Ukukhula, abantwana kufuneka bazive bethandwa yonke imihla yobomi babo. Bafuna abazali babo babe ecaleni kwabo kwaye babaxhase kuyo yonke into abayifunayo ebomini babo bonke, badinga amagama enkuthazo kunye nokuwola ngamagama amnandi yonke imihla… Le yimfihlo ukuze abantwana bakhule benokulinganisela okuhle ngokweemvakalelo. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba bonke abazali ehlabathini bafunde ukubathanda abantwana babo ngendlela yokuba baziva ngaloo ndlela.
Ukufunda ukwenza abantwana bakho bazive bekhethekile yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Kodwa inyani kukuba into ebaluleke njengokuhambisa uthando ebantwaneni, abazali abaninzi baziva bedidekile kwaye abazi ukuba benze njani. Ukuba ungomnye wabazali abangaziyo ukuba bangenza njani ukuba abantwana babo bazive bethandwa yonke imihla, funda ke kuba ndilapha ukukunceda. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubengumntu oneemvakalelo kakhulu ukubonisa abantwana bakho ukuba ubakhathalele kwaye ubathanda kakhulu. Ngaba ufuna ingcebiso? Ungalahli iinkcukacha!
Chitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye nabo
Kubalulekile ukuba ixesha olichitha nabantwana bakho ayiloxesha nje, oko kukuthi, kufanele ukuba lixesha elisemgangathweni. Kodwa yintoni ixesha elisemgangathweni kwaye liphi ixesha elingelilo? Ixesha elingena mgangatho lixesha olichitha nabantwana bakho kodwa ungalihoyi okanye wenze nto ngalo. Umzekelo, ixesha elingena mgangatho kuxa ukunye nabahlobo bakho kunye nonyana wakho udlala ikhonsoli yomdlalo, okanye nisenza izinto nonyana wakho ebukele umabonwakude. Kuyinyani ukuba nangona zininzi izinto zokwenza emini kwaye oomama kufuneka sithathe ixesha phantsi kwamatye, kufuneka sifumane ixesha ngosuku ukuze sikwazi ukunikezela kubantwana bethu.
Kwelinye icala, ixesha elisemgangathweni lelona xesha ulinikezela ngokukodwa kubantwana bakho, Oko kukuthi, ubakhathalele ngokupheleleyo abantwana bakho, nisabelana ngemisebenzi yokuchitha ixesha kunye kunye nokonwaba. Ngeli xesha lisemgangathweni, kubalulekile ukuba ubeke bucala umsebenzi wakho, iselfowuni kwaye ugxile kuphela nibe nexesha elimnandi nabantwana bakho.
Baphulaphule ngokwenene (kodwa ngokwenene)
Kukho amaxesha apho abantwana bathetha kwaye bathetha… kodwa abantu abadala ababaphulaphuli ngokwenyani becinga ukuba le bayithethayo ayibalulekanga, kodwa yonke into ethethwa ngabantwana ibalulekile. Bafunda kwaye bathetha yonke into ethi qatha engqondweni ukuze bazi ukuba banyanisile. Mamela kubo ukuze ubakhokele ebomini. Kananjalo, xa umntwana enesidingo sokukuxelela into, mamela ngononophelo ukuze azi ukuba ufuna ukuxelela ntoni kwaye wonwabele loo mzuzu… ukhethe ukuba akuxelele into.
Bona oko kubalulekile kubo
Abantwana njengoko bekhula (kunokuba bezelwe), banomdla kunye nezinto abazithandayo eziphawula ubuntu babo kunye nendlela yabo ebomini. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuhlonipha ezi zinto uzithandayo kunye nokwandisa umdla wabo ukuze ngale ndlela, bakwazi ukuphucula izakhono zabo. Abantwana kufuneka baqonde ukuba ukuba bathanda into okanye bafuna ukwenza into ebakhuthazayo, akufuneki kubekho sithintelo ekufezekiseni.
Bakhuthaze kwaye ubanike amazwi enkuthazo
Abantwana bakho bafuna amazwi enkuthazo ukuze bakwazi ukufikelela kuyo nayiphi na injongo abazimisele ukuyenza. Amagama anamandla amakhulu kwaye abazali banoxanduva lokukhuthaza nokukhuthaza abantwana bethu ukuze bazi ukuba iimpazamo aziyongxaki kodwa yinkqubo yokufunda, ukuze babenakho ukufezekisa yonke into abazimisele ukuyenza okoko nje benyamezele kwaye Ukuzimisela nayo yonke into, ukuba akukho mntu ulunge ngaphezu kwakhe nabani na ... sonke singafumana nantoni na, Kufuneka sazi kuphela into esifuna ukuyiphumeza (ngokokuthanda kwethu kunye nomdla wethu).
Ukwanga, ukwanga kunye "ndiyakuthanda" yonke imihla
Ngaba uyathanda ukuwolwa, ukwangwa kunye nokukhunjuzwa ukuba ukhethekile emntwini? Kuyenzeka nakubantwana bakho! Abantwana bafuna ukuba ubange kwaye ubange, bafuna olo nxibelelwano nawe ukuze bazive besondele kwaye bazi ukuba yonke into ilungile. Ukongeza, abazali kufuneka bakuqonde ukubaluleka kokuthi "Ndiyakuthanda" kubantwana babo (nakubani na omthanda ngokwenene) yonke imihla. Abantwana kufuneka bazi ukuba bayinxalenye ebalulekileyo yoluntuNgokwenza oku, baya kuyazi ukuba bayinxalenye ebalulekileyo yosapho, ngonaphakade.
Xa ungekho
Mhlawumbi, ngenxa yomsebenzi onawo ngoku, kuya kufuneka ungabikho kwinxalenye enkulu yosuku kwaye kude kube sekhaya iintsuku ezininzi. Ukuba le yimeko yakho, kuya kufuneka ubenze bazive besondele kuwe, uyifumana njani? Kulula njengokwenza umnxeba okanye ukufowuna ngevidiyo ngeSkype ukuze ukwazi Thetha nabo kwaye niyakwazi ukubonana ubuso ngobuso. Ukongeza, ngale ndlela, unokugcina unxibelelwano oluhle nabo, banokukuxelela into abayifunayo kwaye baya kuba nawe ngakumbi kunangoku ukuba abazi kwanto ngawe. Kuya kufuneka sisebenzise ubuchwephesha obutsha ukuze sikwazi ukusondela ebantwini, akunjalo?
Yenza izithethe nabantwana bakho
Amasiko abaluleke kakhulu kubomi babantu kuba asenza sizive ngathi singabahlali. Ndiqinisekile uya kuzikhumbula ngothando izithethe zobuntwana onokonwabela umbulelo kwinto yokuba abazali bakho balwa ukuze baphumelele. Ngoku hIthuba lakho lifikile lokudala amasiko amatsha ukwenzela ukuba abantwana bakho xa bekhulile babakhumbule ngothando kwaye mhlawumbi baphinde baphinde kunye nabantwana babo. Amasiko anokubhiyozela iintsuku ezikhethekileyo, yiya ngeCawe ukuya kwilizwe okanye elunxwemeni, yiya usuku olunye ngeveki kwindlu kamakhulu (okanye ngaphezulu kwesinye), njl
Kwaye, khumbula ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu Nxibelelana nabo yonke imihla, ubabuze ngobomi babo bemihla ngemihla, ubancome xa besenza izinto kakuhle, kwaye ubakhuthaze ukuba benze ngcono xa bengalunganga.