Sihlala sithetha ngoomama abangenamaqabane, abo bafazi banokwazi ukukhulisa usapho bebodwa, ngaphandle koncedo lomntu okanye ngoncedo lwabanye abantu abangabo utata wabantwana babo. Kodwa kukwakho nelinye icala lengqekembe elingaxelwa ngumntu wonke kwaye kufanelekile ukuba lingalityalwa. Sithetha ngabazali abangenamaqabane, amadoda nawo anako ukukhulisa abantwana bebodwa.
Ukukhulisa umntwana akuyona indlela ezele ziiroses. Kukho izaqhwithi ezinamaza amakhulu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunokubakho imozulu ezolileyo nenelanga, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kuphela. Ukuba umzali unzima ngokwaneleyo njengesibini, xa kusenziwa wedwa kusabiza iindleko eziphindwe kabini kunoko… Ubunzima bunyukela kwinqanaba elitsha.
Nangona kunjalo, baninzi abazali abanakho ukukhulisa ngempumelelo abantwana babo bebodwa. Kungenxa yokuba usalathisa i-kayak wedwa apho kukho indawo yenye ayithethi ukuba awungekhe ufunde ukuhamba kamnandi emanzini amabi wokuba ngumzali. Kodwa ukuba ufuna ingcebiso ukuze ukwazi ukuhambisa kakuhle ukuhamba kwakho, ungaphoswa le migca ilandelayo eya kukunceda ufumane ibhalansi enkulu.
Iingcebiso zokugcina engqondweni yabazali abangenamaqabane
Zikhathalele
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile ukuze ube ngumzali omnye olungileyo kukuzikhathalela. Ukuzinakekela ekukhuliseni abantwana kubalulekile. Ngelixa kuyinyani ukuba iimfuno zabantwana bakho zezona ziphambili, ikwanjalo neyakho. Kulula kuwe ukuhendelwa ukunikezela, ngakumbi ukuba awunalo ixesha elininzi, kodwa Kuya kufuneka ulungelelanise ixesha lakho lokuthatha ixesha elincinci ngokwakho, nokuba yimizuzu eli-10 yokunandipha ikofu oyithandayo.
Kuyimfuneko ukuba ulale ngokwaneleyo, utye ngokwaneleyo kwaye unikezele ngezinto ezingabalulekanga ebomini bakho kwaye uzithabathele nexesha elisemgangathweni. Zama ukubandakanya amaxesha omthambo nokuba uza kuhamba uhambo lokuya kwivenkile yokutya kunye nokuhamba kosana lwakho.
Hlaziya ubomi bakho
Xa ungutata (okanye umama) ubomi abusafani nakuqala. Yonke into iyatshintsha, kwaye itshintshe ibe ngcono. Kodwa kuya kufuneka ululungele olu tshintsho, kuba kuphela ngale ndlela onokuthi wamkele kwaye wonwabe, nokuba kunzima ngamanye amaxesha. Kubalulekile ukuba uwuxabise umsebenzi owenzayo njengomzali yonke imihla kwaye umzamo wakho uza kuba nomvuzo kwixesha elizayo.
Ukwenza oku, kubalulekile ukuba uphinde ufumanise kwaye uphinde uchaze ubomi bakho bosapho, iindima zakho kusapho lwakho kunye noxanduva onalo kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla. Awufuni ukulwa nekamva elingaqinisekanga, vumela isingqisho sobomi kunye nomzamo wakho wokukhokela indlela. Awufuni ukulindela iziganeko ngaphambi kokuba zenzeke kuba ziya kukubangela uxinzelelo kunye nokungonwabi.
Cela uncedo ukuba uyalufuna
Ukuba ufuna ukucela usapho okanye abahlobo uncedo amaxesha ngamaxesha, ungaziva ungaphantsi ukuba awukwazi. Abantu abangoomatshini esinokuthi sibenze nabo bonke abantu kwaye kuyakubakho iintsuku apho ungaziva unomoya omncinci okanye unamandla amancinci okwenza yonke into. Ezi ntsuku awuziva ubuthathaka, cela uncedo kubantu abathembekileyo okanye uqeshe iinkonzo zomgcini-mntwana ukuze anakekele abantwana bakho okwethutyana kwaye ke unokuzihlaziya kwakhona iibhetri ukuba yile nto uyifunayo ngelo xesha.
Ukucela uncedo akuhambelani nobuthathaka, kude nabo. Ukucela uncedo yindlela elula yokuzikhathalela kunye nokuqonda ukuba ngamanye amaxesha awukwazi ukwenza yonke into ngaxeshanye ngenxa yokuba amandla akho anokuwohloka. Kwakhona, ukuba ngenye imini uyagula okanye uzive ungaphilanga, uyakufuna eso sandla sokunceda ukuze ukwazi ukusisebenzisa.
Ukubeka phambili kwaye ungaziva ungalunganga ngayo
Ukuze uqhube kakuhle njengomzali, kuya kufuneka ubeke phambili eyona nto ibaluleke ngaphezu kokuncinci. Ngale ndlela kuphela onokuthi uququzelele usuku lwakho usuku ngokweemfuno zakho kunye nezosapho lwakho. Ukubeka phambili kubaluleke kakhulu kwimpilo yakho yeemvakalelo nakwimpilo-ntle yosapho lwakho. Kuya kubakho iintsuku apho ungenakujongana nayo yonke into, ungangabinalo ixesha lokuhlamba, ukucoca okanye ungabinakho ukuhambisa iprojekthi emsebenzini kuba omnye wabantwana bakho uye wagula kwaye kufuneka umkhathalele.
Kodwa uyazi ntoni? Ayenzeki loo nto. Umhlaba awuyi kuyeka ukujikeleza kuba awukwazi ukwenza ezo zinto zisalindelweyo kwaye uzilungiselele olunye usuku. Ubomi bumalunga nokufumana izisombululo kwiimeko ezinokubonakala zimnyama, kodwa zinokwenziwa.
Yakha ukuzithemba kwakho
Ukuze ube ngumzali olungileyo kufuneka uzithembe, kuba unokuba njalo. Kufuneka nje ukuba ube. Ukwenza oku, jonga abantwana bakho, jonga esipilini kwaye uzive ukwazi ukonwaba nosapho lwakho yonke imihla. Babubutyebi bakho kwaye nonke nenza elona qela libalaseleyo. Yakha ukuzithemba ngokwakho kunye nakwiyunithi yosapho lwakho.
Jongana neemeko ngesantya sakho, ungalibali isantya sabantwana bakho. Yiba nexesha olifunayo ukuze ukwazi ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho kwaye ube nebhongo ngayo yonke into onakho ukuyiphumeza.
Iimvakalelo ziphambili ekuqhubeleni phambili
Kuluntu ayiqondakali indlela amadoda anokuba neemvakalelo ngayo, kodwa ayazenza kwaye kufuneka aziqonde ukuze afunde kuzo kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, akwazi ukuziva. Abafazi bayakhala, kodwa amadoda ayakhala kwaye nawo, kufuneka.
Ukuba ngumzali kufuna iseti yezakhono eziphuculweyo ezicokisekileyo ngokuhamba kwexesha, kwaye iimvakalelo onazo malunga nazo zibaluleke kakhulu. Mhlawumbi uziva ukhathazekile, abanye benomsindo kwaye abanye benelunda ngawe nangabantwana bakho ... Kuyimfuneko ukuqonda zonke iimvakalelo ukuze ungabanjiswa zizo (ngakumbi xa unomsindo okanye ukhathazekile). Nje ukuba uqonde zonke iimvakalelo zakho uya kuba nakho ukufumana ezona ndlela zingcono kunye nezakhono zokuphucula imeko ephambi kwakho, nokuba yeyiphi na.
Kuya kufuneka ubeke phambili impilo yakho yeemvakalelo kunye neyabantwana bakho ukuphucula ubomi bakho bentsapho. Iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ziyinyani, musa ukuzikhanyela kuba ziya kukunceda uqonde ngcono indlela ekufuneka uyilandele.