Abazali abonwabanga xa bebona abantwana babo besilwa. Nawuphi na umzali ufuna ba zalwana Hlalani kunye kangangoko kwaye akukho zimpikiswano phakathi kwabo. Kwimeko yomlo, abazali abazi ukuba mabenze njani na ukuthintela ungquzulwano ukuba lunyuke.
Emva koko sikunika uthotho lwezikhokelo eziya kukunceda usombulule umlo ngendlela ebalaseleyo kwaye ngaphandle kokwenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi.
Ukoyika umlo wabantwana
Baninzi abazali abangaziyo ukuba benze njani xa bejongana nokuqhubeka kokulwa kwabantwana babo ngenxa yoloyiko abalubonisayo kwimeko enjalon. Ngenxa yoku, kuyimfuneko ukunqanda uloyiko olwenziweyo ukusukela:
- Ukuba bayalwa rhoqo, oko akuthethi ukuba abathandani.
- Ukuqhubeka kokulwa phakathi kwabantakwenu akuthethi ukuba banobudlelwane obubi.
- Ukulwa ebuntwaneni akuyena umqondiso wokuba ubudlelwane abubi ekuhambeni kwexesha.
- Ukulwa kuqheleke kakhulu kunokuba kunokuba kubonakala ekuqaleni, ke ngoncedo oluncinci oluvela kubazali, abantakwenu baya kufunda ukuthandana nokukhathalelana.
Ukulwa akuyonto imbi
Nangona inokubonakala ingakholeleki, inyani yeyokuba umlo wabantakwenu awuyonto imbi:
- Imilo inokunceda abantakwenu ukuba baqondane kwaye basombulule iingxaki ezahlukeneyo.
- Abantakwenu abalwa bahlala befunda ukuba nabanye abantu baneemfuno kunye nelungelo lokuziveza.
- Ukulwa kunokwenza ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantakwenu bomelele.
Izikhokelo xa ungenelela kumlo wakowenu
Kuqala kufuneka uhlale ecaleni kwaye unethemba lokuba abazalwana bayayazi indlela yokusombulula ukungavisisani. Nangona kunjalo, kukho amaxesha athile apho abazali kufuneka bangenelele kumlo onje:
- Kwimeko apho umlo usuka ekulweni uye emzimbeni.
- Kananjalo kwimeko yokuthukwa okanye ukungahloniphi phakathi kwabantakwabo.
Xa kusonjululwa ukungavisisani, kubalulekile ukuba abazali bazibeke ezihlangwini zabantwana kwaye babuze umntwana ngamnye ngendlela ezolileyo. Umntu ngamnye makachaze izizathu zokuba kutheni sele uqalile umlo kwaye acebise ngezisombululo ezinokubakho. Kuya kufuneka uphephe ukusebenzisa indima yejaji ngalo lonke ixesha ukusukela ngamanye amaxesha, le ndlela ihlala yenza izinto zibe mbi kakhulu.
Omakwenziwe kumlo onzima
- Okokuqala, hlala uzolile kuba ukuba abantakwenu babona abazali babo bexhalabile, izinto zinokuba mandundu. Ngombulelo kuxolo, umlo ungancipha kubunzulu kwaye uphephe ububi obukhulu.
- Ke kulungile ukubahlula ngokwasemzimbeni kwaye ugcine iimitha ezimbalwa zomgama phakathi kwabo. Ngale ndlela, imeko-bume enomsindo iya ngokuthe chu ukuzola. Lixesha lokuba ubuze umntu ngamnye ukuba kwenzeke ntoni kwaye kutheni befikelele kwinqanaba lokulwa.
- Zakuba zizolile izinto, lixesha lokuba ubuze ukuba wenzeni ukuze yonke into ibuyele esiqhelweni kwaye ingxabano isonjululwe. Kwizisombululo ezinokubakho, isivumelwano kufuneka kufikelelwe kuso ukuphelisa ingxaki. Kubalulekile ukufikelela kwisivumelwano ukuze onke amaqela onwabe kwaye kwenziwe uxolo.
- Nje ukuba umlo usonjululwe, omabini amaqela kufuneka acinge kwaye aqiqe ukuthintela into efanayo ukuba iphinde yenzeke kwakhona. Kuya kufuneka ufumane into entle kule nto kwaye abantwana bakowenu baya kuba noluhlu lwezixhobo zokulawula iimfazwe ezizayo ngaphandle kongenelelo lwabazali ngokwabo. Khumbula ukuba umlo phakathi kwabantakwenu yinto eqhelekileyo eyenzeka kuzo zonke iintsapho ngenxa yoko akufuneki ube nexhala xa kunokwenzeka.