UJesús Garrido ngumbhali wencwadi esandula kupapashwa ethi "I-Respectful Crianza". Ngubani olandela umsebenzi wokufikelela kulo gqirha wabantwana uyayiqonda indlela elula yokudlulisa ulwazi lwabo lwempilo yabantwana, nasemva kokufunda le ncwadi ndiyivezayo namhlanje, ndiyangqina ukuba injalo. Ngapha koko, ndandisele ndicinga ngayo xa ndifumana naluphi na ungeniso olupapashiweyo Kwibhlog yakhe kugqirha wabantwana kwi-Intanethi.
Ukusuka kolo papasho, endililandelayo ku-twitter, ndifunde izinto ezimbini: kwelinye icala Yonke imiba enxulumene nokukhulisa umntwana, ukondla okanye ukulala inokwaziswa kubazali ngendlela yendalo, ngaphandle kokubhenela kulwimi lobugcisa (nokuba uyingcali kwezonyango); kwaye kwelinye icala, xa ubhenela kwisakhono sokuthatha isigqibo esinabazali, kungcono ukuba ungabususi obu buchule, ubhenele kwiimfundiso okanye kwi-radicalism. Ngeminyaka eli-12 yokuba ngumama emva kwam, kwaye ukuba ndifunda kakuhle, kunganzima ukuba ndibonise ukuba loluphi ufundo olundincede kakhulu okanye ebelwanelisa, ndiyathanda ukudibanisa zonke izinto ezilungileyo endizifumanayo, kwaye ukwala uluhlu lweengcebiso ekunzima ukuzisebenzisa Ngoku ndiza kuchaza ukuba kutheni ndiyithanda le ncwadi.
"Umzali Ohloniphekileyo" Ihlelwe ngu-Oberón (kwiqela le-Anaya), kwaye inokuba sisikhokelo sokukhathalelwa kosana kwiminyaka emibini yokuqala yobomi, kodwa ikwayisampulu yengqiqo ejolise ekwenzeni oomama notata bazive bekhuselekile ngakumbi kwinqanaba eliza notshintsho oluninzi kuwo onke amanqanaba.
Kwaye ukuba kubalulekile ukwenza ngokukhuselekileyo ngokubakhathalela abasesichengeni, Yinto encinci ukumelana nengcinezelo yokusingqongileyo, kuba njengoko uGarrido eqinisekisa “Owona mdlalo uxhaphakileyo emhlabeni kukucacisela abanye ngendlela yokukhulisa abantwana; Sonke siyayazi ukuba masenze njani xa ingengabo ababandakanyekayo ”. Andikakuxeleli okwangoku, kodwa kulwazi lobuchwephesha kunye nokukhululeka kokuhambisa, umbhali udibanisa uburharha esidinga kakhulu ukuziqonda thina nokusingqongileyo.
Kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, ngexesha lentetho endiyenzileyo, umama uthethe ngendlela ezinye iintsapho ezibonakala zigqibeke ngayo xa kuthelekiswa nezakhe; kodwa licebo elingalunganga, kulungile Kukungafezeki kwethu okusinceda sakhe usapho olufezekileyo, okoko nje sihamba sinomdla wabantwana kunye neqela losapho ngokwalo. Kwaye ndiyakuxelela oku kuba bendikuthanda kakhulu ukubona olu luvo lubonakalisiwe encwadini.
Umbono wokuba ngumzali ubonwe ukusuka kubhalansi.
Ibhalansi enzima ukuyifumana kolunye upapasho: ngandlela thile kunye nophuhliso lwetekhnoloji kunye nokuphazamiseka kwento esiyaziyo njengewebhu 2.0, baye bakhathazeka. Uza kubona, Njengoko uYesu echazayo, uninzi lweentsapho zilala kunye, okanye ubuncinci iintsana zabo zilale ezingalweni zabantu abadala, kodwa ayisiyonyani kangako ukuba bonke abantwana baphela belele bodwa kubudala obunye okanye obunye, kutheni ke kukho ii-radicalism? Omnye umba ophikisanayo kukuncancisa, uGarrido ngumkhuseli oqinileyo, uhlala eqonda ukuba ngamanye amaxesha 'iimeko ziyalela' kwaye kukho abanye oomama abaphumeleleyo ekumiseni ukuncancisa.
Ukusuka kubhalansi, kunye nengqondo eqhelekileyo, kuba ngowuphi umzali ofuna ukunikwa isikhokelo esiqinileyo njengebhunga lomzali elinokuthi lingahambelani neemfuno kunye nesingqisho seentsapho zabo?
Umzali ohloniphekileyo yindlela yokuqonda impilo yomntwana, esekwe kwiiyantlukwano kunye nembeko kubo. J. Garrido
Ngaba umntwana wakho uyibhayiloji okanye irobhothi?
Kule ncwadi uyakufumanisa ukuba usapho lwakho alufezekanga kodwa bonwabile (kwaye oku, kunjalo, kubhetele kakhulu kunokuba "ugqibelele ungonwabi"); kunye neengcebiso zokuqonda okanye ukondla usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa. Ukuncancisa ibele kuphela, ukutshintsha iipateni zokulala, amanqanaba abalulekileyo kuphuhliso lweentsana ukusuka kwi-0 ukuya kwi-24 yeminyaka ubudala. Uyakuyiqonda yonke inkqubo yokukhula kunye nobudlelwane bosapho kumbono wenoveli esekwe kwizembe ezintathu: Ukutya, ukulala nokuPhila kunye.a, ngokubaluleka kokuba nganye nganye inayo.
Kwaye enye into eyatsala umdla wam, kwaye ndifuna ukukuxelela, ngumbono uGarrido awudlulisela kuthi: ngamanye amaxesha ingcebiso efunyanwa ngabazali ayiqwalaseli ubunyani beentsana, ezitshintshayo nezineengqisho ezahlukeneyo kubantu abadala, abafuna ukuhlonitshwa. Ngenxa yoko, aba bancinci babonwa ngokungathi ziirobhothi, kwaye azikho: Unyana okanye intombi yakho akufuneki ingene kwizibalo, ihlangabezane nolindelo lwakho okanye ihlangabezane nemigangatho ... ngumntwana nje, apho unokufunda okuninzi, kodwa ngaphezulu kwako konke oya kuthi uhlengahlengise uninzi lwezenzo zakho zemihla ngemihla.
Umbhali wenza abantwana abanembeko, kwaye uvumela abazali bathathe izintambo zokuba ngumzali, kuba kuhlala kukho ukhetho, kodwa ngaphezulu kwako konke kuba usana ngalunye nomntwana ngamnye bahlukile, kwaye baneendlela zabo zokuziqhelanisa. Ukukhulula oomama nootata 'kuloyiko', phantse obungenakuphepheka (ngakumbi umntwana wokuqala) yenye yeenjongo eziye zafezekiswa ngokufunda "Ukuba ngumzali oHloniphekileyo".
Ndiyithandile le ncwadi, kwaye ndikholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba izakuzisa okukhulu. Uya kuyifumana kwivenkile yakho yesiqhelo, okanye kwiAmazon.