nto leyo ephucula uvelwano, imijelo yeemvakalelo zabo kunye nokuququzelela ubuchule kunye nezixhobo zobomi.
Kuba khumbula ... Njengabazali kufuneka sinike abantwana bethu izixhobo ukuze bakwazi ukujongana nobomi.