Ngaba ukhulelwe kwaye uziva isidingo esingxamisekileyo sokucoca, uku-odola kunye nokulungiselela yonke into xa usana lwakho lufika? Ngaba kuye kwafuneka upeyinte iindonga, upolishe imigangatho, utshintshe ubume befanitshala okanye wenze omnye umsebenzi ekhaya ongakhange uwenze ngaphambili? Ukuba uziva uchongiwe, usenokuba uphila kwinto eyaziwa njenge Isifo seNest syndrome, imeko ye Uxinzelelo lokuba abanye abantu basetyhini bafumana ukolulwa kokugqibela kokukhulelwa kwaye oko kuhlala kuchaphazela oomama abatsha. Kodwa ngaba i-nest syndrome ikho ngokwenene okanye yintsomi nje?
Ukuba sijonga izilwanyana, siyayibona loo nto iintlobo ezininzi, abe nokuziphatha efanayo ngaphambi kokusondela kokufika kwabantwana babo. Iintaka zilungisa iindlwana zazo ngaphambi kokubeka nokufukama amaqanda, kwaye izilwanyana ezininzi zifuna indawo yokuhlala, ukuhlala zodwa, kunye nemingxunya, ngeentsuku okanye kwiiyure ngaphambi kwesahlulo. Ayimangalisi into yokuba abantu ababhinqileyo, njengezilwanyana esanyisayo, baziva Ithuku lokulungisa ikhaya ukukhathalela nokukhusela usana lwethu.
I-nest syndrome inenkcazo yomzimba. Kwiiveki zokugqibela zokukhulelwa, ukuveliswa kwe oxytocin. Le hormone, eyaziwa njenge "IHormone yothando" Iyabandakanyeka kwiinkqubo ezininzi zobomi bezesondo kunye nokuzala, kubandakanya ukubetheka kwesibeleko ngexesha lokubeleka, ukuncancisa, kunye Ithuku lomama elisenza sithandane ngokungathandabuzekiyo nosana lwethu kwaye sifuna ukukunika ezona zinto zamkelwe kakuhle.
Emotionally, isifo sesidleke ngu Ukubonakaliswa koxinzelelo kunye nokungaqiniseki okubangelwa kukufika kosana. Ukujongana nemeko entsha nengaziwayo, uninzi lwabasetyhini abakhulelweyo kufuneka babe nemvakalelo yokuba yonke into ilawulwa ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye inoxolo lwengqondo lokuba yonke into izakuhamba kakuhle ukusukela kumzuzu wokuqala. Ngale ndlela, ukwenza eminye imisebenzi kunokuba luncedo. Ewe kufanelekile ukuthatha amanyathelo okhuseleko njengokuphepha ukuphakamisa izinto ezinzima kakhulu ezinokukwenzakalisa, ukunyuka kwindawo ezinobungozi okanye ukungasebenzisi iipeyinti eziyityhefu kunye neemveliso zokucoca. Kukwabalulekile ukuba uhloniphe amaxesha okuphumla kuba kuyakufuneka uqokelele amandla okuhambisa kunye ne-puerperium.
Asingabo bonke abantu besetyhini abanamava esifo se-nest. Abanye oomama bayaphumla kancinci ngelixa abanye becinga ukukhulelwa ngendlela ekhululekileyo okanye sele benamava nabanye abantwana kwaye baziva bekhuselekile. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba, nokuba uziva ufuna ukushiya indlu yakho ingenachaphaza, okanye ukuba uziva udiniwe okanye uzolile, ukonwabele lonke inqanaba lokukhulelwa kwakho.