Kukho iingcali ezifundisa abantwana ukuba bahlale esitulweni ukuze bacinge ngokuziphatha kwabo. Kukwakho nabazali abangena kwesi sicwangciso ukuze abantwana babo bacinge ngokuziphatha kwabo. Kodwa ukwenza abantwana bacinge ngaphandle kokucinga ngokwenzekileyo kuya kufumana iziphumo kwixesha elifutshane: ukuba umntwana ayeke indlela yokuziphatha engalunganga ngalo mzuzu, kodwa angabinakho ukuyilawula kwikamva.
Abantwana kufuneka babonakalise indlela abaziphethe ngayo ukuze bakwazi ukuthatha isigqibo malunga nokuziphatha kwabo kwaye babenolawulo lwezenzo zabo. Ukwazi iimvakalelo zakho ngcono nokubeka amagama kuwo Ukuqonda ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kwaye kutheni, baya kuba nakho ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo, nangona le nkqubo ingekho lula kangako.
Ummiselo weemvakalelo unenkqubela phambili kwaye bonke abantwana baya kufuna uncedo lwabazali ukuze bakuphumeze. Kodwa endaweni yokuhlala esihlalweni bazicingele ngaphandle kwesikhokelo kunye nengozi yokulahlwa kabuhlungu ngokweemvakalelo, into elungileyo ukuyenza kukubafundisa ukuba babone izinto ngokwembono, Kwaye ungayifumana njani? Ubafundisa ukuba bahlale esihlalweni, ewe, kodwa kwiNyanga.
Inokwenzeka njani loo nto? Ngomfanekiso-ngqondweni. Inomdla kakhulu. Ukufundisa abantwana ukuhlala esihlalweni ukusuka enyangeni kubanika ithuba lokubona okwenzekileyo ngokuphawula umgama weemvakalelo. Ukuba bayakwazi ukuchaza okwenzekileyo, indlela abantu ababandakanyekayo abanokuziva ngayo kwaye bacinge ngezisombululo zelo xesha kwaye zingaphinde zenzeke kwixesha elizayo. Abantwana baya kuziva ngathi banokulawula ngakumbi okwenzekileyo kwaye baya kuba nakho ukufuna isisombululo kunye nokuqonda iimvakalelo, bekwakhuthaza uvelwano.
Bayakufuna isikhokelo sakho, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukuhlala eNyangeni yeyona ndlela ilungileyo.