Ixesha lokufikisa lixesha elinzima apho abantwana besiba kwinqanaba lokufikisa kwindlela yabo yokuba ngabantu abancinci. Olu tshintsho alukho lula kwaye zininzi iinguqu kwinqanaba lomzimba kunye neemvakalelo. Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bazilungiselele kweli nqanaba ukunceda abantwana babo kwaye ke babathintele ekubandakanyeni isimilo esiyingozi.
Okwangoku, abazali banokuba namaxhala amaninzi, ngakumbi xa ulutsha lwabo luhleli kunye nabahlobo babo kwaye bechitha iiyure kude nekhaya. Ukuthembana nonxibelelwano kweli nqanaba kubalulekile ukuthintela ulutsha ekubandakanyeni kwiindlela zokuziphatha eziyingozi obeka ingqibelelo yabo ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo.
Kutheni banokuba nokuziphatha okuyingozi
Nawuphi na umsebenzi unokubangela ukungaqiniseki, ukungathembani, ukudana, ukuthandabuza, ukukrokrela okanye iingxaki kusapho kuba abafikisayo banokuziphatha okuyingozi kakhulu.
Ngokwesiqhelo, xa kusenzeka ngenxa yokungafiki kwinqanaba lokufikisa, Ukungabinamava kwabo ebomini kunye nakwiingxaki abanokuba nazo kwaye abangabelani nabazali babo ngenxa yeengxaki zonxibelelwano nabo. Nokuba esoyika ukugwetywa ngabanye.
Uxinzelelo kwezentlalo lunokudlala indima ekuziphatheni okungalunganga kulutsha. Ngamanye amaxesha, kuba befuna ukwamkeleka kwabanye, bayazamkela isimilo esiyingozi ngenxa yokuba bezivumela ukuba bathathwe ngoxinzelelo lwentlalo oluvela kubahlobo. Ngale ndlela, Kubalulekile ukuba usebenze ebantwaneni ukususela ebutsheni, imida, ukwazi ukuba hayi okanye ukuzithemba ukuze oku kungenzeki.
Abazali abasoloko bezazi iimeko abafikisayo kulutsha lwabo xa beshiya ikhaya. Nangona kuyinyani ukuba awunakumthintela umntwana wakho ekuziphatheni okanye kwenye indlela, ungamnceda ngezixhobo eziyimfuneko kwaye wazi indlela yokwenza esona sigqibo sihle xa ungekho phambi kwakhe kwaye edibana nemeko efuna indlela yokuziphatha ethile ukunqanda ukuba kungale ndlela, isimilo esingamkelekanga.
Ukukhulisa ulutsha ukuze kuthintelwe ungquzulwano
Abafikisayo baba sesichengeni ngokweemvakalelo kwaye abazinzanga, ngakumbi xa bejamelene nemijikelezo yomngcipheko. Ukuba ufuna abantwana bakho bakuphephe ukuba neendlela zokuziphatha eziyingozi, kuya kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo oku kulandelayo:
- Thetha nabantwana bakho ukuphucula unxibelelwano kusapho kunye nokukhuthaza amaxabiso abaluleke njengokunyaniseka.
- Cwangcisa ukuphuma kwabo nabantwana bakho kwaye ugcine unxibelelwano oluhle xa beshiya ikhaya.
- Nceda abantwana bakho bavakalise iimvakalelo zabo kwaye ukuba bayathandabuza ukuba bazenza ngaphandle koloyiko.
- Mamela abantwana bakho ungabaphazamisi xa beveza uluvo lwabo.
- Musa ukuthatha isigqibo kubo, kungcono ukuba ubancede benze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo.
- Akukho mntu uthanda ukugxekwa okanye ukugwetywa, abantwana abafikisayo bayayicaphukela le nto kuba abayazi indlela yokuhambisa ezi mvakalelo okanye indlela yokuphendula.
- Abazali kufuneka baqonde ngalo lonke ixesha ukuba ubudlelwane bosapho kufuneka bakhelwe kwaye bungawi.
- Cinga ngamazwi akho xa uthetha nabantwana bakho.
- Xa uthetha nabantwana bakho abakwishumi elivisayo, gcina ulwimi lomzimba engqondweni kunye nolwabo.
- Amagama owasebenzisayo aya kukunceda uyazi ukuba ucinga ntoni, kwaye abantwana bakho banokukwazi ukukhetha kunye nezinto anokuzenza.
- Uyayazi imiqondiso akunike yona umntwana wakho ukuze wazi ukuba unengxaki yeemvakalelo.
- Yazi izinto ongafuni ukuba abantwana bakho bazenze.
- Thetha nabantwana bakho malunga nokuziphatha okuyingozi kwaye ubanike izixhobo abazidingayo ukuze bazi ukuba bangaziphepha njani kwaye ngoba.
Nguwe onempembelelo enkulu kubantwana bakho
Abazali banempembelelo enkulu xa kuziwa ekuxhobiseni ulutsha ukuba luqonde umahluko phakathi kokuziphatha okwamkelekileyo nokungamkelekanga (okuyingozi). Ke umzekelo wakho kunye nonxibelelwano oluhle kunye nabo luyimfuneko.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho unokuziphatha okuyingozi, thetha nabo, ungasebenzisa la mabinzana alandelayo ukuzama ukumenza abone isizathu okanye enze esona sigqibo silungileyo kwimeko nganye:
- Nceda ucinge ngononophelo malunga nokhetho ofuna ukulwenza, sixhalabile malunga neziphumo ezinokubakho
- Ngokuqinisekileyo awuqondi ukuba asixolanga nesigqibo ofuna ukusithatha. Singakunceda wenze olo khetho.
- Ukuba bonke abahlobo bakho bangatsiba ibhulorho, ngaba nawe uza kuyenza?
Kufuneka uthethe nabantwana bakho malunga nokuziphatha okuyingozi okanye okungamkelekanga. Abazali kufuneka bacacise kwaye baxoxe ukuba baziva njani ngayo nayiphi na imiba engamkelekanga. Musa ukushiya nantoni na ngaphandle! Abantwana bakho xa bekwishumi elivisayo, kanye njengokuba babebancinci, kufuneka bazi ukuba ulindele ntoni kubo ngawo onke amaxesha ukuze bazi ukuba mabenze njani.
Abanamava ebomini kwaye bafuna isikhokelo sakho ukuze baqonde indlela ekufuneka benze ngayo kwiimeko ezithile. Hlela umthambo nomntwana wakho ofikisayo apho nixoxa khona (njengentsapho) umahluko phakathi kweendlela zokuziphatha ezamkelekileyo nezingamkelekanga. Ukuba ubaleka kumntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo, zama ukumenza aqonde ukuba kulula ukuthetha ngeengxaki ngaphambi kokuba kubekho ingxaki. Umzuzu wobunzima unokuthintelwa ngokwenza izigqibo ezilungileyo. Izigqibo ezifanelekileyo zinokuyiphepha intlungu enkulu yeemvakalelo.
Indlela yokujongana neengxaki kubantwana abakwishumi elivisayo
Landela lo msebenzi ukuze ukwazi ukuphatha isimilo esingamkelekanga okanye esiyingozi ebantwaneni bakho:
- Nika umntwana wakho iphepha nepeni, kunye nelungu ngalinye losapho.
- Ilungu ngalinye losapho kufuneka lizobe iikholamu ezine ephepheni.
- Iikholamu kufuneka zibhalwe njenge; eyamkelekileyo, engamkelekanga, imiba emikhulu nemincinci.
- Thelekisa ukusebenza kwakho kunye nokwenziwa lilungu ngalinye losapho lwakho. Oku kuya kukunika umbono wokuba ziziphi iindlela zokuziphatha abazithatha njengezamkelekileyo nezingamkelekanga.
- Bakhumbuze ukuba bayakuhlala kufuneka bazibandakanye neengxaki ezinkulu nezintsonkothileyo ngelixa bexhomekeke kuwe. Iziphumo ezixhalabisayo zezomntu wonke.
Iingxaki ezinkulu zibandakanyaukutshaya, ukusela utywala, ubusela, iziyobisi, isondo, iphonografi, ubuxoki, ukuziphatha gadalala, njl. Nangona nakuphi na ukuziphatha okunokukwenza uzive ungalunganga kusapho kunokuthathwa njengokuziphatha okungamkelekanga ekufuneka kujongiwe kuwo wonke umntu ukuze azi ukuba kuninzi kakhulu okanye kungakhululeka.