Xa abantwana bengaziphathi kakuhle, ngamanye amaxesha abazali abazi ukuba mabasabele njani ukuze bayenze ngokufanelekileyo. Akukho ncwadana yemiyalelo yokufundisa abantwana. Kodwa into ekufuneka uyigcinile engqondweni kukuba kufuneka uhloniphe abantwana, umntu wabo, indlela yabo yokucinga. Awunakulindela ukuba umntwana oneminyaka emi-5 abe uhleli ixesha elide, okanye ukuba umntwana oneminyaka emi-2 akazichukumisi izinto ezimngqongileyo.
Ngezantsi ukusuka Madres Hoy Siza kuchaza ezinye iindlela zokwenza ngokuchanekileyo ukuze wazi into omawuyenze xa umntwana wakho enze into ephosakeleyo kwaye ngale ndlela, unokuyilungisa indlela yakhe yokuziphatha ngelixa umhlonela kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Isilumkiso ngemiphumo
Kodwa zikho iindlela onokuthi uziphathe kakubi ebantwaneni. Enye indlela kukunika abantwana isilumkiso sexesha elinye malunga nokuziphatha okungalunganga kunye nesiphumo esiza kubakho kwangoko ukuba ukungaziphathi kakuhle akuyeki. Ukulandela le nkqubo, kuya kufuneka ukhumbule izinto ezintathu ezisisiseko.
Yitsho kanye
Ukuba umntwana wakho wenza into engalunganga, mxelele nje ukuba enze ntoni kube kanye. Kutheni ungabinakho ukuziphatha kwaye kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuyitshintsha. Yintoni egqithisile, mlumkise ukuba xa engatshintshi indlela aziphethe ngayo kuya kubakho isiphumo esithile.
Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uya kulala, yithi: 'Yeka ukutsiba ebhedini kuba ungawela phantsi uzonzakalise. Ukuba awuyenzi ngaphambi kokuba ndibhale u-3, kuya kufuneka ucinge imizuzu emi-5. 'Esi silumkiso sithethwa kube kanye kwaye sitsho ngelizwi elizolileyo kodwa eliqinileyo. Ayisiyo malunga nokukhwaza okanye ukuphakamisa amazwi, ingabi nangokoyika umntwana wakho.
Musa ukunika izilumkiso ezininzi ukuba awumameli
Ukuba umntwana wakho uphazamisa indlela aziphethe ngayo, mncome kwaye umbulele ngokumamela nokwenza izinto ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuba ayiyeki, sukunikeza izilumkiso ezingaphezulu kuba ukuba akunjalo, kumaxesha ambalwa alandelayo kuya kulinda wena ukuba unike isilumkiso esingaphezulu kwesinye okanye ukuba uvalo lude luthotyelwe. Ukuba uyayityeshela, lixesha lokuba usiphumeze ngokukhawuleza iziphumo.
Emva kwesiphumo, thetha ngokwenzekileyo
Xa yonke into yenzekile, emva kwesiphumo kuya kufuneka uthethe nomntwana wakho ukuze ucamngce ngokwenzekileyo. Ungamchazela ukuba ulusizi kuba engakhange amamele eyokuqala kwaye unexhala lokuba uzokuwa aze enzakale. Mxelele ukuba uxanduva lwakho ukumkhusela kuba umthanda.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba emva kokulandela le migaqo mithathu isisiseko, uyahambelana namazwi akho kunye nezenzo zakho, ukuze umntwana wakho afunde ukuba xa uthetha izinto uthetha zona kwaye awuyonto 'yokuqhatha'.
Iziphumo ezizodwa
Izilumkiso kufuneka zibandakanye iziphumo ezichaziweyo nezichanekileyo kwizenzo zabantwana. Ukuba abantwana bakho bayazi ukuba awuvumi, abayi kukumamela. Umzekelo, ukuba ubasongela ngokubashiya phakathi kwendlela, bayazi ukuba ayiyonyani, ayisosiphumo esivakalayo kwaye abayi kutshintsha indlela abaziphethe ngayo. Iziphumo mazibe zezokwenyani ukwenzela ukuba zenziwe kwangoko. Amaxesha okucinga okanye ukuthatha amalungelo ziziphumo ezikhawulezileyo ezisetyenziswa kakhulu ngabazali kunye neengcali zemfundo.
Ukuze utshintsho lwendlela yokuziphatha lusebenze, kufuneka ukuba abantwana bayenze ngokusuka entliziyweni, oko kukuthi, kufuneka lutshintsho ngokuzithandela. Kukho izinto eziphambili zokuthetha nabantwana nokubanceda baqonde indlela yokuziphatha kwengxaki. Ukuba umntwana wenza kuphela ngenxa yokoyika isiphumo, emva koko akatshintshi isimilo, yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba uthethe nabantwana emva koko ukubonakalisa okwenzekileyo. Abazali kufuneka bafike kwingcambu kunye nengcambu yengxaki. Ngale ndlela, intliziyo yomntwana iyachaphazeleka kwaye uyayiqonda imfuneko yotshintsho, uzive ungcono ngokweemvakalelo.
Zibeke ezihlangwini zabo ukuze unxibelelane kakuhle nomntwana wakho
Ukuze ufezekise okuxoxwe kumhlathi odlulileyo, kubalulekile ukuba uzibeke endaweni yakhe ukuze ukwazi ukumqonda. Kuya kufuneka uthethe naye ujonge emehlweni, uzibeke endaweni yakhe. Ungazami ukwenza ukuba umntwana wakho akuve ukuba uthetha naye ukwelinye igumbi okanye wenza enye into. Ukuba ufuna ukunxibelelana kakuhle nomntwana wakho, kuya kufuneka ulandele ezi ngcebiso:
- Yehla umjonge emehlweni. Ukuze uthethe nomntwana wakho, kufuneka ugobe phantsi ukuze ujonge ngqo emehlweni akhe ngobude obufanayo. Ukugcina ujonge ngamehlo kubalulekile.
- Sebenzisa amagama abo. Ukuze umntwana wakho azive ebalulekile, kufuneka usebenzise igama lakhe elipheleleyo ngendlela enobubele xa uthetha naye.
- Thetha kancinci kwaye ube nemfesane. Imfesane iyafuneka ukuze abantwana bazive bethandwa kwaye beqondwa. Abanawo onke amava obomi bethu, ubulumko, okanye ukusebenza kwengqondo okusebenzayo. Basafunda kwaye bayakhula, ke thetha ngovelwano kunye nokuqonda ukwamkela ukuba umntwana wakho oneminyaka emithathu uziphethe njengomntwana.
- Imiyalezo elula. Sukusebenzisa amagama anzima kakhulu okanye akazukuqonda. Gcina ulwimi lulula kwaye lufutshane. Abantwana abanalo ixesha lokujonga kakuhle kunye nokugcina, ke uya kuphulukana nengqwalaselo yabo ukuba uthi izivakalisi ezinzima.
- Mamela xa ethetha nawe. Xa ukwinqanaba eliphezulu lomntwana wakho ukuba ugcine unxibelelwano oluhle, mvumele ukuba aveze iimvakalelo zakhe naye. Banike ixesha lokuba baphendule ngawabo amazwi kwaye bamamele kakuhle xa bethetha. Khumbula ukuba amandla abo omlomo asezantsi kwaye kuya kufuneka uqonde ngomyalezo wabo kunye nezinto abazama ukukuhambisa zona.
- Bonisa ukuba uyabaqonda kwaye uyabamamela. Ukubonisa ukuba uyamqonda, kuya kufuneka ushwankathele amagama akhe kwaye unqwale ngelixa ethetha nawe. Ngale ndlela uya kuziva uqondwa kwaye uve. Myeke abone ukuba uyayiqonda imbono yakhe nokuba awusoloko uvumelana nale nto ayithethayo.
Ukusukela ngoku uyayazi indlela omele uziphathe ngayo xa abantwana bakho beziphethe kakubi. Khumbula ukuba ukuba novalo okanye ukungxola ayisiyondlela ilungileyo.