Umntwana wakho unokuziva kwaye alawule ubomi bakhe kwakhona emva kokuxhatshazwa. Xa umntwana exhatshazwa esikolweni, uya kuvakalelwa kukuba ubomi bakhe abulawuleki, yaye abanye balawula ubomi bakhe. Eyona nto ixhaphakileyo yokucinga amaxhoba okuxhatshazwa awela kuwo xa efumana olu hlaselo kukuba abanamandla kwimeko abazifumana bekuyo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abantwana bangayithathi indlela yokucinga yexhoba ukuze bazive belawula kwaye banayo. Ukuba umntwana ugxininisa ekubuyiseleni amandla ebomini bakhe, uya kuziva ukuba unokuhamba ngokukhawuleza ukuba aphume kuloo meko. Ukuba ufuna ukunceda umntwana wakho aphinde alawule ubomi bakhe, ungaphoswa zezi zicwangciso.
Lawula iingcinga nesimo sakho sengqondo
Khumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba isimo sakhe sengqondo akunyanzelekanga ukuba sisuke kwiimeko zakhe kodwa kwindlela akutolika ngayo oko kwenzeka kuye. Nangona liyinyaniso elokuba umxhaphazi nguye obekek’ ityala ngokungcungcuthekiswa kwakhe, akanambopheleleko ngesimo sengqondo anaso umntwana wakho kuloo meko. Nguye olawula indlela asabela ngayo kuloo ntlondi. Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba athathe uxanduva ngeemvakalelo zakhe kunye nembono yakhe ngale meko.
Ukuba uyakwazi ukuba nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo phezu kwazo nje iimeko, ukuxhatshazwa kuya kuba nempembelelo encinane kubomi bakho. Xa umxhaphazi ebona ukuba ukoyikiswa kwakhe akunampembelelo ayifunayo kwaye akakwazi ukulawula oko ixhoba lakhe livakalelwa, emva koko ukukhathazwa kusenokuphela.
Iingcinga zakho ziyinyani
Uninzi lwabantwana aluqondi ukuba indlela abayibona ngayo imeko ekugqibeleni yindlela abaya kuvakalelwa ngayo nabo. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuba banyanzelisa ukuthotywa ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa, baya kuziva bethotyiwe.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba bacinga ngendlela abanokuzikhusela ngayo okanye batshintshe imbono yabo xa bechasa umxhaphazi, baya kuziva banelisekile. Undoqo kukuba umntwana olixhoba akwazi ukuzihlaziya iingcinga zakhe ngokuxhatshazwa. Menze anikel’ ingqalelo kwizinto ezintle aze akuphephe ukuhlala ecinga ngezinto ezingakhiyo.
Funa ukufunda ngokuxhatshazwa
Enoba kwenzeka ntoni na, kusoloko kukho into enokufundwa kwimeko embi. Kusenokungacaci kumntwana wakho ekuqaleni, kodwa ekugqibeleni, kufuneka akwazi ukujonga ngasemva aze abone oko akufundileyo ekuxhatshazweni. Unokuqonda ukuba unamandla amaninzi kunokuba ubucinga ekuqaleni ... Uya kusoloko ukwazi ukufumana izinto ozifundileyo phezu kwayo nje intlungu obunayo.
Vumela imvakalelo yomsindo
Amaxesha amaninzi xa abantwana bexhatshazwa bazama ukufihla iimvakalelo zabo. Khumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba unalo lonke ilungelo lokuba nomsindo ngenxa yokuba unexesha elibi kwaye loo meko mayiyeke.
Kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba uthatha amanyathelo afanelekileyo ukuze imeko iyeke ngokukhawuleza. Endaweni yokuba ucaphuke. Umntwana wakho kufuneka ayamkele into yokuba uvakalelwa ngaloo ndlela, ayiqonde kwaye akhangele izicombululo ezinokuba bhetele kamva.
Yiba nomdla kwaye ungakhawulezi usebenze
Ukuthatha ulawulo kwaye ube negunya phezu kwale meko kufuneka uthabathe inyathelo kodwa ungaphindi. Kufuneka ube nesicwangciso sokusebenza esinciphisa amathuba okuhlaselwa kwakhona. Oku kunokuthetha ukukhatshwa esikolweni, ukuphepha iindawo ezinokuthi zingqubane, ukusondela kwiingcali ezivela kwiziko lezemfundo ... Ukuba uxhatshazwa yi-cyberbullying, inokuba yinto efanelekileyo yokutshintsha amagama ayimfihlo kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo okanye Vimba iiakhawunti zabantu abakukhathazayo kwi-Intanethi. Enye indlela kukuphepha ukusebenzisa iiwebhsayithi zokuncokola.
Gxila kwikamva kwaye ube yinyani
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba azibekele usukelo kwaye asebenze kwizinto ezibaluleke ngokwenene kubo kunokuba abambelele kwiimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo ezinokukhokelela ekuxhatshazweni. Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho azi ukuba akuyomfuneko ukuba wonke umntu amthande kwaye oko kulungile.
Akufanele uchithe ixesha namandla akho uzama ukukholisa wonke umntu okanye uzama ukwenza abanye abantu bakuthande. Kunoko, kufuneka ugxininise kwingqibelelo yakho, ube ngumhlobo olungileyo, kwaye unyaniseke kwabo bakufanelekele ngokwenene oko, enoba lusapho okanye ngabahlobo.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ugxile ekubeni ngumntu ongcono endaweni yokuzama ukufumana imvume yabanye, ubuhlobo babo kunye nobudlelwane obuhle buya kubonakala ngokuzenzekelayo ebomini babo. Ukuzama ukuziqhelanisa okanye ukutshintsha ukuze ulungelelane nolindelo lwabanye akusokuze kube yimpendulo. Umntwana wakho ufanele azi ukuba kwanokuba umntu okuhlaseliyo uyamhlasela, ingxaki ikuloo mntu ukuhlaseleyo kungekhona kuye. Ukungcungcuthekiswa kukukhetha kakubi umxhaphazi. Ayingomqondiso wokuba kukho into engalunganga kwixhoba.
ubuhlobo bokwenene
Kukho intetho yakudala ethi abantu bafana nabo bachitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabo. Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba acinge ngabantu ebomini bakhe abafumana elona xesha nengqalelo. Mxelele ukuba acinge ngendlela abo bahlobo abamenza azive ngayo uze umbuze ukuba abo bahlobo bayamxhasa na, ukuba unokubathemba na. Emva koko mxelele ukuba acime kubahlobo bakhe nabani na ongengomhlobo wokwenene okanye ongenamdla wokwenene kuye.
Ixabiso loxanduva
Ukuba umntwana wakho ubambelele kumzila wokugxeka abanye ngendlela avakalelwa ngayo okanye ukungonwabi kwakhe, ngoko unikezela ukulawula ubomi bakhe kwabanye. Kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho ufunda ukuthwala uxanduva ngeemvakalelo zakhe aze abeke umxhaphazi uxanduva lokungcungcuthekisa, uya kuziva elawula ngakumbi ubomi bakhe. Olu xanduva lukwakha ukuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba ngamandla. Oku kuya kukunceda ufunde ukwamkela uxanduva lwezinto onegunya lokuzitshintsha… nokuba ahluke kwezo zinto angenakwenza nto ngazo.