Ngaba uyazi ukuba bangaphi abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka elishumi elinesithathu abacela iselfowuni njengosuku lokuzalwa, iKrisimesi okanye isipho soMthendeleko? Uninzi lwe. Ninzi kakhulu. Ngenye imini ndibethwe yincoko phakathi kwabanye abamelwane (utata nonyana wakhe owayezakuba neminyaka elishumi elinanye ngo-Agasti). Indoda yabuza inkwenkwe ukuba ifuna ntoni ngala mini. Khange imthathe unyana wakhe imizuzu emibini ukuphendula ngaphandle kweselfowuni.
Impendulo ezimeleyo yandenza ndacinga ngobuntwana kunye nokufikisa. Ndiyavuma ukuba bendingenayo ifowuni ephathekayo kude kube ndineminyaka elishumi nane ubudala. Kodwa uyazi ntoni? Kwaye naye wayengayidingi. Bendixakeke kakhulu ndibukele uthotho lwam lokuzoba endiluthandayo, ndidlala oonodoli kwaye siphuma nabahlobo bam siyokudlala neetazos ezaziwayo. Kwaye ngoku?
Ngoku ndiyahlangana abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka elishumi elinesithathu epakini bengakhange basuse amehlo abo emnxebeni. Kwaye nabahlobo! Kuyathakazelisa ukuba endaweni yokuthetha omnye komnye (ukuba basondelene), bakhetha ukuyenza kuWhatsApp okanye kwinethiwekhi yoluntu. Ndiyavuma ukuba ndiyaxolisa kakhulu ukuyibona le nto. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abasabonwa bebaleka macala onke. Kwaye bambalwa abakwishumi elivisayo abahleli ebhentshini bemamele umculo kwaye baxelelane ngobomi babo obungaqondakaliyo.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uneminyaka engaphantsi kweshumi elinesithathu, nceda ungamthengeleli iselfowuni okwangoku. Kwaye namhlanje ndiza kukunika izizathu ezintlanu zokuba kutheni ungafanele uyenze. Nangona isigqibo sesakho wedwa, kucacile.
Kuba bobabini abantwana kunye nabakwishumi elivisayo kufuneka bakhulise ubuchule babo bokuyila
Kufuneka bayile, benze ulingelo, bawe, bavuke, baphuphe, kwaye benze umdla kwizinto ezibangqongileyo. Kwaye abanakuyenza loo nto ukuba bahlala esofeni rhoqo kunye neselfowuni. Ubuntwana linqanaba lokufunda ngokugqwesa. Kwaye ngaphakathi kokufunda okusebenzayo, ukuthetha kuFacebook okanye kuWhatsApp kunye nomhlobo osuka esikolweni okanye kwiziko akungeni.
Kungenxa yokuba iselfowuni ayithandi ukunxibelelana ubuso ngobuso
Abantwana kwaye ngakumbi abakwishumi elivisayo bafuna unxibelelwano olusebenzayo, olusondeleyo kunye nokuqonda. Ngaba ngokwenene ucinga ukuba ukuthumela ii-emoticons ngemiyalezo kuya kuyithanda loo nto? Ngokucacileyo akunjalo. Ndiyazazi iintsapho ezindixelela ukuba zinxibelelana nabantwana bazo abakwishumi elivisayo ngeWhatsApp. Eqongeni babuzwa ukuba banjani kwaye baziva njani. Kwaye ngekhe kubi kangako ukuba bebengekho kwindlu enye. Kwindlu enye! Andizimiselanga kugweba mntu (kwaye okwangoku andinabo abantwana) kodwa andiqondi ukuba abazali balahle njani unxibelelwano olungaka nabantwana babo.
Kungenxa yokuba kufuneka bafunde ukuveza iimvakalelo zabo kude nescreen
Kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, ndimi erobhothini, bendiyiva incoko yamantombazana amabini engekho ngaphezulu kweshumi elinesithathu ubudala. Omnye ufunda oku kulandelayo: "ekugqibeleni ndixelele uRubén kuWhatsApp ukuba ndiyamthanda." Intombazana eyayihamba naye yambuza ukuba uphendule wathini. Uyazi ukuba ibiyintoni impendulo? "Undithumelele i-emoticon yentliziyo." Nokuba zithini na iimvakalelo zabantwana nakwishumi elivisayo, kufuneka bafunde ukuziveza kunye nomnye umntu ophambi kwabo. Ndicinga kakuhle Iscreen sefowuni ephathekayo kunzima ngokwenene ukulawula kunye nokuchonga iimvakalelo.
Kuba iselfowuni ayibonisi mathuba angalibalekiyo kubantwana nakwishumi elivisayo
Ukuncamathela esofeni ukuncokola nefowuni yakho ayisiyomzuzu ongenakulibaleka. Nangona kunjalo, kuhlala kunjalo ukuya kuhambo kwindalo, undwendwela indawo yemidlalo yeqonga okanye imyuziyam okokuqala, uye ekhempini okanye usebenze imidlalo ethile njengentsapho. Abantwana kunye nolutsha kufuneka baphile amava ukuze baqhubele phambili kuphuhliso lwabo. Bafuna ukwenza iimpazamo, ukufumanisa, ukushukuma kunye nemibuzo ngezinto ezininzi malunga nokusingqongileyo. Baza kuzenza njani ezi zinto ukuba zincanyathiselwe kwifowuni ephathekayo?
Kungenxa yokuba ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kwefowuni ephathekayo kunokubangela iingxaki zempilo
Ayiloxesha lokuqala ukuba sixelelwe ukuba ukusebenzisa kakhulu iselfowuni kunokubangela ukutyeba, umzekelo. Xa abantwana nabakwishumi elivisayo bengqengqa okanye behleli nesixhobo eso kangangeeyure, akukho ntshukumo okanye mthambo. Ukuthintela iingxaki ezinkulu, kuyimfuneko ukuba baphume baye kuqhelisela imidlalo ethile kwaye umzimba wabo uyasebenza. Ukongeza, ukusetyenziswa kwezixhobo eziphathwayo kuya kuthintelwa ngaphambi kokulala kuba ichaphazela umgangatho kunye nobungakanani bokulala kubantwana nakwishumi elivisayo.
Kwaye nceda, nina njengabazali akufuneki nisebenzise isixhobo esiphathwayo ukonwabisa kunye nokumenza ukuba enze le nto uyifunayo. Ndithetha ntoni ngale nto? Ewe, baninzi abazali abathi ... "nika umnxeba umntwana ozonwabisa ngoluhlobo." Kwaye kukho iintsapho ezininzi ezincama isixhobo sazo sasemini ukuze ziziphazamise. Kodwa ngale ndlela abafundisi ukugxila. Ixesha lokutya kufuneka lithule kwaye lingagcini inkuthazo ebangelwa yifowuni ephathekayo.
Ngalo lonke ixesha khumbula ukuba sithetha nge ukugqithisa nokuqhubeka kokusebenzisa iselfowuni. Ukuba umntwana wakho usebenzisa iselfowuni yakhe ukudlala umdlalo awuthandayo kangangeyure okanye ezimbini ngosuku akukho nto inokwenzeka. Sithetha ngabantwana nakwishumi elivisayo abayibona njengemfuneko yokuba nefowuni ephathekayo kunye nokwenza uxinzelelo ukuba abayifumani. Sithetha ngabakwishumi elivisayo abangakwaziyo ukususa amehlo abo kwiscreen nokuba undwendwe lufike ekhaya.