Xa isibini siba ngabazali omnye weminqweno yabo kukuphulaphula usana lwabo luthetha, yiyo loo nto amagama okuqala ebaluleke kakhulu. Abantu bahlala ekuhlaleni kwaye umnqweno wokunxibelelana unamandla kakhulu, ke abazali balinde ngovuyo umntwana wabo ukuba aqale ukuthetha nokunxibelelana nabo. Kodwa musa ukungxama, kuyimfuneko ukuhlonipha isingqi sendalo seentsana, kodwa unokukhuthaza intetho.
Ukufunda ukuthetha yinkqubo eqala kwasekuzalweni, xa usana luva izandi zamazwi. Ngexesha umntwana eneminyaka emibini ubudala, uninzi lweentsana lunesigama esikhulu (bayasiqonda) kwaye bayakwazi ukuveza amagama ambalwa ukuze bahambise iimfuno zabo. Namhlanje ndifuna ukuthetha nawe malunga nale nkqubo yomlingo kunye nento onokuyenza ukuphucula kunye nokukhuthaza amandla okuthetha komntwana wakho ekunxibelelaneni nawe.
Ukususela ekuzalweni ukuya kwiinyanga ezintathu
Ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho azalwe wayesele elivile ilizwi lakho kwaye ngoku naye uyaliva. Xa esenza ingxolo kungenxa yokuba uzama ukulinganisa izandi azivayo. Ukukhuthaza intetho yomntwana wakho, ungamnceda ukuba afunde iithowuni ezahlukeneyo zezwi ngokucula iingoma, ukuthetha naye ngesiqhelo yonke imihla (mxelele okwenzayo ngamaxesha onke), njl. Kodwa khumbula ukuba le yinto onokuyenza ngaphambi kokuba izalwe, xa isesiswini sakho iya kukumamela nawe!
Ibalulekile ukuba uqhele ukuthetha nomntwana wakho nanini na xa umvalele. Nokuba akawaqondi amagama akho, uyathanda ukubona uncumo lwakho kwaye uve ilizwi lakho, uyakonwabela ukumamela kuwe. Kwangokunjalo, kuyafuneka ukuba uvumele ixesha elithe cwaka, iintsana zidinga ixesha lokubhabha nokudlala ngokuzolileyo ngaphandle kokukhuthaza (akukho TV, akukho mculo ...
Ukususela kwiinyanga ezi-3 ukuya kwezi-6
Ukusuka kwiinyanga ezintathu ukuya kwezintandathu umntwana ufunda ukwahlula indlela abantu abanxibelelana ngayo. Ungamnceda ukuba "athethe" xa uthetha kufutshane naye, umjonge emehlweni, kwaye umncumele. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyabhabha, unokuxelisa izandi zakhe ukuze azi ukuba umhoyile. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyabhabha okanye uzama ukwenza isandi esifanayo nesakho, phinda kwakhona ukuze umnike ithuba lokusiva.
Phakathi kweenyanga ezi-6 ukuya kwezi-9
Phakathi kweenyanga ezintandathu ukuya kwezisithoba, abantwana baqala ukudlala ngezandi. Amanye amagama anokuvakala njengo "baba" okanye "utata". Iintsana ziyancuma xa zisiva ilizwi elonwabileyo Kwaye bayakhala xa besiva umntu onomsindo. Nangona usana lungayiqondi intsingiselo yamagama, unokuqonda izinto ezilula njengokucela: «Ndingubani? Mama! " Okanye mhlawumbi, "Iphi ikati?" kwaye ubonise apho.
Phakathi kweenyanga ezi-9 ukuya kwezi-12
Phakathi kweenyanga ezilithoba ukuya kwezilishumi elinesibini umntwana wakho uza kuqala ukuqonda amagama alula. Uyakwazi ukujonga kwaye akuqonde xa usithi "hayi" okanye "hayi loo nto." Ukuba umntu ubuza, "Uphi uMama," baya kukujonga ngokukhawuleza ekuphenduleni loo mbuzo. Umntwana uya kukhomba, ajonge, enze izandi okanye asebenzise umzimba wakhe ukuhambisa into ayifunayo. Umzekelo, ukuba ufuna ukuba umbambe, angaphakamisa iingalo zakhe enze ingxolo encinci njengophawu lokuba ufuna ukubanjwa. Ukuba ufuna ukudlala, angakunika into yokudlala ayiphetheyo.
Lixesha lokuba uqale ngo "Molo" kunye "Nisale kakuhle." Nokuba akathethi ngamagama, uya kuba nakho ukwenza intshukumo ngezandla zakhe ukubonisa umbuliso kunye nokuvalelisa. Kodwa khumbula ukuba umntwana ngamnye unesingqisho sakhe kwaye ukuba kule minyaka abakakwazi ukuqonda okanye ukuhambisa umbuliso kunye nokuvalelisa, awunakukhathazeka, basebancinci kakhulu.
Phakathi kweenyanga ezi-12 ukuya kwezi-15
Phakathi kweenyanga ezilishumi elinambini ukuya kwezilishumi elinesihlanu, abantwana baqala ukusebenzisa amagama, ke baya kuqala ukuthetha amagama "ngolwimi lwabo" ukunxibelelana nawe. Umzekelo, ungathetha izinto ezinje: "isidenge" ukuthi "ibhaluni", "ibhasi" ukucela amanzi, njalo njalo. Uninzi lweentsana lunokuthetha igama eli-1 ukuya kwele-3 kule minyaka kodwa liqonde ama-25 okanye nangaphezulu. Ukuba umcela ukuba akunike into yokudlala ayaziyo, uya kukunika. Ukuphucula intetho kule minyaka unokuthathela ingqalelo oku kulandelayo:
- Xela ezona zinto uzisebenzisa kakhulu kwaye unike umntwana ixesha lokuba akwazi ukuzithiya amagama
- Mbuze imibuzo malunga nezinto azibonayo yonke imihla (epakini, kumabali, njl. Njl.) Kwaye umnike ixesha lokuchaza izinto. Ukuba awuyichazanga igama, sukuyinika ukubaluleka kwaye uyiqambe ngegama ukuze uyazi ukuba yintoni
- Ncuma kwaye sikudumise ngalo lonke ixesha uthetha izinto ozibonayo
- Yongeza ulwazi kumagama owathethayo. Umzekelo, ukuba uthi "inja" kuba kukho inja ehamba, ungathetha into efana nale: "Ewe, inja entle kakhulu kwaye inkulu kakhulu, jonga indlela ejikelezisa ngayo umsila wayo!"
- Mamela yonke into ayithethayo kuwe nokuba ayivakali okanye kunzima ukuba uyiqonde
- Mbuze izinto zemihla ngemihla anokuthi azi impendulo ngazo.
- Mnike ukhetho ukuze akwazi ukukhetha: "Ngaba ufuna ubisi okanye ijusi?"
- Yakha izivakalisi malunga nento ethethwa ngumntwana wakho. Ukuba, umzekelo, ithi, "ibhola," ungatsho into enje, "Yibhola enkulu ebomvu."
- Yazisa ngomdlalo okomfuziselo ukuqala incoko kumdlalo.
Phakathi kweenyanga ezi-15 ukuya kwezi-18
Phakathi kweenyanga ezilishumi elinesihlanu neshumi elinesibhozo, umntwana wakho uya kuqala ukwenza izijekulo ezintsonkothileyo ukunxibelelana nawe kwaye uya kuba esakha isigama sakhe. Uyakwazi ukukubamba ngesandla, ahambe aye kwithala leencwadi, athi "ibali" akuxelele ukuba ufuna umfundele ibali.
Kule minyaka yobudala ukuba uthi izinto ezinje "Iphi impumlo" kwaye walatha empumlweni, uya kukwazi ukuzikhomba empumlweni xa umbuza umbuzo ofanayo. Kwaye emva koko ungenza okufanayo ngokulula ukwahlula amalungu omzimba afana neendlebe, iminwe, amehlo, umlomo ... njl.
Unokuvuselela umdla wakhe wokufuna ukwazi kunye nephulo lokufihla into yokudlala ngelixa edlala.. Emva koko mncede ayifumane aze onwabele ukuyifumana. Enye into yokuphucula ubuchule bokuthetha kukuchaza izinto ezinomdla kuye ngamagama alula. Ngale ndlela uya kuthathela ingqalelo kwaye uqale ukuba nesigama ngakumbi.