Xa sithetha ngomtshato sibhekisa kwisibini esimanyeneyo kwaye sithandana ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Isibini sinokuqwalaselwa njengomtshato nokuba singatyikityanga iphepha elisemthethweni elibabiza njengomtshato eluntwini. Kodwa iimfihlo zokuba sisibini esonwabileyo / umtshato ziyafana kwabanye njengabanye. Umtshato kufuneka wonwabe kwaye womelele ukuze kungabikho bunzima bunokubabetha.
Ngokukodwa ukuba unabantwana, ukonwaba kwesi sibini kubalulekile. Kuba abazali abonwabileyo banokubakhulisa abantwana abonwabileyo. Abantwana abakhulele kwimeko yothando nentlonipho kubazali babo nakwiziqu zabo.
Akukho nto ilunge ngaphezu kwendalo ezele yimvisiswano kunye nolonwabo ukonwabela nosapho. Kodwa uphumelela njani ukuhlala kumtshato owonwabileyo kwaye womelele ukuze ulunge usapho? Ungaphoswa zizi mfihlakalo ukuze uzigcine engqondweni.
Umtshato owomeleleyo nowonwabisayo
Ukuseka indlela esebenzayo yokunxibelelana neemfuno zakho, iimfuno, izinto ongazithandiyo nangaphandle kobundlongondlongo okanye intsingiselo ebalulekileyo ekukhuleni komntu kunye nolonwabo olupheleleyo kunye nemvisiswano. Ukwakha ulwalamano olunzulu nomntu omthandayo, kuya kufuneka ugcine into esisiseko engqondweni: unxibelelwano oluhle.
Ukuseka indlela esebenzayo yokunxibelelana neemfuno zakho, iimfuno, izinto ozithandayo nangazithandiyo ngaphandle kokujongwa njengobundlongondlongo kubalulekile kwiqabane lakho ukuba likuthande yonke imihla. Ukuqinisekisa kunye novelwano kudlala indima ebalulekileyo kubudlelwane bothando phakathi kwabantu ababini abafuna ukuba neprojekthi yobomi kunye.
Ungangomnye wabantu abathi bathethe oko bakucingayo, kodwa kufuneka uqonde ukuba ayingabo bonke abantu abanjalo, kwaye kufuneka uyihloniphe indlela umntu ngamnye anayo ngayo. Kukho abo baziva bengakhululekanga xa kufuneka bethethe ngendlela abaziva ngayo. Kodwa ngaxa lithile, kuya kufuneka uthethe ingqondo yakho ngokuzithemba kwaye ngovelwano ukuba ufuna ukufumana uninzi kulwalamano lwakho nothando.
Unxibelelwano luyimfuneko kubomi owabelana nabo nomnye umntu ukuze baphumelele. Ayisiyiyo kuphela inqanaba lesibini, ukuba alikho kwinqanaba losapho kunye nolunye uhlobo lobudlelwane, unxibelelwano luhlala lubalulekile. Kuyafana nakwiqabane lakho; ufuna iqabane lakho likhule kwaye liguqukele njengoko ufuna njalo. Kubudlelwane kuyafuneka ukuba ukhule njengabantu kwaye nangaliphi na ixesha ubambeke. Eyona ndlela ikhawulezayo yokuzikhawulezisa kukuyeka ukwabelana kunye nokunxibelelana, kwaye ngelishwa, iindlela kunye nokungabikho konxibelelwano kubangela ukuba isibini sishiye ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukuze ube nolwalamano oluhle, akusoloko kufuneka uvumelane ngayo yonke into, kodwa Ewe kuya kufuneka uzame ukuqonda ukuba omnye umntu uthini kwaye uthi njani, nokuba azabelani kwa ezo ngcinga. Ukunika iqabane lakho inkululeko yokuhamba ngokwamanqanaba obomi ngaphandle kokugwetywa kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuqonda kuye kuthetha ukuba ungabona apho avela khona kwaye iqabane lakho livakalelwa kukuba uhlala umxhasa, nokuba sekutheni. Uxolo lwangaphakathi oluza ngokwazi ukuba iqabane lakho liyakuqonda, liyakuxhasa, kwaye lifuna ikamva ecaleni kwakho, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, yinkwenkwezi yegolide kuwo nawuphi na umtshato owonwabileyo.
Ufumana njani umtshato owonwabisayo?
Ngesi sizathu nokwazi konke oku, unokuba nolwalamano olonwabileyo nolomeleleyo lomtshato, uzinzile kangangokuba akukho nto inokukubetha kwaye nezona nkxwaleko zinkulu zikunceda ukuba umanyane ngakumbi kwaye uguquke kungekuphela nje njengabantu, kodwa nanjengeqabane. Ngale ndlela, sukuzixuluba ngezi ngcebiso zilandelayo ukuba uzisebenzise emtshatweni wakho okanye kubudlelwane, kuba iyakuba yinzuzo kuwe nakubantwana bakho. Abantwana bakho baya kuba nethuba lokubona kuwe ubudlelwane obunothando obunempilo, ngaphandle kwetyhefu Apho ukuthandana, ukuthembana, unxibelelwano olululo kunye nentlonipho zihlala zisisiseko esisiseko.
Hamba ngendlela efanayo yobomi
Isibini esihamba kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo sigwetyelwe ukusilela, kungekudala okanye kamva baya kuba nomhla wokuphelelwa ukuba abayazi indlela yokuhamba kunye kwindlela yobomi. Ngesi sizathu, chitha ixesha kunye neqabane lakho nihamba kunye, ukuba yinkxaso yenu esisiseko kunye nokuqonda ukuba nihamba njani kunye, ukuba liqela elimanyeneyo.
Thetha neqabane lakho yonke imihla
Thetha neqabane lakho yonke imihla, nokuba niyabonana ixesha elifutshane ngenxa yoxanduva lwemihla ngemihla. Ukuba nexesha lokunxibelelana neqabane lakho kubalulekile. Nokuba sasemini, isidlo sangokuhlwa okanye ngaphambi kokulala. Fumana indawo yokuchitha ixesha kunye kwaye uphephe ezo zinto zincinci okanye ukuphazamiseka kuba yingxaki enkulu kakhulu.
Oko ukwanga kunye nokwanga akusweleki
Kwisibini esinika uthando omnye komnye, ukwanga nokwangana akunakubakho. Wanga iqabane lakho yonke imihla ubuncinci amaxesha ama-5 kwaye umnike konke ukwanga okufunayo. Yindlela yokuphucula ubudlelwane bakho beemvakalelo obungenakho ukusilela ebomini bakho. Ukuthambeka kunye nokucofa kubalulekile, sukucinga ukuba niyathandana, kwaye nibonise. Yiyo kuphela kwendlela yokwazi ukuba niyathandana kwaye umgama weemvakalelo awukufanele.
Cingani ngekamva lenu kunye
Sukucinga ukuba ubomi bakho buza kuhlala bunjalo ngoku. Cingani kunye malunga nendlela enifuna ukuba ngayo ikamva lenu, nibe nezicwangciso zokudibana. Asibhekiseli kwinyanga ezayo, kodwa nakunyaka ozayo, kwiminyaka emihlanu, elishumi ukusukela ngoku ... naxa uthatha umhlala-phantsi. Ukuphupha kunye nicinga ngekamva kubalulekile ukudibanisa iprojekthi yakho yobomi. Yiba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wendlela ozibona ngayo kwixa elizayo kwaye ukuba uyayithanda, yilwele. Xa ingcinga iqala engqondweni yakho, iba ngumcimbi wokunyamezela kunye nokuqina okumanyeneyo ukuze ukwazi ukuyiphumeza.
Thetha ngento oyithandayo ngolwalamano lwakho
Khumbula amaxesha akho amnandi, xa wadibana nendlela oziva ngayo ngelo xesha. Khumbula kunye loo mabhabhathane esiswini sakho, indlela owawuthanda ngayo okokuqala xa uwanga, xa waqondayo ukuba kufuneka uchithe ubomi bakho ecaleni komnye nomnye. Thetha ngamabali akho amnandi nabantwana bakho, ubazise indlela olumnandi ngayo uthando lwakho.
Yiba kunye, ngokwenene
Cinga ukuba ukhethe iqabane lakho ngesizathu. Iindlela zakho zawela, hayi ngamabona-ndenzile, kodwa ngenxa yokuba nenzelwe omnye nomnye. Qonda ukuba apho ukhoyo ngoku kulapho kanye ubufanelwe ukuba ubekhona, ke konwabele ukubakhona, ngamaxesha onke.