Ngokwesiqhelo abantwana abadala 'abathiyile' okanye 'bathiya' ukuya esikolweni. Kukho imisebenzi emininzi kakhulu okanye uxanduva olubenza bayenze, ngamanye amaxesha beshiya ubuntwana babo ecaleni. Kodwa xa abantwana bebancinci, kunzima ngakumbi ukuba abantwana bangafuni ukuya esikolweni, ukusukela kwisikolo sabantwana abancinci, bahlala bedlala kwaye bonwabile. Izifundo zemfundo zingaphezulu kwaye ukukhula komntwana kubaluleke ngakumbi kunokufaka ngaphakathi kwizifundo zekhosi.
Kumzali, umntwana omncinci ongafuniyo ukuya kwisikolo sabantwana okanye kwisikolo sabantwana abasaqalayo unokuba buhlungu, uyacaphukisa, kwaye unobangela omkhulu wokukhathazeka. Ngaba umntwana ngenene uyakwenza oko ukuba nomsindo kunye nezikhalazo zokuphepha ukuya esikolweni nokuhlala nawe? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba kukho ingxaki kwisikolo sabantwana ekufanele ukuba usiphande?
Ukuba ngokwenene kukho ingxaki esikolweni somntwana wakho, unokukhetha ukumsusa kweso sikolo okanye ukumtshintsha ... Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ufikelele kwizigqibo kwaye uthathe inyathelo, kuya kufuneka uhlalutye imeko ngononophelo kwaye ufumane ukuba kutheni le ndlela yokuziphatha emntwaneni wakho.
Izinto onokuzibuza zona
Okokuqala, kuya kufuneka ucinge ngokwenzekayo kwaye ukuba kukho into ekufuneka uyigcinile engqondweni ngaphambi kokuqala ukwenza. Abantwana abancinci banemvakalelo kakhulu, kwaye naluphi na utshintsho ngaphakathi okanye ngaphandle kwesikolo lunokubachaphazela kakhulu. Ukuphepha ukungxama, Kuya kufuneka uzibuze le mibuzo kwaye ubonakalise:
- Ngaba le ndlela yokuziphatha kukutsha kwaye kutsha nje? Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxhalaba kokuhlukana kuqhelekileyo kunyaka wokuqala wesikolo, kwaye umntwana wakho unokufuna ixesha lokuhlengahlengisa imeko entsha.
- Ngaba umntwana wakho unexesha elaneleyo lokuziqhelanisa nesikolo esitsha?
- Ngaba kukho naluphi na utshintsho kwisikolo sabantwana abanokubangela le meko imbi? Ngaba ngutitshala owahlukileyo, utshintsho kwigumbi lokufundela, utshintsho kumthetho, okanye ufunda nabo?
- Ngaba lukhona utshintsho kubomi bomntwana wakho olunokubangela le mvakalelo? Ngaba utshintshile indlela yakho yesiqhelo? Ukuba kunjalo, kutheni?
- Ngaba ifilosofi yesikolo kunye nesimbo sokufunda ziyahambelana noko kuthandwa ngumntwana wakho? Kungenxa yokuba iziko elinegama elihle oko akuthethi ukuba lukhetho olufanelekileyo lomntwana wakho kunye nosapho.
- Ngaba kukho uhlobo oluthile lwesiganeko esenzekileyo kwisikolo sabantwana abanokuchaphazela umntwana wakho nangayiphi na indlela?
Thetha nenkwenkwana yakho
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyakwazi ukunxibelelana nawe, kuya kufuneka umbuze imibuzo ethile malunga nokwenzekayo esikolweni kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zosuku. Khumbula ukuba ukuba kukuqala konyaka wesikolo okanye emva kweholide, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantwana babe noxinzelelo lokwahlukana okanye bangafuni ukubuyela esikolweni.
Kubalulekile ukuba neendlela ezilungileyo zakusasa kwaye uvumele abantwana ukuba bahlengahlengise. Kuya kufuneka unike umntwana wakho ithuba lokuchaza ngolwimi lwakhe iimvakalelo avakalelwa ngazo okanye uthetha ngento ayithandayo nangayithandiyo ngokuya esikolweni. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ube novelwano koku kwaye ukuba unayo nayiphi na imvakalelo enzima uyifumanise kwaye umncede ukuba ayidlulise ngeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo.
Yazi isikolo
Ukuba ubona into isenzeka, kufuneka usazi kakuhle ngakumbi isikolo. Cwangcisa intlanganiso nesikolo ukuze uxoxe ngendlela umntwana wakho asebenzisana ngayo apho, indlela abaziphethe ngayo, eyona nto bayithandayo kunye nokuba yeyiphi eyona bayithandayo kancinane ... ikunike umbono wakhe wobugcisa ngalo mbandela.
Ungafumanisa ukuba unengxaki kuba engakwazi ukuya kwigumbi langasese yedwa kwaye akafuni ukuya esikolweni ukuze angadluli kuloo nto. OKANYE Mhlawumbi awubathandi abantwana onabo etafileni yakho okanye unengxaki yokuhlala kunye kwikhefu. Ngamanye amaxesha neengoma ezithile okanye amabali athile enza abantwana bazive belusizi okanye bengakhululekanga. Ngamanye amaxesha, umculo okanye umthambo ungangxola kakhulu okanye uxakeke kwabanye abantwana. Abantwana banokuba noxinzelelo okanye babe nomsindo malunga nezinto ezibonakala ngathi ziyisidenge kubantu abadala, kodwa zingabinangqondo kubo.
Kubalulekile ukuba wazi umntwana wakho kwaye usebenzise ootitshala njengezixhobo njengoko bafundisiwe ekukhuleni komntwana kwaye banolwazi ngemicimbi yeemvakalelo okanye ezinye izihloko zophuhliso lwabantwana umzali onokuthi angaqhelananga nazo. Xa udibana nabo esikolweni, musa ukuthandabuza ukubabuza nayiphi na imibuzo okanye inkxalabo onayo, Baza kuzama ukubasombulula ngokusemandleni abo ukuba nobuninzi bovelwano kunye novelwano.
Thatha amanyathelo
Kanye ngeli xesha, ukuba uyabona ukuba yonke into iyafana kwaye umntwana wakho uyaqhubeka nokuba nexesha elibi, kubalulekile ukuba wenze isicwangciso sokusebenza, kufuneka uthathe inyathelo!
Nje ukuba uqonde ukuba ukonwaba akubangelwa kukuba umntwana afune ukuhlala ekhaya ukuze abe kufutshane nosapho (isizathu esivakalayo) kwaye ugwebe naluphi na ukhuseleko okanye ukuxhatshazwa, unokwenza isicwangciso esingcono sokwenza.
Sebenza nootitshala bomntwana wakho ngendlela elungelelanisiweyo ukuzama ukuqinisekisa ukuba omncinci uyayonwabela imfundo yasesikolweni kwaye kule ndawo kukude nokuthuthuzelwa kunye nokukhuseleka kwekhaya.
Unokucinga ngesiqhelo sokuvalelisa okanye ootitshala bakubhalele i-ajenda yeveki okanye yonke imihla ukulawula indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho esikolweni kwaye unganxibelelana neengcali xa kufanelekile.
Ungabuza ngqo esikolweni ukuba zeziphi iindlela abazisebenzisayo ukukhuthaza abantwana ukuba bazonwabise kwaye bazisebenzise ekhaya. Buza ukuba zeziphi iingoma eziculwa ngabantwana kwigumbi lokufundela kwaye uzame ukuba nezinye ekhaya okanye ezo ezifanayo ukuba utitshala uyavuma. Ixesha elingaphezulu kunye nothando oluninzi nothando, abantwana ngokubanzi baqala ukusithanda isikolo. Ukuba umntwana wakho akayithandi imeko-bume, kungafuneka uthathele ingqalelo into yokuba utshintsho kunqwalaselo lungayimpendulo ... Okanye utshintsho lwesikolo.