Intlupheko inokuba sisihloko esinzima esinokubangelwa zizizathu ezahlukeneyo ekunzima ukuziqonda kubantwana abancinci. Ngaphandle kweengxaki ezinxulumene nendlala kunye nokunqongophala kokuphila okunokuba nzima, kubalulekile ukuthetha nabantwana ngentlupheko. Ukuba ungutata okanye umama kwaye uzikhathaza ngokubeka ipleyiti eshushu yokutya etafileni yonke imihla okanye indawo yokulala… kunokuba nzima ngakumbi ukuqhubeka nale ncoko.
Kodwa ngaphandle kwengcaciso ecacileyo, abantwana banokungaqondi ukuba kutheni abanye abantwana betya simahla esikolweni, kutheni abanye benokuninzi kwaye abanye bengenanto, okanye kutheni kukho abantu abangenamakhaya abafuna imali okanye ukutya. Abantwana banokwenza iingcinga ezingachanekanga malunga nabantu abahlala kumgangatho wentlupheko.
Kutheni kufuneka uthethe ngentlupheko
Ngexesha elithile, umntwana wakho uya kuqaphela ukuba abanye abantu abanayo imali eninzi njengabanye, kwaye unokuba nemibuzo malunga nayo. Uninzi lwabo bantwana banabazali abasebenzayo, kodwa umvuzo ophantsi kunye nomsebenzi ongazinzanga ubashiya bephila ngaphantsi komda wentlupheko. Abanye abantwana ofunda nabo eklasini banokuba neengxaki zokutya okanye ukungabi namakhaya.
Mhlawumbi ukhe wamxelela umntwana wakho ukuba atye konke ukutya kuba kukho abantwana abahluphekileyo abangenanto bangayityayo, kodwa loo nto emntwaneni wakho ayithathwa njengokuqonda kwakhe kobuntwana. Baninzi abantu abasokolayo ubuhlwempu kufutshane namakhaya abo. Ukuthetha ngeemeko zobomi bokwenyani kwindawo ohlala kuyo kunokukunceda uqonde ngcono ukuba yintoni intlupheko.
Abantwana abahlala kwintlupheko banokufumana iziphumo zobomi bonke. Intlupheko ichaphazela iintsapho ngezi ndlela zilandelayo:
- Iingxaki zemfundo. Banengxaki yokufunda okanye yokuqhubeka nemfundo.
- Iingxaki zokuziphatha Intlupheko ichaphazela ukukhula komntwana ngokwasekuhlaleni nangokweemvakalelo. Abantwana abakhula kwintlupheko banokuba neengxaki zokuziphatha ngakumbi.
- Iingxaki zempilo yomzimba. Intlupheko yabantwana inxulunyaniswa namazinga aphezulu okutyeba kakhulu, ukukhula kolwimi okungalunganga, okanye ukwanda kwengozi yokwenzakala.
- Iingxaki zempilo yengqondo. Uxinzelelo olunetyhefu olunxulunyaniswa nentlupheko lonyusa umngcipheko wokuphazamiseka kwengqondo.
- Ukuncitshiswa kwempilo-ntle ngokubanzi. Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba indlala sesona sisongelo kwimpilo-ntle yabantwana kwaye inokuba neziphumo zobomi.
Ukuthetha ngentlupheko nabantwana inokuba lithuba lokufundisa umntwana wakho, kunye nexesha lokukhuthaza imfesane kwabanye. Xa umntwana wakho eqonda ngakumbi malunga nokuba kutheni abanye abantu bephila ngokwahlukileyo, Unokuziva uvelwano ngakumbi kubantu abahlala kwintlupheko.
Khangela amathuba okuxoxa ngesihloko
Endaweni yokuzisa ubuhlwempu ngaphandle kwendawo, khangela amathuba okuzisa ngendalo. Kulapho ungathetha ngayo ngakumbi. Umzekelo, xa kukho ukutya esikolweni, thetha nomntwana wakho malunga nokuba kutheni enikela ngeemveliso. OKANYE Xa kukho iphulo lokuqhuba izipho ngeholide, chaza ukuba ezinye iintsapho zingenayo imali eyoneleyo yokuthenga izipho.
Imibuzo enzima
Kuya kufuneka uyilungiselele imibuzo enzima. Ngexesha elithile, umntwana wakho uya kuqaphela ukuba oontanga bakhe okanye abantu basekuhlaleni bahlala kwintlupheko. Kuya kufuneka uyilungele imibuzo enje:
- Kutheni uJuan enxiba iimpahla ezifanayo yonke imihla esikolweni?
- Kutheni loo mntu e-odola ukutya ngaphandle kwevenkile enkulu?
- Kutheni kukho abantu abafuna imali ezitalatweni?
- Kutheni le nto uPedro esithi bamnika ukutya simahla?
Xa umntwana wakho ebuza imibuzo, iya kuba luphawu lokuba bakulungele ukufumana olu hlobo lolwazi, ke kuya kufuneka ubanike iimpendulo ezifanelekileyo kubudala babo.
Iinkcazo ezilula kubantwana bezikolo zamabanga aphantsi
Abantwana abaqondi malunga nemali okanye uqoqosho. Intengiso malunga nendlala yomntwana inokuphakamisa imibuzo emsulwa enje, "Kutheni abazali bakho bengayi kwivenkile yokuthenga bakuthengele ukutya okuninzi?"
Phakathi kweminyaka emi-5 ukuya kweli-8, abantwana bakulungele ukufunda iinkcazo ezilula malunga nentlupheko. Ungatsho into enje, "Abanye abantu abanakho ukufumana imali eyoneleyo yokuthenga ukutya okanye indlu yokuhlala." Kule minyaka yobudala, awudingi ukunika inkcazo ebanzi malunga nezinto ezinokuthintela umntu ekufumaneni umvuzo wokuphila. Incoko malunga nokukhubazeka, ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi, kunye noqoqosho oluhlwempuzekileyo kunokulinda kude kube kwinqanaba lokufikisa.
Iinkcazo kwii-preadolescents nakwishumi elivisayo
AmaTweens kunye nolutsha banakho ukuqala ukuqonda ezinye zezizathu zokuba kutheni ubuhlwempu bukhona. Ungathetha ngezinto ezinegalelo kwintlupheko, ezinje:
- Umsantsa phakathi kwabazizityebi nabangamahlwempu
- Ukunqongophala kwemisebenzi ehlawula umvuzo ofanelekileyo
- Ukungabikho kwemfundo
- Ukhathalelo lwempilo oluphezulu kunye neendleko zokukhathalela abantwana
- Ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi kunye nokugula ngengqondo
- Ukukhubazeka
- Uqhawulo-mtshato
- Intlupheko kwilizwe jikelele
Ukongeza ekuthetheni ngezizathu zobuhlwempu, kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngeziphumo zazo. Kuya kufuneka unike inkcazo elula yeenkonzo zikarhulumente kunye nezixhobo ezimiselwe ukunceda abantu, kodwa Thetha nangendlela ekunokuba nzima ngayo ukuba abantu baphume kwintlupheko.
Nika ingqalelo imiyalezo oyithumelayo
Izinto ozenzayo, njengezinto ongazenziyo, thumela imiyalezo kumntwana wakho malunga nabantu abaphila kwintlupheko. Umzekelo, ukuba uhamba ngaphaya komngqibi ungamjonganga ngamehlo, umntwana wakho unokucinga ukuba abantu abangenamakhaya bangaphantsi kwakho. ke kubalulekile ukuba uchaze ukuba kutheni unganiki mali kubantu ongabaziyo esitratweni.
Ungathetha into efana nale: “Andibaniki bantu imali kuba andiqinisekanga ukuba bazakuyisebenzisa njani. Kodwa ndingabathengela ukutya xa ndibabona ukuba bakudinga nyani. " Okanye, chaza ukuba unikela ngemali kwiinkqubo ezinceda abo bangenamakhaya ukuba batye kunye nendawo yokuhlala. Kukwabalulekile ukunqanda ukuthumela umyalezo wokuba ukusebenza nzima kuhlala kuthintela indlala. Ukuba uthetha izinto ezinje, "Ndisebenza nzima ukuze sihlale kwindlu entle," umntwana wakho unokucinga ukuba abantu abahlala kwintlupheko ngabantu abangamavila abangafuni kusebenza.