Nangona singakholelwa oko kuba sikwinkulungwane yama-XNUMX, kusekho izinto kuluntu lwethu ezinokusothusa ngenxa yenqanaba labo eliphezulu lokungazi okanye ngenxa nje yokuba baphinde babuyisela izinto kwakhona kwaye nazo kufanele ukuba ziphelelwe lixesha. Kodwa ewe, kuluntu lwethu kusekho ukukhanya kunye nokucinga okuncinci okuhlonipha abanye. Oku kuthetha ukuba kusekho iindawo ezixhalabisayo kwimfundo yabantwana.
Xa amakhwenkwe namantombazana besiza emhlabeni kubonakala ngathi isini sabo kufuneka sivule indlela ebomini babo kwaye abantu abadala baphethe ukubafundisa ngokulungileyo noko 'kuphosakeleyo' ngokwesini abanikwe yindalo. Into eyenzekayo kukuba ngamanye amaxesha silibale ukubaluleka kokuhlonipha umnqweno womntwana kunye nomnqweno wokufuna ukwazi.
Ibonwa yonke imihla. Akuninzi ezikolweni kwakhona, kodwa kwamanye amakhaya (kodwa kungekhona onke). Nditsho neekhathalogu zezinto zokudlala ziqala ukutshintsha ukuze abazali bayiqonde indalo yabantwana. AKUFUNI ukunyanzela amakhwenkwe ukuba adlale enye into kwaye amantombazana enye, Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubanxibe ngombala okanye omnye ngenxa yokuba besini esithile. Kuya kufuneka uhloniphe ukuthanda kwabo kunye nobuntu babo, ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna unodoli oza kudlala naye, kutheni kufanele awuphike? Ukuba intombi yakho ifuna ukudlala ngemoto yamapolisa, kutheni ungavumi? Akanangqondo.
Abantwana bayingubo engenanto kwaye benza ubuntu babo ngokusekwe kwizinto abanazo ezibangqongileyo nakwindlela emakishwa ngabantu abadala, kodwa abantu abadala ukuba abahloniphi indlela abantwana abaziva ngayo… Emva koko bayakubalela ukuba bangabo.
Ukubaluleka kwentlonipho
Amakhwenkwe namantombazana kufuneka akhule engqongwe yintlonipho kubuntu bawo. Ukuzithemba nokuzithemba kunokukhula kuxhomekeke kwindlela abaphathwa ngayo kunye nendlela umntu omdala azihlonipha ngayo izigqibo kunye nezimvo zabantwana babo. Abantwana kufuneka babe nethuba lokuzenzela izigqibo, nokuba zincinci kwaye zilungele iminyaka yabo.
Musa ukugqiba abantwana bakho ngento yonke, bayeke babe ngabo banako ukulawula ubomi babo, nokuba zincinci iindlela. Umzekelo:
- Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba akhethe iimpahla azakuzinxiba kusasa
- Vumela abantwana bakho bathathe isigqibo ngesidlo sangokuhlwa kanye ngeveki
- Bayeke benze iimpazamo kwaye bafunde kwiimpazamo zabo
- Bavumele ukuba babenolawulo ebomini babo: ukuba abawenzi umsebenzi wesikolo, kuya kufuneka bavuke kwangoko ukuze bawenze. Kodwa bagqiba kwelokuba bayenze ngoku okanye kusasa ...
- Bayeke bathathe isigqibo malunga nento abafuna ukudlala ngayo okanye izinto zokudlala abafuna ukuzifumana kusuku lwabo lokuzalwa
- Zihlonele izigqibo zabo
- Hlonipha indlela yabo
- Yamkela umntwana wakho njengoko enjalo
- Mxhase ngaphandle kwemeko kwaye umkhokele ngokufanelekileyo, uhloniphe umdla wakhe
Kwenzeka njani ukuba intombazana ingakwazi ukudlala ihoki ize inkwenkwe ingadanisi?
Lo mbuzo ukwintloko yesi sihloko unento yokwenza nenhlonipho esithethe ngayo kwinqaku elidlulileyo. Kwenzeka njani ukuba intombazana ingakwazi ukudlala ihoki ize inkwenkwe ingadanisi? Ngubani othi? Ngubani obeka ezi zikhokelo 'ezilungileyo' okanye 'ezingalunganga'? Into ephosakeleyo kukungavumeli inkwenkwe okanye intombazana ukuba yenze umdlalo ewuthandayo okanye ukuzama owonokumenza azive kamnandi ngenxa yokuba 'iphawulwe' kubafana okanye kumantombazana. Hayi, ayilunganga.
Imidlalo iyimidlalo kwaye ilungele wonke umntu. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba intombi yakho ifuna ukudlala iHokkey okanye ukuba unyana wakho ufuna ukudanisa. Ukuba uyile nto uyithandayo yile nto kufuneka abazali bayixhase. Ukuba uthembele ekuzimiseleni ekuhlaleni, uya kube ufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba abe 'yenye nje iigusha', uya kuba umfundisa ukuba angabi nguye kuba loo nto ayijongwa, uya kuba umxelela ukuba ukhathalele kakhulu oko abanye bakucingayo. kuneemvakalelo zakhe kunye nomdla wakho. Le ndlela ayisiyiyo echanekileyo, yeyethu.
Izikimu zokwaphula
Lixesha lokuba kuqhekezwe izikimu, lixesha lokuba uluntu luqale ukuqonda ukuba uluntu luyaguquka kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke singabantu. Abantu ekufuneka bazihloniphile kwaye bahloniphe nabanye. Thintela inzondo kunye nenzondo ezintliziyweni zethu kwaye siphile ngokukhululekileyo, ngokuhambelana nombulelo kunye nethuba lokuba sithi.
Kodwa ngenxa yoko kuya kufuneka wophule amacebo ukususela xa abantwana beziintsana. Kuya kufuneka utshintshe imfundo kunye nengqondo ephelelwe lixesha. Imfundo kufuneka ijolise kwintlonipho, imfundo yeemvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha okuhle. Iintsika ezintathu ezisisiseko zokuba abantwana bafunde ukuba ngabo ngelixa bethandwa kwaye behlonitshwa ngabo babathandayo.
Kungenxa yokuba ukuba umntwana uziva ethandwa, ethandwa kwaye ehlonitshwa yeyona ndawo ikufutshane kuye, akazukukhathalela oko kuthethwa lihlabathi liphela, uya kuba edale ukuzithemba okuqinileyo kunye nesazisi esingenakutshatyalaliswa. Kodwa ukufezekisa oku, utshintsho oluncinci lwemihla ngemihla luyafuneka kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke, ukuqonda ukuba abantwana banezigqibo zabo kwaye nokuba zezona zichanekileyo, ukuba abazali babakhokela ngentlonipho hayi ngokunyanzelwa.
Amakhwenkwe amakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana amantombazana
Amakhwenkwe amakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana ngamantombazana… Bangabantu abamsulwa, bakhululekile kwaye banomdla wokuhlola umhlaba wabo kwaye bafumanise ukuba yintoni abanokuyenza ngokulandela umdla wabo kunye nezinto abazithandayo. Kodwa kubo ukuba banomdla kubalulekile ukuba baqale ukuhlola umhlaba esinamathuba amaninzi kunye namathuba. Musa ukuthintela ubuchule babo, inkululeko yabo, okanye umnqweno wabo wokuba ngabo. Yonwabela indlela abayiyo kunye nayo yonke into ekuzisela yona ebomini. Abantwana bakho bahlukile kwaye ukuze bonwabe kufuneka baziva bonwabile ngesiqu sabo, uyabavumela?