Izinto ezichaphazela indlela yokuziphatha kwabantwana

Umntwana unokuziphatha ngandlela thile ngokuxhomekeke kwizinto ezahlukeneyo ezinokuba nefuthe kuye kubomi bakhe obufutshane. Kukho abantwana abanokuphosa umlinganiso okanye abanomsindo xa bengakhange bakwazi ukufumana into, kodwa Kukwakho nabanye abamkela izinto ezingalunganga. Kukho izinto ezinokuba nefuthe ekuziphatheni kwabantwana kwaye kunyanzelekile ukuba uzithathele ingqalelo ukuze uqonde ukuba kutheni beziphatha ngendlela enye kunenye.

Ilifa lemfuza

Ilifa lemfuza lidlala indima ebalulekileyo ekuziphatheni kwabantwana. Ungaqaphela ukuba ubushushu bomntwana wakho buyafana nobakho okanye beqabane lakho… kwaye oku kuqhelekile.  Ukuba ungumntu oneenkani, akufuneki umangaliswe xa umntwana wakho enomsindo. xa izinto zingahambi ngendlela afuna ngayo. Ukuba ungumntu okhutheleyo okanye onovalo, kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba umntwana wakho naye ... ungakhathazeki yile nto, qonda nje indlela aziphethe ngayo ngokujonga wena okanye iqabane lakho, uya kuqonda izinto ezininzi!

Ukuziphatha kwabazali

Ukuziphatha kwabazali kukwabaluleke kakhulu kuba kuyimpembelelo enkulu ekuziphatheni kwabantwana nakwimo yabo yokuziphatha ebomini. Ngale ndlela, Kufuneka ucinge ngaphambi kokwenza izinto Kwaye uyakhumbula ukuba loo mehlo amancinci akubukele uthe cwaka ... kwaye ufunda kuyo yonke into oyenzayo nayithethayo.

Nokuba unceda umntu okhulileyo ukuwela isitalato, ukukhwaza kwisitrato, okanye ungxola iqabane lakho okanye umntwana wakho, uya kujonga yonke into oyenzayo okanye oyithethayo. Abantwana bakho baya kufunda kuwe ukuba benze njani kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo Kuyimfuneko (okanye endaweni yoko kubalulekile) ukuba ucinge ngononophelo ngezenzo zakho nangamazwi akho.

Ukuzithemba kwabantwana kunye nokuzithemba kuya kuphenjelelwa ngokuthe ngqo zizenzo zabazali babo. Ukuba ungumntu osoloko ekhalaza ngayo yonke into, ungathandabuzi ukuba naye umntwana wakho uya kuba njalo. Ukuba uhlala usitya ukutya okanye usithi utyebile endaweni yokuzamkela njengokuba unjalo, kuya kufuneka ulumke kakhulu kuba abantwana bakho banokuba nefuthe kule nto uyithethayo kwaye okona kubi kakhulu kukuba iziphumo ziwela ngqo kubo (kwaye unengxaki yolunye uhlobo lwesifo). Kuyimfuneko ukuba abantwana bakho babone kuwe umzekelo wokuzithemba kunye nokujamelana nobomi.

Imidiya

Kwaye abona bantwana bancinci bahlala bevezwa isixa esikhulu semithombo yeendaba zonxibelelwano, intengiso eninzi kunye nemiyalezo engezantsi ethi kwiimeko ezininzi inokuba yingozi kuphuhliso lwabo. Abantwana abancinci njengeenyanga ezili-15 bayakwazi ukuphinda-phinda indlela abaziphethe ngayo kumabonwakude... ke kubalulekile ukuba ukhethe umxholo owubonayo kwiscreen ngononophelo olukhulu. Nangona imifanekiso inokubonakala imsulwa, ukuba umntwana wakho uyabona ukuba abalinganiswa ababini bayalwa, kunokwenzeka ukuba afunde ezi ndlela zokuziphatha, kwaye kuyafana nangamanyala.

Xa abantwana bebadala, kuyimfuneko kubo ukuba bakuqonde okushicilelwe kwimithombo yeendaba kwaye yintoni eyona njongo yento nganye. Amantombazana amaninzi anengxaki yokutya ngenxa yokubona ubuhle obudumileyo nobukhazikhazi ngalo lonke ixesha, ebona iimodeli ezincinci ezincinci ... Umabonakude ubenza bakholelwe ukuba ukuba ababahle abayi kuba nako ukuphumelela. Amakhwenkwe anokuqonda ngempazamo ukuba ukuba abanayo imali, umzimba osebenza kakuhle, imoto elungileyo, okanye izinto eziphathekayo, nabasetyhini abayi kuphumelela.

Kuya kufuneka ulumke kakhulu ukuba abantwana bathatha ntoni kwintengiso nakumajelo eendaba, Kuyimfuneko ukuba ukwazi ukukhetha kakuhle iinkqubo zikamabonwakude ukuze bona babone ukuba amaxabiso ahanjiswayo ekhaya ahambelana noluntu olulungeleleneyo. Ngale ndlela, kubalulekile ukubacacisela ukuba intengiso yenzelwe ukuthengisa kwaye ii-canon zobuhle zikude nenyani (nditsho nakwiimodeli eziphinda zenziwe kumabonwakude okanye zibonwe kwiimagazini).

Indawo esingqongileyo kunye nabahlobo

Enye yezona mpembelelo zinkulu ezikhoyo ebantwaneni kwaye eziphembelela kakhulu indlela abaziphethe ngayo kunye nendlela abacinga ngayo, yindawo esihlala kuyo kunye nabahlobo (okanye abo ufunda nabo). Ukusebenzisana ngokuthe ngqo nabanye kuya kwenza ukuba umntwana wakho aziphathe ngandlela thile, abantu banesidingo sokuziva bamkelekile kwiqela kwaye mhlawumbi ngelinge lokufumana abantwana ukuba babamkele banokuthatha isimilo esingafanelekanga ukukholisa ontanga okanye abahlobo babo.

Ukuze oku kungenzeki, kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bazive beyinxalenye yeqela: usapho lwabo. Ukuba banemilinganiselo elungileyo kwaye ukusukela ebuntwaneni bafundisiwe bethathela ingqalelo ukucinga okubaluleke ngakumbi, kwaye bafunde ukuzenzela izigqibo. A) Ewe ukuzithemba ngokwaneleyo kunye namandla angaphakathi Ukwamkela ukugxekwa kwabanye kwaye uthi hayi xa kukho into engamniki mdla, nokuba oko kuthetha ukufuduka kwiqela loontanga.

Kodwa njengokuba oogxa kunye nabahlobo banokuba nefuthe elibi, banokuba nempembelelo elungileyo, ke ayisiyiyo yonke into ekufuneka ibe mbi. Ngale ndlela, kubalulekile ukuba bafundise abantwana ukuze babenemilinganiselo xa bekhetha abahlobo babo, ukuze bangamkeli into engabenzi bazive bonwabile kwaye bayazi ukuba ayinamsebenzi ukuba abanabahlobo abaninzi , kuba ibalulekile kukuba bangabahlobo abanyanisekileyo.

Ngaba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho uziphatha ngendlela ethile kwaye uphenjelelwa yinto ethile? Ucinga ukuba yintoni enokuba nefuthe kwindlela abaziphethe ngayo?