Ukuba ngumphathi akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka ungxolise, ubethe, okanye wohlwaye ngalo lonke ixesha. Oku kuya kubangela uloyiko kubantwana bakho kwaye ke ayizukuba yimfundo efanelekileyo okanye uqeqesho. Akukho fomula inye yokukhulisa abantwana kakuhle. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba ngumzali ayisiyo isayensi ngqo. Akukho ncwadana yemiyalelo yokuyalela kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi, ingaphezulu, 'ulingo kunye nempazamo'.
Abazali abakwaziyo ukuba nguzwilakhe baya kuba nabantwana abonwabileyo nabasempilweni, bexhotyiswe ngokwasemoyeni ukujongana nemiceli mngeni kwilizwe lokwenyani. Into emnandi ngayo yonke le nto kukuba nabani na unokwazi ukuba ngumzali onegunya ngakumbi, ukuba uyazi ukuba ungayenza njani ngokufanelekileyo. Emva koko uya kufumana amacebo anokukunceda ube ngumzali onegunya ngakumbi.
Mamela unyana wakho
Kukho abazali abanobuzwilakhe kodwa abanetyhefu abacinga ukuba abantwana babo kufuneka babonwe kodwa bangaviwa. Ngokwenyani, kubalulekile ukumamela nokwamkela izimvo zabantwana. Ukumamela iinkxalabo zabo kuya kuvumela unxibelelwano olululo kunye nokuzithemba kuphuhle, kunye nokwabelana ngezimvo zakho. Nokuba umntwana wakho uphinda-phinda izinto eziliwaka kuwe, mphulaphule ngenyameko. Ukuhlawula ingqalelo lelona nyathelo lilungileyo lokuthintela iingxaki zokuziphatha kwixa elizayo.
Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zakho
Abazali abagunyazisiweyo bayazamkela iimvakalelo zabantwana babo. Banceda abantwana babhale iimvakalelo zabo kwaye babafundise ukuba baqonde indlela iimvakalelo zabo ezichaphazela ngayo indlela abaziphethe ngayo. Ke kwixesha elizayo xa umntwana wakho enomsindo, xhathisa ukunciphisa iimvakalelo ngokuthi, "Akukubi kangako" okanye, "Yeka ukukhala, akukho sizathu sokuba nomsindo. Kuye, kunokuba yingxaki enkulu. Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zakho ngokuthi: "Ndiyazi ukhathazekile ngoku."
Kuya kufuneka ulungise indlela abaziphethe ngayo, kodwa hayi iimvakalelo zakho. Mxelele ukuba kulungile ukuba uzive unomsindo, kodwa akulunganga ukubetha ngenxa yokuba unomsindo. Kuyimfuneko ukuqonda iimvakalelo ukuze uphendule kwizenzo kwiimvakalelo abazibangelayo.
Thatha ingqalelo iimvakalelo
Ukuba negunya kuthetha ukuthatha ingqalelo kwiimvakalelo zomntwana wakho. Bonisa umntwana wakho ukuba uyayilawula le meko kodwa mxelele ukuba uzikhathalele izigqibo zakhe kwaye ziyabachaphazela nabanye. Umzekelo, ukuba ufuna ukuhamba, babuze ukuba bacinga ntoni ngokuhamba kodwa ungabuzi ukuba kulungile ukuba uyaphuma okanye hayi.
Abantwana abanabo ubulumko namava okwenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo zabantu abadala. Baziva bekhuseleke ngakumbi xa besazi ukuba abantu abadala bazi ngaphezu kwabo.
Misela imigaqo ecacileyo
Kuya kufuneka umisele imigaqo ecacileyo ekhayeni lakho. Qinisekisa ukuba abantwana bayakwazi okulindelweyo ngaphambi kwexesha kwaye ucacisele abantwana izizathu zomgaqo ngamnye. Ke endaweni yokuba uthi "lala kuba benditshilo," yithi, "lala ukuze uncede umzimba nengqondo yakho ikhule."
Xa umntwana wakho eyiqonda inkxalabo yezokhuseleko, iingozi kwezempilo, imiba yokuziphatha, okanye izizathu zentlalo ezihambelana nemithetho yakho, baya kuphuhlisa ukuqonda okungcono ngobomi. Kananjalo baya kuba nakho ukulandela imigaqo xa ungekhoyo ukuyinyanzela.
Ukubonelela ngesilumkiso kwimiba emincinci
Kuya kufuneka unike iziphumo kwangoko xa kwaphulwe imigaqo. Umzekelo, ukuba unyana wakho ubethile kuya kufuneka aphulukane nelungelo okanye abenomzuzwana wokubonisa. Kodwa kwiingxaki ezincinci, kuya kufuneka unike izilumkiso. Kuya kufuneka uxelele abantwana ukuba ziya kuba yintoni iziphumo xa bengatshintshi indlela abaziphethe ngayo.
Sukuchitha ixesha uphinda-phinda izinto, kuba ke uya kuphulukana nentembeko phambi kwabantwana bakho. Bonisa abantwana bakho ukuba into oyithethayo yile uyithethayo kwaye uyayithetha le uyithethayo. Ukuba akasimameli isilumkiso sakho, kuya kufuneka ulandele iziphumo kwaye ungqinelane kwaye uhambisane naso.
Iziphumo ezinika izifundo zobomi
Musa ukwenza abantwana bakho bahlupheke ngenxa yeempazamo ozenzayo, kufuneka bafunde kubo. Ungaze ubenze iintloni okanye usebenzise naluphi na uhlobo lokohlwaya kuba benze impazamo malunga nento ethile, bonisa nje indlela elungileyo. Ungaze uthethe izinto ezoyikekayo ngoluhlobo akubeke phantsi ... uncede umntwana othathe isigqibo esibi sokuzenza ngcono kwixesha elizayo. Akangomntu ombi ngokungalunganga.
Iziphumo zihlala zisengqiqweni kwindalo. Ke umntwana owalayo ukucima umdlalo wakhe wevidiyo unokuphulukana nelungelo lakhe lomdlalo wevidiyo iiyure ezingama-24. Yenza iziphumo ezinceda umntwana wakho ukuba afunde ukwenza ngcono kwikamva. Ukuba ubetha umntakwabo, sukumphulula. Endaweni yoko, thatha ilungelo. Emva koko jolisa ekufundiseni ulawulo lomsindo olungcono okanye izakhono zokusombulula ungquzulwano, xa ukuzola kuphakathi kwenu.
Mbuze izinto ezinje, "Ungenza ntoni kwixesha elizayo xa ucaphukile ukuze ungabethi?" Emva koko thetha ngezinto azikhethileyo kwaye umfundise ezinye iindlela zokubetha. Yenza iziphumo zibe lixesha elifanelekileyo. Endaweni yokuthi, "Ungayibuyisa itafile yakho xa ndinokuthemba kwakhona," yithi, "Ungayisebenzisa kwakhona ithebhulethi yakho wakube undibonisile ukuba unoxanduva Ungandibonisa ukuba unoxanduva lokugqibezela umsebenzi wakho wesikolo kunye nokwenza umsebenzi wesikolo ngexesha yonke imihla kule veki. ”Uthetha into enye, kodwa utshintsho kumbono lwenza umahluko kwindlela umntwana wakho awufumana ngayo umyalezo kwaye awuphendule. .
Nika iinkuthazo
Ungasebenzisa imbuyekezo ukukhuthaza abantwana bakho. Oku akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka ubanike izipho zexabiso. Ukuba, umzekelo, umntwana wakho uzama ukuphucula indlela yokuziphatha ethile, sebenzisa izikhuthazi zokumnceda ukuba ayiphumeze ngokukhuthaza. Eminye imizekelo eya kusebenza njengesikhokelo yile:
- Umntu ongafundanga esikolweni uyala ukulala ebhedini yakhe. Abazali bakhe benza ikhadi lamanqaku kwaye ufumana isitikha ubusuku bonke ahlala ebhedini yakhe.
- Umntu oneminyaka eli-10 ubudala uthatha ixesha elide rhoqo ekuseni ukulungiselela isikolo. Abazali bakhe babeka isibambi xesha ntsasa nganye. Ukuba ulungile ngaphambi kokuba ixesha liphume, unethuba lokusebenzisa i-elektroniki ngaloo mini.
- Umntu oneminyaka eli-12 ulibele ukuzisa umsebenzi wasekhaya wesikolo. Abazali bakhe baqala ukongamela umsebenzi wakhe ngokusondeleyo. Kuwo wonke umsebenzi oza nawo ekhaya, ufumana itikiti. Amatikiti angatshintshelwa kwimivuzo emikhulu, njengokuphuma uye epakini okanye ithuba lokumema umhlobo.