Ngamanye amaxesha abantakwethu basizisa phantsi, bayaphazamiseka, siyaphikisana, siyalwa, ngakumbi xa sibancinci. Nangona kunjalo, asazi ukuba singaphila njani ngaphandle kwabo, ziyasiguqula zisityebise ngokulinganayo.
Ezinye iingcali ngengqondo ziyavuma ukuba ukuba nomntakwenu kuhlala kuluncedo ekukhuleni komntwana. Hayi kuphela kwinqanaba leemvakalelo, kodwa nakwinqanaba lokuqonda. Ukuba nabantwana ababini ngumceli mngeni onokuba kulungele ukuthatha.
Izibonelelo zokuba ubenomntakwenu
Kuyacaca ngakumbi ukuba unabantakwenu kuluncedo kuphuhliso lwengqondo nangowuphi na umntwana. Le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokufunda ukunxibelelana nabanye. Umntwana wakho uya kufunda kunye nomntakwabo ukuba aziphathe kakuhle, uya kuchatshazelwa ngumzekelo wakhe kwaye azive ehamba naye, ekhula ibhondi ekhethekileyo echaphazelekayo.
Isibonelelo sokuqonda sokuba nomntakwenu silele kunxibelelwano. Abantwana baya kudlala, bafunde omnye komnye kwaye kunye, bejonge izisombululo ezifanayo. Olu nxibelelwano aluchaphazeli inqanaba lokuqonda kuphela, kunjalo linefuthe kuphuhliso lweemvakalelo. Umntwana wakho uya kuziva yedwa yedwa kwaye uya kuncipha kwiingxaki zokuxhalaba, ukuxinezeleka, ukuxinezeleka okanye ukwesaba. Kusengqiqweni, kuba xa uhamba nomzalwana uya kuziva ukhatshwa ngakumbi.
Kukwabalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba umntu ngamnye kubantakwenu uza kuthatha indima, eyona nto iqhelekileyo kukuba oyena mdala uthathe okona kukhusela. Nangona oku kungenjalo kwimeko zonke, Indima yomkhuseli ithathwa ngumzalwana onamandla, olona lukwaziyo nokuzimisela.
Umceli mngeni wokukhulisa abantakwenu kunye nezinto onokuthi uziphephe
Njengoko besesitshilo, ngumceli mngeni ukukhulisa ngaphezulu komntwana omnye, ngakumbi ukuba sithathela ingqalelo ukuba kuya kusiba nzima ukuhlangabezana nazo zonke iimfuno zovakalelo, zoqoqosho kunye nefuthe lomntwana. Iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo, sukuthalalisa. Kodwa kuya kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo ezinye izinto ekufuneka zithintelwe ukuze uphuhliso lwazo zombini lwenziwe ngeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo.
Kananjalo kuyakufuneka ukuba ungenelele phakathi kwabazalwana xa kukho iingxabano nokulwa.
Kuyintsomi ukuba ubaphathe ngokufanayo, kuba nganye iya kwahluka, bayakudinga izinto ezahlukeneyo kwaye iimfuno zabo kufuneka zihoyelwe. Into ebalulekileyo kukuphepha ukuthelekisa, njengoko besitshilo, umntu ngamnye wahlukile kwaye unelungelo lokuba njengoko enjalo, akakho ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi komntakwabo, kwaphela. Abantwana bakho kufuneka bakhulise ngamnye ngesantya sakhe, ungabanyanzeli, oku kunokubangela ukungavisisani phakathi kwabo kwaye kwenzakalise ukukhula kobo buhlobo buthile benziweyo phakathi kwabantakwabo.
Yiva ixabiso lomzalwana
Akubalulekanga nje ukuziva ukuba kunye nomzalwana ngexesha lokukhula komntwana, ngelixa sikhula. Ngokwenene siyaqhubeka nokukhula kubo bonke ubomi bethu kwaye kubalulekile ukugcina olo bhondi njengoko sikhula.
Kuyasomeleza ukwazi ukuba unokuthembela kwelo qabane linomdla, elikukhusele kumaphupha amabi okanye kwizilo zewadi. Ngaloyo umbongi webali, owathi, kamva, wacula kunye nawe ebusheni. Kubalulekile ukuyazi loo nto Ngenye imini uyakukwazi ukubuyisa bonke obo butyebi bukuzisele bona, kuba unewonga lokwazi ukuba lusapho lwakho.