Ukufa sisifundo esikhohlisayo kubantu abadala, into eyonyukayo kwimeko yabantwana. Kuya kubakho ixesha apho kufuneka uhlale phambi komntwana wakho kwaye uchaze ukuba yintoni.
Kubalulekile ukuba xa ufikelela kubudala obuthile, umntwana uyakwazi ukufa kwaye babenakho ukugqithisa i-duel ngeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo, kwimeko apho baya kuva ubunzima kukungazoli.
Kunzima ukuyiqonda
Kuyinyani ukuba abantwana, ukususela ebuntwaneni, bayazi ukuba kukho ukufa. Basenokuba babone umntu esifa kumabonwakude okanye ephulukene nesilwanyana sasekhaya. Ingxaki kukuba kukho izinto ezithile zokufa kwabo ezinokuba nzima kubo ukuba baziqonde. Eyona nto inzima ukuyiqonda yile yokuba abasayi kuphinda bambone umntu ofileyo kwaye yinto engenakuphepheka eyenzekayo ebomini.
Kwimeko bantwana Abantwana abancinci abakwazi ukuqonda izizathu ezahlukileyo anokuthi umntu afele kuzo. Ukungakhuli ngokwaneleyo, Bacinga ngalo lonke ixesha ukufa akusosiphelo kwaye bazokwazi ukumbona kwakhona lowo bamthandayo.
Indlela abantwana abasabela ngayo
Impendulo yokusweleka komntwana inokwahluka. Ukusuka ekukhaleni ukuya ekubandezelekeni kolibaziseko oluthile lohlobo lokukhula. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntwana angabonakalisi naluphi na uhlobo lweemvakalelo xa umntu esimthandayo esifa, kuba bengasiqondi isizathu sokuba abantu babe lusizi xa kusweleke umntu osenyongweni.
Kufuneka icaciswe ukuba usizi alunakufana nomntu omdala njengomntwana. Ngaphezulu kweminyaka kwaye xa ukukhula kuye kwabonakala, umntwana sele eza kukwazi ukusabela ekufeni kwakhe. Kwimeko enjalo, abazali akufuneki bangxamile kwaye balinde umntwana ukuba akwazi ukuqonda ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukufa kunye nako konke okubandakanyekileyo.
Izikhokelo ekufuneka zilandelwe xa uthetha ngokufa nabantwana
Nangona ingumxholo onzima ngokwenene ukuthetha nabantwana, Kungumsebenzi wabazali ukuhlala phantsi bazame ukukhupha abantwana babo kumathandabuzo ngayo yonke into ejikeleze ukufa. Ulwazi olunikiweyo kufuneka lufaneleke, ngokobudala bomntwana. Ayilunganga kwaye ayicetyiswa ukuba ingacacanga kwaye uhlala ukhetha inyani. Kuqala kunokuba nzima ukwamkela kodwa kulungile emntwaneni ukuba azi ukuba kufa yintoni. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokwenza intetho yakho nomntwana wakho yanelise kangangoko:
- Kubalulekile ukucacisa onke amathandabuzo anawo umntwana, Ukongeza ekuphenduleni yonke imibuzo onayo malunga nokufa.
- Iimpendulo ezivela kubantu abadala kufuneka zibelula kwaye zicace kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ngale ndlela abantwana baqonda yonke into bhetele ngakumbi.
- Kufuneka unyaniseke kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukongeza ekubeni yinyaniso Nokuba kunzima.
- Kulungile ukuba abazali bancede umntwana wabo aveze iimvakalelo ngalo lonke ixesha. Kuya kufuneka bakwenze uqonde ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uzive ulusizi okanye ulile xa uswelekelwe ngumntu omthandayo.
- Iingcali ngalo mbandela zicebisa ukuba kufundwe amabali abantwana apho kukho khona ukufa. Nangona kunzima, kulungile ukuba uziqhelanise nesi sihloko. Njengokuba besesitshilo, ukufa yinxalenye yobomi yiyo loo nto kufuneka bazi ukuba ukufa kubandakanya ntoni.
- Mxelele ngabantu abasondeleyo abangasekhoyo kweli hlabathi ukuze ubakhumbule ngothando nangothando.
Isifundo sokufa sikunye nabanye abafana nesondo, kunzima kakhulu ukuthetha nabantwana. Nangona kunjalo, ngumsebenzi wabazali ukuba bakwazi ukuthetha ngabo nabantwana kwaye bacacise nawaphi na amathandabuzo abanokuba nawo.