Siyavuma ukuba xa umntu ekhala ayisiyondlela ekholisayo ulwamkelo lwethu lwezandi. Ngokukodwa xa umntwana esenza, ukusukela ukukhutshwa kwayo kubukhali ngakumbi kwaye iyenza icaphuke ngakumbi ezindlebeni zethu. Siyazi ukuba iintsana zinokusenza esi sandi njengendlela yokunxibelelana engekho zingqondweni, kodwa abantwana abadadlana kancinane kufuneka baqonde ukuba asiyondlela iphilileyo yokunxibelelana. Kwi Madres Hoy Sicebisa ezinye iindlela zobugcisa ezinokukunceda ubagcina njani abantwana ekungxoliseni.
Indlela abantwana abaninzi abanxibelelana ngayo nabangxola ngayo isenokuba njalo indlela eqhelekileyo yokuziveza. Siyazi ukuba ayisiyondlela esempilweni leyo kuye nakwabo bamngqongileyo. Kuya kufuneka uhlalutye izizathu kwaye ufumanise ukuba kungenxa yendlela yabo yokutsala umdla okanye bayenza ngokulinganisa.
Izizathu zokuba umntwana akhwaze
Zininzi izizathu eziqhubela umntwana ukuba akhwaze. Ekuqaleni kunokubonakala ngathi indlela yendalo yokuzibonakalisa, ngakumbi xa bekwiminyaka eqondakalayo umntwana oqala ukukhupha izandi kunye ukuya kuthi ga kwiminyaka emi-3. Njengomgaqo ngokubanzi, ihlala itsalela ingqalelo, ukukhutshwa kwayo kwezandi ngendlela ephezulu kwenza ukuba umntwana ahlawule inzala ngakumbi kwaye inokuba yinto yesiqhelo.
Inkcazo yeemvakalelo xa zingathandeki ikwayindlela yokungena abantwana bayikhuphela njani ngaphandle. Kwenzeka xa kukho ukuphazamiseka, umsindo, xa kukho into ebaxinzelela ... kwaye oko kwenza Uvakala ekhwaza. Kuyafana nakubantu abadala, ukuba abazali bayaphindaphinda ngomzekelo, umntwana unakho Ndiyenza ngokulinganisa. Ukuba abantwana bahlala beyijonga le ndlela yokunxibelelana ekhaya bayakukholelwa ukuba yeyona ndlela yokunxibelelana.
Enye indlela ebaluleke ngakumbi kukuba umntwana banamandla asikelwe umda ekunxibelelaneni, kwaye ubonise oko ngokuthetha ngetoni ephezulu okanye ukukhwaza. Kwenzeka into efanayo xa benokuba nengxaki yokuva kwaye ngokungamameli wena uphakamisa ilizwi lakho.
Yintoni enokwenziwa ukunqanda abantwana ukuba bangangxoli?
Khangela izizathu zoku kutheni unyana wakho ekhwazaNjengoko sele sijongile, yindlela yokulawula iimvakalelo zakho: xa uthanda into, uyadana okanye ube nomsindo. Jonga ukuba kukuziphatha na umntwana ujongwa yonke imihla, umbuzo kukwenza ukugxeka. Vavanya ukuba kuyinxalenye yesiqhelo ekhaya, ukuba abazali baphakamisa ilizwi labo ngokwendalo, okanye ukuba abantwana bakowenu bathetha kakhulu.
Akulunganga ukuxabana nokubuyisela kubantwana ngokukhala. Akulunganga ukukhwaza kwaye sinokujonga ezinye iindlela zokubonisa. Ukuba umntwana wenze into engalunganga, mqondise ngamazwi aqinileyo, kodwa ndingangxoli. Ukuba umntwana uphendula ngokungxola, sukuyibamba, ungaphendula ngethoni ethambileyo kwaye uyilungise ngokutsho oko ayibizwa.
Abantwana abancinci kakhulu xa beziintsanaBanyusa amazwi abo bakhwaza ukuveza iimvakalelo ezininziNditsho nabanye ukuba bonwabe kukuva ukuba inamandla amakhulu. Singayilungisa le ndlela yokuziphatha ngomonde ngokuthetha ngezwi elinothando nangelizwi eliphantsi, Kuya kufuneka ubenze bakumamele besithi ungangxoli. Ungamelana naloo mzuzu ngokubaphazamisa ngento ukuze balibale into abayenzayo.
Ityala eliqhelekileyo lixa Banomsindo, bayangxola, kwaye bayaphosa. Akufuneki sinikezele kwiminqweno yakhe kwaye ukuba uqala ukukhwaza, yitsho ukuba akazukufumana nto. Ukuba siyazonwabisa kolu hlobo lokuziphatha sinamathuba onke okuba iyaziphindaphinda, iphindaphindwe.
Siyazi ukuba kunzima ukuqhuba uninzi lwale mizekelo, kodwa ngexesha kunye nomonde siyabona ukuba ekuhambeni kwexesha kuya kubakho iziphumo ezilungileyo. Kubalulekile masiqhubeke umzekelo olawulayo, imeko eyonwabisayo kwaye uxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo ziphantsi kolawulo.