Ukuba abantwana bafunda ukuba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wempumelelo yabo baya kuba nakho ukuyiphumeza, kuba… ukuba unokucinga ukuba ingaphunyezwa! Ukwenza oku, abazali kufuneka bafundise abantwana babo Ukuziva unxunguphalo okanye ukungonwabi xa iimpazamo zisenziwa kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa kubalulekile ukufunda kubo ukuqhubela phambili.
Ngexesha lokuxhalaba, ingqondo ithambekele ekugxileni kuzo zonke iziphumo ezibi ezinokubakho kwimeko. Kwisithuba semizuzwana, unokuqokelela ngokulula yonke imeko enokwenzeka.
Kodwa, njengokuba iingqondo zethu zinokusenza sixhalabe kwaye sizive sigula, banokusinceda sizive somelele kwaye sinikezele ngentuthuzelo. Ukuba ingqondo inamandla ngokwaneleyo okuvusa uloyiko, ikwanakho ukuvelisa amandla aqinisekileyo, ke kubalulekile ukuba ufundise abantwana (kunye nesiqu sakho) ube nakho ukujonga iziphumo ezilungileyo ... ukuziphumeza.
Imifanekiso ekhokelwayo (isenzo sokwenza imifanekiso ezolileyo kunye noxolo engqondweni) kunciphisa uxinzelelo. Ukubonwa kunokuba nokusebenza ngokukuko kuba ingqondo ayinakukwazi ukwahlula phakathi kwememori yokwenyani kunye naleyo icingelweyo. Ngapha koko, iingcali zengqondo kwezemidlalo bezisebenzisa iindlela zokubonisa ukunceda iimbaleki zoyise uxinzelelo lwentsebenzo amashumi eminyaka. Iimbaleki eziqeqesha ngokubona iziphumo ezinempumelelo ziphucula ukusebenza kwazo ngomhla ophambili.
Kuyacetyiswa ukuba ufundise abantwana ukuba basebenzise ukubonwa ukulungiselela umcimbi ovelisa ixhala okanye nayiphi na imeko enokubangela uxinzelelo. Ukuba ungayibona ngolu hlobo imeko, yenza imeko yoxinzelelo emzimbeni nasengqondweni yakho, kwaye emva koko uziqhelanise naloo meko, ayizothusa into yokuba uxinzelelo lwenzeke xa sele ilixesha lokusebenza kwakho. Ngokufundisa abantwana ukuba baziqhelanise nengqondo, Baza kuziva bekhululekile kwaye bezithembile kubuchule babo bokumelana nayo nayiphi na imingeni ezayo.