La Ukufikisa linqanaba elinzima, Iinguqu ezibalulekileyo zomzimba nezengqondo ezichaphazela ukuzithemba kwamakhwenkwe namantombazana. Linyathelo elivela ekubeni ngumntwana ukuya kwishumi elivisayo ngaphambi kokuba ube mdala. Ukusuka ekubeni liziko lobomi bakhe abazali bakhe kunye nosapho lwakhe ukuba ngabahlobo bakhe. Kubalulekile ukubaAbazali be bayayazi indlela yokunceda umntwana okwishumi elivisayo ngokuzithemba okuphantsi ukukuxhasa ngeli xesha linzima lophuhliso.
Ungamnceda njani umntwana okwishumi elivisayo onokuzithemba okuphantsi
Abazali ngokungazi, sinokomeleza okanye sinciphise ukuzithemba kwabantwana bethu. Ukufunda ukuphucula ukuzithemba kusezandleni zethu. Sishiya ingcebiso esebenzayo kulutsha olufikisayo ngokuzithemba okuphantsi.
Unxibelelwano oluhle
Ukufikisa kukutshintsha kobudlelwane kunye nabazali. Kunokubakho ukuphambuka ukuba unxibelelwano olunyanisekileyo nolufanayo. Kuya kufuneka simamele ulutsha ngaphandle komgwebo, ngengqondo evulekileyo kwaye sibe nomonde wokubaxelela xa sele belungile. Menze azi ukuba uyakufuna xa efuna. Iya kuba kuphela kwendlela yokuba umntwana wakho akuthembe ukuze akuxelele ngeengxaki zakhe kwaye ungamnceda.
Ukuba uyamgweba, umgxeke kwaye uhlale umbeka ityala ngokungakuxeleli izinto aziyi kuyiphucula imeko. Ekuphela kwento oya kuyiphumeza kukuba umgama mkhulu.
Imida elungileyo
Okwangoku bayakufuna ukuxoxa ngemida kunye nemithetho ebebenayo yokwenza ibanzi. Kuya kufuneka uthethathethane ngokwenkwenkwe nganye / a, ubuntu bakhe, uxanduva ... imida ekufuneka ihlangatyeziwe.
Nabaselula nabo bafuna imigaqo yokuziva ukhuselekile kwaye benoxanduva, nangona baya kuhlala bezama ukubaphula. Imida ibaluleke kakhulu ekuzithembeni okuhle. Kubalulekile ukuba bobabini abazali bavumelane ngemithetho emayilandelwe ekhaya ukuze kungabikho zinto zingangqinelaniyo.
Mdumiseni
Sihlala sigxila kwinto abayenzayo engalunganga. Ukuba bafumana i-10 ekuzobeni kunye ne-4 kwimathematika, siya kugxila kwindlela abaqhuba kakubi ngayo kwizibalo. Sifanele sizidumise izinto abazenza kakuhle, njengoko kunjalo kule mizobo inokuba njalo. Bhiyozela umzamo wabo kunye nokuzinikezela, nokuba iziphumo bezingakhange zilindelwe. Kuya kufuneka benyaniseke kwaye badumise ngokwenyani, ngaphandle kokugqwesa.
Endaweni yokugxila kokubi, baxhase ukuze bangafundi umbono ongalunganga wokusilela. Ukuba bahlala bebaxelela ukuba abaxabisekanga okanye benza yonke into engalunganga, bayakuphela bayikholelwa.
Khuthaza uthando lwakho
Bonke abantwana abakwishumi elivisayo banento abanomdla ngayo kwaye balungile kuyo. Kumzekelo ongentla ingangumzobo. Ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho sinako ukukhuthaza ukuba wenze imisebenzi enxulumene nokuthanda kwakho. Uya kuziva unamandla, wonwabile, kwaye wamkelekile. Ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokukhuseleka kuya kukhula, kunye nokuzithemba kwakho.
Mamela uluvo lwabo
Ulutsha lunento eninzi oluthethayo kwaye ludinga ukuziva lubandakanyiwe kwizigqibo zosapho. Menze azive ngathi isigqibo sakhe sibalulekile kwaye siza kuthathelwa ingqalelo. Uya kuziva uhlonitshwa kwaye uphathwa njengomntu omdala.
Xhasa izinto abazithandayo
Xhasa izinto abazonwabisa ngazo nokuba baphambene kangakanani, ukuba nje ayiphazamisi uxanduva lwabo. Abafikisayo bafuna isazisi sabo kwaye baphonononge iinkalo zayo ukuze bakhule njengomntu. Ukuba baziva bexhaswa nguwe kubaluleke kakhulu kubo. Kufuneka bazive bexabisekile, ungalibali ukuba basandula ukuba ngabantwana nokuba ababonakali ngathi.
Chitha ixesha kunye nabo
Nangona iziko labo lingasengabazali babo, ukuba ayingabo abahlobo babo, abakwishumi elivisayo nabo kufuneka bachithe ixesha elifanelekileyo kunye nabazali babo. Ukwenza into kunye oyithandayo kunokuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho, ukuphucula unxibelelwano, kwaye ekugqibeleni kuphucule ukuzithemba kwakho. Ixesha, nokuba lincinci, kufuneka libe semgangathweni.
Khuthaza umthambo
Ukuzilolonga kusinceda sikhulule i-endorphins kunye neeserotonins ezisinceda kwimpilo yethu yeemvakalelo. Inceda ukuphucula ukuzithemba, ngakumbi kwimidlalo yamaqela, ukongeza ekuphuculeni ubudlelwane babo kwezentlalo.
Kuba khumbula… ukuzithemba okuhle sisiseko sempilo yakho ngokweemvakalelo.
Andazi ukuba ndingajongana njani noku kuba ndibonisile ukuba yonke into ikhona inkcukacha kukuba unyana wam ovela kwisikolo samabanga aphantsi ukhathazwe kukuxhatshazwa. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba yonke into iqala apho, njengomama, bendihlala ndimtyumza kodwa sele engena kwesi sifo kwaye uyayazi indlela yokulungiselela umhlaba kwaye ndingathanda ukundinceda ngayo yonke intliziyo yam