Xa unengqeqesho elungileyo ekhaya, indlela yokuziphatha kwabantwana iphucula phantse ngokuzenzekelayo. Abazali kufuneka bayazi indlela yokuqeqesha abantwana babo ukuze yonke into isebenze ngokufanelekileyo ekhaya, kwaye nangaphandle kwayo.
Abazali bafuna ukonwaba nabantwana babo, bahlonitshwe kwaye bahlonitshwe ngabanye. Ngale ndlela kuphela apho baya kuba nakho ukufumana indawo yabo emhlabeni ngempumelelo.
Kodwa akukho mntwana uza emhlabeni enemiyalelo phantsi kwengalo yakhe kwaye ngamanye amaxesha abazali kunzima kubo ukuqonda indlela ekufuneka beziphathe ngayo okanye into ekufuneka bayenzile ukuze abantwana babo babe ngabantwana abaqeqeshwe kakuhle. Ukuze abantwana babe nokuziphatha kakuhle, baya kudinga uthando kunye nothando oluvela kuwe, imbeko kunye nomonde omninzi ... Kodwa kwakhona, ukuba usebenzisa ezona ndlela zisebenzayo zokuqeqesha kwaye uyazi, Liliphi ixesha lokucela uncedo kwiingcali?
Uqeqesho ekhaya
Xa kuziwa kuqeqesho, yinkqubo yokufundisa abantwana, ukuze bafunde ukuba yeyiphi indlela yokuziphatha efanelekileyo kwaye yintoni. baqala ukuqonda into elungileyo nengalunganga. Ngokusisiseko, uqeqesho lusekwe ekumiseni imigaqo kunye nemida yokuba abantwana bayithobele, kuba ngale ndlela baya kuziva bekhuselekile kwaye, baya kukwazi okulindeleke kubo ngawo onke amaxesha.
Bonke abazali banokuziva bekhathazekile kwimfundo abayinika abantwana babo, oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke ngakumbi ukufundisa abantwana ngendlela enganyanzelisi igunya elininzi okanye ukuvumela kakhulu. Udinga igunya ngokuguquguquka kwaye abantwana bayazi ukuba zonke iindlela zokuziphatha zineziphumo, ezilungileyo nezingalunganga ... kunye no-qNgabo banolawulo lokukhetha indlela yokuziphatha okanye enye, kwaye baneziphumo ezithile okanye ezinye.
Uxanduva lwawo nawuphi na umzali kukukhokela abantwana ukuba bakwazi ukuzimela, bahloniphe abanye kwaye bazihlonele, bakwazi ukuzibamba nokuzazi kakuhle iimvakalelo zabo nezabanye.
Loluphi uhlobo lwengqeqesho olufundisayo ekhayeni lakho
Kuyimfuneko ukuba uyazi ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwengqeqesho olufundisayo ekhayeni lakho, kuba kungale ndlela kuphela oya kuthi ukwazi ukuba ufuna ukwenza utshintsho ngenene ukuze yonke into isebenze ngcono ngaphakathi kwenxalenye yosapho. Kukho iindlela zokuba ngumzali ezinikezela ngengqeqesho engalunganga kwaye kufuneka ufunde ukuyichonga.
- Isitayile esiguqukayo sokuba ngumzali. Le yeyona ndlela isebenzayo yokuba ngumzali uqeqesho olufanelekileyo. Abazali bayayazi into abayifunayo kubantwana babo kwaye nabantwana bayayazi le nto, kukho iziphumo ezicacileyo kwaye nabazali bayazi ukuba bangabathanda njani abantwana babo nokuba kufuneka kusetyenziswe iziphumo. Ivumela ubhetyebhetye kunye nokusebenzisana ekusombululeni ingxaki ukuze umntwana azive ekwazi ukulawula imiceli mngeni yabo yokuziphatha.
- Isitayile sobuzali esingagungqiyo. Nangona enolindelo olucacileyo kunye neziphumo, ubonakalisa uthando oluncinci ebantwaneni kwaye kukho kuphela 'ucwangco nomyalelo' ekhaya. Kutheni izizathu zezinto kungaxoxwa ngazo kwaye abantwana kufuneka bathobele ukuthanda komntu omdala. Le yindlela engasebenziyo yokufundisa kwaye ihlala ibangela iingxaki zeemvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha ebantwaneni.
- Indlela evumelekileyo okanye engakhathaliyo yokuba ngumzali. Ubonisa uthando oluninzi ebantwaneni bakhe kodwa akukho mithetho okanye mida ekhaya. Akukho luqeqesho kuba abazali abafuni kujongana nabantwana babo, ke abantwana bayayenza kwaye bayilungise indlela abafuna ngayo. Babalawula abazali babo kwaye babakhohlise ngentando yabo. Lo mzali awusebenzi kwaye uya kuba neziphumo ezibi njengohlobo lobuzwilakhe nolungahambelaniyo nokuba ngumzali.
Ngoku, wakube ufumene ukuba loluphi uhlobo lobuzali olufundisa ekhayeni lakho, lifikile ixesha lokuba ucinge ngotshintsho ekufuneka ulwenzile ukulungela abantwana bakho nolwakho.
Ukuphucula uqeqesho ekhaya
Kuyimfuneko ukuba uthathe ingqalelo yokuba xa abantwana beqeqeshwa, kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo ubume babo, amandla abo okuqonda kunye nembeko ephezulu ekufuneka ubenayo kumntu wabo. Ukuze abantwana bayiqonde imithetho, kufuneka ubahloniphe kwaye ubathande ngaxeshanye usebenzise iziphumo (ezingqinelana nokuziphatha gwenxa kwaye ezingazibaxi kakhulu).
Xa iziphumo sele zisetyenzisiwe, akukho mfuneko yokuba uqhubeke 'ufundisa' umntwana, into eyimfuneko kukumkhokela ukuze enze umsebenzi olungileyo kwaye kwixesha elizayo uyazi ukuba makenze ntoni kwaye enze njani ngokuchanekileyo.
Ezinye iingcebiso ngokusebenza kuqeqesho lwemihla ngemihla ekhaya zezi:
- Umvuzo wokuziphatha kakuhle. Awuzange uzixelele kuphela malunga nokuziphatha okungalunganga, ukuba ufuna ukomeleza isimilo esihle kufuneka usithathele ingqalelo. Yazi into ayenzayo umntwana wakho kakuhle kwaye oku kuya kumkhuthaza ukuba ayenze kwakhona. Mncome umntwana wakho xa enesimo sokuziphatha.
- Vumela iziphumo zendalo. Iziphumo zendalo zezona titshala zibalaseleyo zabantwana. Ukuba umntwana wakho wenza into engalunganga, myeke afumane isiphumo sokuziphatha (uhlala ejonge ukhuseleko lwakhe). Kukho amaxesha apho kunganyanzelekanga ukuba kuxoxwe ngokwenzekileyo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana waphula into yokudlala, akasayi kuphinda adlale nayo. Ukuba umntu ofikisayo akafaki zimpahla zingcolileyo ebhaskithini, ngekhe zihlanjwe okanye ukuba akazondlula umandlalo, baya kungqengqa kunye nebhedi engenziwanga. Iziphumo zendalo zisebenza ukuba abantwana babonakala ngathi 'abazimameli' izilumkiso zakho malunga nokuziphatha kwabo.
- Iziphumo zokuziphatha kwabo. Kule meko, kufuneka ubalumkise abantwana bakho ngeziphumo zokuba indlela yokuziphatha ethile iya kuba nayo. Isiphumo siya kudibana ngokuthe ngqo nokuziphatha, ke umntwana wakho uya kuba nolawulo lokuthatha isigqibo sokuba uyafuna ukuqhubeka nokuziphatha kwaye afumane isiphumo esibi okanye endaweni yoko, aphucule indlela aziphethe ngayo kwaye afumane ukunconywa ngokwenza kakuhle. Iziphumo ezingalunganga kunokuba, umzekelo, ukususa amalungelo.
Kwaye khumbula ukuba uqeqesho olulungileyo alunakuze lwamkele ukohlwaywa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni, kuba oku iya kuba kukuxhatshazwa Unokufundisa ngaphandle kobundlobongela balo naluphi na uhlobo, kwaye ukwenze ngokuchanekileyo kusebenza ngakumbi.