Yiba i-madre Yinto ayifunayo wonke umntu wasetyhini ngexesha elithile ebomini bakhe, ukusuka nge-30 ukuya kwe-35 ukuba ibhinqa alinayo Oonyana kuxa ahlala ecinga ngokuba ngumama okanye hayi. Nokuba sineqabane elizinzileyo okanye asinalo, siyazi ukuba ixesha liqala ukudlula kwaye kufuneka sikhethe phakathi kokuba nokuba nokungabinako inzala.
Al Vuka lo mbuzo uvelisa ungquzulwano olunezizathu oluveliswe yingcinga zentlalo ukuba umfazi kungekudala okanye kamva abe nenzala. Ngapha koko, xa umntu obhinqileyo ethatha isigqibo sokungabi nabantwana, uhlala ethethelela iinjongo ngathi ucela uxolo into ekungamelanga ibenjalo. Kukho imini xa umfazi ezicingela njengomama, uqala ukubona ukhulelwe kuyo yonke indawo, sithathe amathe sijonge ezinye iintsana okanye ngequbuliso sizibona sijonge iimpahla okanye iimagazini ukubeleka… Le yinto ibizwa ngokuba yiwotshi yendalo. Abasetyhini bathathe iindima ezahlukeneyo ngokuba ngoomama okanye ukusebenza ekhaya kuphela, singene kwilizwe lomsebenzi, siyafunda, sizimele ... kwaye sikuxabisile ukuzinza kakhulu ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ngoomama, umsebenzi, uzinzo ngokweemvakalelo okanye kumaqabane, ukuba nekhaya ...
Namhlanje i ubudala eendaba Owesifazane ukuba abe nabantwana uphakathi kweminyaka engama-25 ukuya kwengama-32 ubudala, eyokugqibela ibudala apho ukuchuma kuncipha khona kunye nomngcipheko wokukhulelwa ngenxa yobudala yoomama ukwanda. Ngenxa yokunyuka komngcipheko onxulunyaniswa nobudala bomama, kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba uninzi lweentsana luzelwe lusempilweni.
Akufuneki sitsho ukuba obu buchule bokuba nabantwana ukuba banabo abafazi buyamangalisa njengoko amava ezemvakalelo, ezomzimba kunye nokudibana kwaye eso sisiseko esisisiseko sokuqinisekisa ukuqhubeka Iintlobo zabantu. Kodwa oku ukubeleka ayifanelanga ukuba yi i sigqibo Iyafuneka kodwa inketho yasimahla kuye wonke umntu wasetyhini anike uthando kunye nokhathalelo kumntwana amzisayo.