Ungathetha njani ngesondo nolutsha lwakho

Ngamanye amaxesha Kubazali abaninzi, akukho lula ukuthetha nabantwana babo ngesondo, ngakumbi xa befikelela kwinqanaba lokufikisa. Okwangoku, kubonakala ngathi yonke into inzima ngakumbi kwaye ukuthetha ngezesondo kufana nokubakhuthaza ukuba babe nazo, into eyoyikwa ngabazali.

Kodwa enyanisweni, kufuneka boyike ukuba abathethi malunga nabo, kuba baya kuswela imfundo eyimfuneko yesondo ukuze bakwazi ukuba neentlobano zesini esempilweni xa ixesha lifikile.

Abazali bafanele bathintele abantwana babo ekufundeni izinto ezimalunga nezesondo kwi-Intanethi okanye kwinto abayivayo kumabonwakude okanye kwiimuvi ezingamanyala abanokuthi bazibukele ngobuqhophololo. Ngokwenyani, abakwishumi elivisayo bafuna imfundo elungileyo yesini ukuze bakhule ngokufanelekileyo. Ngale ndlela, kubalulekile ukuba abazali bathethe ngeentlobano zesini nabantwana babo abakwishumi elivisayo, nje ukuba ithuba livele.

Ukuba awazi ukuba ungathetha njani ngesondo nabantwana bakho abakwishumi elivisayo okanye abantwana abafikisayo, apha ngezantsi siza kuchaza isikhokelo esincinci ukuze uthathe inyathelo ngaphandle kokuziva ukhuselekile kumagama akho. Khumbula ukuba abantwana bakho kufuneka bajonge ukuzithemba kumazwi owathethayo kubo.

Ukususela kwiminyaka esi-8 ukuya kweli-12 ubudala

Iminyaka ekhokelela ekufikiseni inokuziva ngathi 'izolile ngaphambi kwesiphango'. Abantwana banokuqalisa ukuziva benentloni malunga nemibuzo enxulumene nokwabelana ngesondo. Banokuba nomdla kakhulu ngesondo kwaye bakubuze ngokungafihlisi, oku kuyinzuzo kuwe. Kodwa nangayiphi na indlela, ingqondo yakho yangaphambi kokufikisa isendleleni kwaye bafuna ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka kwakho kunangaphambili.

Phendula imibuzo yabo

Ukuba umntwana wakho ukubuza ngesondo, kuya kufuneka uphendule ngokunyanisekileyo nangokuvumelana nokuqonda kwabo. Uninzi lwabantwana lukhulisa ukuqonda kweyona mishini yokwabelana ngesondo phakathi kweminyaka eyi-8 kunye ne-9. Lixesha lokuba ukuba unolwazi olungelulo luyalungiswa. Ungabuza umntwana wakho ukuba ufuna ukwazi ngakumbi ngesondo xa ebuzwa okanye Qinisekisa ukuba uphendule umbuzo wakhe ngendlela yokuba uwuqonde ngokuchanekileyo.

Thatha ingqalelo usuku nosuku

Ungayisebenzisa usuku nosuku ukuthetha ngesondo, njengento ebonakalayo kumajelo eendaba. Ungathetha ngendima yesini kumajelo eendaba, kunye nokubaluleka kokwahlulahlula isimilo sentlalo kwinyani. Kufuneka ubalungiselele abantwana bakho ukufikisa.

Ukufunda ngesondo luxanduva lwakho

Sukuvumela ootitshala besikolo babe noxanduva lokufundisa abantwana bakho ngesondo, kuba luxanduva lwakho olo. Ukufikisa kuhlala kuqala phakathi kweminyaka eyi-8 ukuya kwi-13 kumantombazana kunye naphakathi kwe-9 ne-15 kubafana. Ukufikisa kwasekuqaleni kuya kusiba yinto exhaphakileyo ke ngoko kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bakho bazi utshintsho lomzimba, lweemvakalelo kunye nehomoni abaya kuyifumana, kunye nezo zesini esahlukileyo kumava abo. Kuya kufuneka uyazi le nto ngaphambi kokuba abahlobo bakhe baqale ukuyifumana.

Iziseko zokwabelana ngesondo

Xa uthetha ngokufikisa kungafuneka uthethe ngezinto ezisisiseko zokulala okanye ukwabelana ngesondo, Kodwa ngaphandle kokuba umntwana wakho unemibuzo ethile, unokukhetha ukugcina ezi ntlobo zeencoko zabakwishumi elivisayo, kuba ngoku kusekutsha kakhulu ukuba baqonde oku.

Unokuba neencoko ezahlukileyo malunga nokufikisa kunye nokwabelana ngesondo endaweni yokuba "uthethe kakhulu," enokuthi ihlazise kwaye igxothe umntwana wakho kude kuwe, ucinga ukuba le uyithethayo ayisebenzi. Kungcono ukunika idosi ezimbalwa zolwazi ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo.

Iimvakalelo zesondo

Kuyimfuneko ukuba uthethe malunga nokuqheleka kweemvakalelo zesondo, ukuphulula amaphambili (ngasese) kwaye uvumele umntwana wakho ukuba abe nemfihlo ngakumbi ebusheni bakhe. Musa ukubajongela phantsi abantwana bakho ukuba bayathandana ngenxa yokuzithemba kwabo okanye umzimba wakhe ubuthathaka, ufuna inkxaso yakho ngawo onke amaxesha. Kodwa kuya kufuneka ubeke imigaqo ethile kunye nemigaqo malunga nokuthandana ukuba ufuna ukuqala ukuthandana.

Lumkisa malunga nemifanekiso engamanyala

Umndilili weminyaka umntwana eqala ukubukela iphonografi yiminyaka eli-10 ubudala. Kuyo yonke indawo kwaye akukho ngqiqweni ukucinga ukuba umntwana wakho akazukuyibona. Kuya kufuneka ube kwesi sihloko ngaphambi kokuba bakhubeke kuso. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bajonge iifoto okanye iividiyo zabantu ababelana ngesondo Kwaye xa bebancinci, bayenza ngenxa yokufuna ukwazi kuba abanayo imfundo echanekileyo yesondo. Kodwa iphonografi ayenzelwanga abantwana kwaye abakulungelanga ukubona olu hlobo lwemifanekiso kwaye, inokudala ubugqwetha bokwenyani, ubudlelwane bothando okanye indima yendoda okanye yomfazi kubudlelwane bezesondo.

Ihlala ifumaneka

Vumela umntwana wakho abone ukuba uya kuhlala ufumaneka kuyo nayiphi na imibuzo enokuvela, Nokuba kukufikisa, isini, ukwabelana ngesondo, okanye nantoni na oyibonayo kwi-intanethi okanye kumabonwakude, kwanezinto onokuziva eklasini koontanga bakho.

Ukusukela kwiminyaka ye-13 nangexesha lokufikisa

Kule minyaka, amakhwenkwe namantombazana aqala ukungena kwinqanaba lokufikisa kwaye azi ukuba yintoni isini. Kodwa kusekuninzi ekufuneka bekufundile ukuzikhusela kwizifo ezidluliselwa ngeentlobano zesini, ukukhulelwa kolutsha, ukuphepha ukudlwengulwa, ubudlelwane obunobungozi, ukuxhatshazwa kunye neengozi ezininzi kwabo basengozini kweli xesha ukuba abanayo imfundo elungileyo ngesondo. Kuya kufuneka uthethe nabo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo okusempilweni kwaye kungcono ukuba ulinde kwaye ukhule, ukuba isini asichazi iqabane kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi.

Thetha nomntwana wakho ngokubaluleka kokuvumelana, ukukhuselwa kwizifo, ukubaluleka kokusebenzisa iikhondom ukunqanda oku, kunye nokukhulelwa okungafunekiyo. Amantombazana kuya kufuneka aye kugqirha wababhinqileyo ukuba bayabelana ngesondo ngaphambi kweminyaka eyi-18.

Kuyimfuneko ukuba uthethe ngokuphepha ukubukela iphonografi, ukuthetha ngokuthumela imiyalezo kunye nezinye iingozi. Sukuhlola zonke iintshukumo zomntwana wakho kwi-Intanethi, kodwa kuya kufuneka uthethe malunga nemithetho ukuze ube nokukhuseleka okuhle kwiselfowuni kwaye umnike imfundo elungileyo ekusebenziseni itekhnoloji kunye nenethiwekhi yoluntu. Ukuba umntwana wakho uneqabane, kuya kufuneka uthethe malunga nokwabelana ngesondo kunye nezinto zokucwangcisa ewe okanye ewe.