Abazali abaninzi bakhalazela ukuba abantwana babo abakwazi ukugxila kuyo nantoni na, ukuba baphazanyiswe kwangoko yiyo nantoni na. Kodwa inyaniso kukuba yenaingqalelo yinkqubo yokuqonda ekhula ngokuhamba kwexesha. Asizalwanga sinamandla onke okuzimasa ukuya kwi-100% kodwa yinto efezekisiweyo ngokokuphuhla kwethu. Kuwo onke la mathandabuzo kunye neenkxalabo, namhlanje siza kuthetha ingqalelo kunye noxinzelelo kubantwana.
Injani ingqwalaselo ebantwaneni?
Ukuqwalaselwa yinkqubo esisiseko yengqondo equka ukufumanisa kuzo zonke izinto esizifumanayo ngokusebenzisa izivamvo zethu, izinto ezibalulekileyo ezingafakwanga. Kuthekani ngabantwana? Ewe, zincinci ziqhushumbe ngezinto ezintsha nezinomtsalane ezenza kube nzima kubo ukugcina ingqalelo yabo ixesha elininzi. Ubaxelela ukuba balahle inkuthazo kuba bonke babonakala benomtsalane. Ingqondo yomntu ayikulungelanga ukuya kwingcaciso engako Kungenxa yoko le nto iingxaki zoqwalaselo kunye noxinzelelo zibonakala ebantwaneni.
Njengokuba umntwana ekhula, amaxesha abo oxinzelelo kunye nokuqwalaselwa kuyanda. Ngamanye amagama, abantwana abanalo ixesha lokuqwalaselwa komntu omdala, kodwa yinto eyonyukayo ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Zincinci, zizinto ezinomtsalane ngakumbi kunye nenkuthazo eya kutsala umdla wazo, ngelixa kuya kuba nzima kubo ukugcina ujoliso lwabo kwimisebenzi engenamtsalane. Njengoko bekhula, ixesha labo lokujonga liyakhula kwaye banako ukujongisa loo ngqalelo ngokuzithandela.
Ndikushiya itafile eqikelelweyo yamaxesha oxinzelelo ngobudala:
Amaxesha-Umndilili wexesha lokuxinanisa
Unyaka o-1 - 3 ukuya kwemizuzu emi-5
Iminyaka emi-2 - 4-10 imizuzu
Iminyaka emi-3 - 6-15 imizuzu
Iminyaka emi-4 - 8-20 imizuzu
Iminyaka emi-5 - 10-25 imizuzu
Iminyaka emi-6 - 12-30 imizuzu
Iminyaka emi-7 - 14-35 imizuzu
Iminyaka emi-8 - 16-40 imizuzu
Iminyaka emi-9 - 18-45 imizuzu
Iminyaka eli-10 - engama-20 ukuya kwengama-50 imizuzu
Iminyaka eyi-10-ukuya kwiyure enye.
Ngaba ingqwalaselo kunye noqwalaselo lungaphuculwa ebantwaneni?
Kunjalo. Bonke abantwana banokuphucula ixesha lokujonga kunye noxinzelelo. Into yokuqala ekufuneka icacisiwe ngabazali ayikokufuna ngaphezulu kwamandla omntwana. Ukuphuhlisa ingqalelo kuyadingeka ukuba ezinye zeempawu zobuchopho zikhule ezingenakufezekiswa ngenkani. Kuya kufuneka uqaphele ukuba bangahamba kude kangakanani kwaye ungazenzi ngathi banomdla wabantu abadala.
Ukuze umncede asebenze ekuqwalaselweni kwakhe, kuya kufuneka umqwalasele. Yaziwa yeyiphi imisebenzi ebambe ingqalelo yakho kwaye ngawaphi amaxesha osuku owamkela? Yenza indawo efanelekileyo Ungadlala phi kwaye uvuselele umdla wakho, ngaphandle kweziphazamiso (akukho sandi, akukho fowuni, umabonwakude ...). Kuxhomekeke kubudala bomntwana wakho uya kwazi malunga netafile ukuba angagxininiswa ixesha elingakanani, musa ukubuza okungaphezulu. Ungaqala ngemisebenzi enomdla kunye nokutsala umntwana, ukuvula umdla wabo.
Nathi sinako ukwenjenjalo tshintsha imisebenzi yomntwana amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuyenza ibe mnandi ngakumbi, ishiya eyona inzima kakhulu xa ephumla ngakumbi kwaye enexesha elininzi. A isifundo esihle, kunye nexesha elibekiweyo lokunikezela kumsebenzi wesikolo wasekhaya, yindlela yokwenza umntwana kunye nengqondo yakhe isetyenziswe ekunikeleni ingqalelo yabo kulo msebenzi.
Kubalulekile gcina ikhefu pUkuze ungoyisi umntwana, yeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo yokufumana ingqalelo. Elinye icandelo elibalulekileyo lokukhuthaza kukubeka iinjongo kunye neenjongo.
Kukho imidlalo emininzi kunye nezinto ezinceda abantwana ukuba basebenze kule nkqubo yokuqonda esisiseko njengoko sibonile kwinqaku elithi "Imidlalo yokuphuhlisa ingqalelo ebantwaneni". Yimidlalo esinokuyidlala ekhaya kwaye iya kubanceda baphuhlise inkqubo yabo yokhathalelo. Akukho ndlela ibhetele yokufunda kunokudlala nokuzonwabisa, kwaye singenza nosapho.
Kungenxa yokuba khumbula ... umntwana wakho akufuneki abe noxinzelelo ngenxa yokuba engabambeleli. Ubume bengqondo yakho budinga ukukhula ukuze uhlale ugxile.