Enye yeengxaki ezinkulu ezikolweni namhlanje loloyiko lokuba abantwana baziva ukuba abafumani manqanaba aphezulu okanye ukuba bangaphantsi kwenqanaba loontanga. Enye ingxaki enkulu kukuxhaphaza, nto leyo edala uloyiko. Abazali nootitshala bayalwa mihla le ukuze bayeke le ndlela yokuziphatha, ngokungazi ngabantu abadala abafundisa abantwana indlela yokuziphatha yokuxhatshazwa ngokumodareyitha xa besebenzisa isoyikiso sobungakanani bomzimba ukwenza abantwana benze izinto. Ngamanye amaxesha siyalibala ukufundisa abantwana ngothando.
Impazamo yokubala ukuya kwisithathu
Uninzi lwabazali basebenzisa ukubala ukuya kwiindlela ezintathu zabantwana abancinci. Yindlela yokuba abantwana bathobele iimfuno zabo, kodwa ndiyazibuza ukuba abantwana baya kuthini xa abazali babo betshayisa inani lesithathu. Ngaba uya koyika ukubethwa, ukukhala, ukulahlwa ngokweemvakalelo, ukurhoxa eluthandweni okanye ukungamkelwa okuya kuwukhulula umphefumlo wakho?
Zininzi iindlela zokusongela kwaye kule meko kubandakanya ukubala ukuya kuthi ga kwisithathu. Njengoko bekucwangcisiwe, isoyikiso sento eyakwenzeka ukuba utata ufikelela kwimikhosi emithathu umntwana ukuba enze le nto athi makayenze. Abazali basebenzisa izoyikiso ukwenza ukuba abantwana basebenzisane. Uninzi lwabantu abadala bafundiswe ngolu hlobo, ngenxa yokoyika ... kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kulungile kwaye kungasasifanelanga ukuba sivelise ezo ndlela zokohlwaya zemfundo.
Akukho bugqi kwizisongelo
Nangona kubonakala ngathi ukubala ukuya kwisithathu ngumlingo kuqeqesho, akukho bumlingo kwizoyikiso. Abantwana bayazi ukuba abantu abadala babakhulu kwaye banamandla ngakumbi kunabo, ke ngoko bayathobela ukuzikhusela. Ukuba ekuphela kwendlela esinokwenza ukuba abantwana basithobele kungoloyiko, senza ntoni? Ngaba sibafundisa ukuba ubungakanani obukhulu bomzimba kunye namandla yeyona nto isebenza ngempumelelo?
Uninzi lwabazali lukubona ukudelwa kwegunya kwindlela yokuziphatha evukelayo yomntwana. Kodwa xa abazali beqonda oko Ukungaziphathi kakuhle kuhlala kubangelwa yimfuno engagungqiyo yomntwana okanye kulindelo olungeyonyani lomntu omdala, imeko iyatshintsha kwaye abazali abasayithathi indlela yokuziphatha. Oku kunokunceda ukuphucula imeko ngokufuna izisombululo.
Abazali nabantwana baneemfuno ezingafaniyo
Abazali nabantwana bahlala beneemfuno ezingafaniyo. Ngamanye amaxesha iimfuno zethu okanye iishedyuli zethu ziyangqubana neemfuno zabantwana bethu. Abantwana abadlalayo abafuni ukuphazamisa umdlalo wabo ukuba baye evenkileni ngaphambi kokuba ivalwe okanye balale kuba kufuneka bavuke kwakusasa. Xa umzali kufuneka enze enye into kwaye umntwana kufuneka enze enye, ukungqubana kweemfuno kuyadlala.
Oku kungqubana kwezidingo kujika kube ngumzabalazo wamandla xa abazali besebenzisa amandla oloyiko endaweni yamandla othando. Umanyano olomeleleyo luyenziwa ngokuhamba kwexesha xa abazali ngothando behlangabezana neemfuno zabantwana babo ngaphandle kosongelo xa kukho iingxabano. Izisongelo zonakalisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali nabantwana. Xa sifunda ukusombulula ukungqubana 'kweemfuno' zethu ukuze ziboniswe ngovelwano nokuzithemba, iqhina liyomelela kwaye umzabalazo wamandla uya kuthintelwa.
Sebenzisa uthando ukunqanda ungquzulwano
Esona sizathu siphambili sokungqubana kweemfuno phakathi kwabazali nabantwana kukungabikho kwezixhobo. Ukuba abazali babenezixhobo zemfundo ezininzi ngekungafuneki basebenzise izoyikiso. Logama nje kukho ukunqongophala kwezixhobo zeemvakalelo, kunokubakho ukungqubana kweemfuno. Ukuba ufuna ukukhulisa umntwana wakho kwihlabathi apho umhlukumezi kunye nomxhaphazi bengekho, uthando kufuneka lube sisiseko sokufundisa kwakho, sikhatshwe yintlonipho, ukuthembana nokunyaniseka.
Kuyimfuneko ukuba sifundise abantwana ukuthanda endaweni yenzondo, kufuneka kuqala sifunde ukusebenzisa izakhono zokusombulula ungquzulwano kubazali kunxibelelwano lwethu lwemihla ngemihla nabanye kunye nabantwana. Njengokuba abantwana befunda ukuxhatshazwa kwimodeli yabantu abadala, banokufunda ukusombulula iingxaki kunye nezakhono zokusombulula iingxaki kubazali. Xa abantwana befunda ngothando kwaye bekwazi ukuzibandakanya ezi zakhono ekhaya, baya kuba nakho ukuzisebenzisa kwezinye iinkalo zobomi, ezinje nasesikolweni.
Sombulula iingxabano ngothando
Kuyimfuneko ukuba ufundise abantwana ukusombulula ukungaboni ngasonye nothando nentlonipho, beshiya uloyiko ecaleni. Ngamanye amaxesha akukho ndlela icacileyo yokuba abantu ababini-abadala kunye nomntwana- bafumane into abayifunayo, kodwa iimfuno zomntu ngamnye zihlala zihlonitshwa ukuze kufikelelwe kwisivumelwano esivuna omabini amaqela kangangoko.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba abantwana barhoxe ngokungafumani oko bakudingayo kuba befuna ukuphathwa ngendlela engagcini isidima sabo. Xa umntwana omkhulu esithi komnye omncinci: 'Yenza le ndikuxelela yona okanye ndiza kukwenzakalisa' kubizwa ngokuba kukuxhaphaza, kodwa xa umntu omkhulu enxibelelana ngendlela efanayo nomntwana sikubiza ngokuba yingqeqesho ... kuyacaca ukuba ikhona into gwenxa. Ukuba abantwana baphathwa ngendlela ethatha isidima sabo, ubafundisa ukuba benze njalo nakwabanye abantu. Ukuba sifuna abantwana baziphathe ngentlonipho, akukho xhatshazo kwaye uthando lukhona ebomini babo, ke kufuneka siyeke ukuxhaphaza abantwana okanye ukubafundisa ngoloyiko.
Amandla oloyiko ayakhawuleza kwaye alula, kodwa ayisebenzi ngokwenene. Amandla othando athatha umsebenzi ongaphezulu kwaye athabatha ixesha elide, kodwa abantwana baya kukhula kakuhle ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye soze-bangaze babe neziphumo ezibi kubo okanye eluntwini.