Xa usana luza emhlabeni kubonakala ngathi alufundi kwanto kodwa inyani kukuba ubuchopho bayo abuyeki ukufunda nokwenza ulwazi kwinqanaba elothusayo. Ootata kunye noomama kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi bosana lwabo baya kufunda izinto ezinkulu malunga nokubancinci kwabo (nakubo bonke ubomi bakhe), kodwa umntwana uya kufunda izinto ezinkulu kubazali bakhe.
Ke ngoko, licebo elihle ukuba wazi zonke izinto ezinokufundwa ngabantwana ngeengqondo zabo ezincinci, kuba banako ukufumana ulwazi ngakumbi kunokuba unokucinga ngoku. Ukuba unomntwana ekhaya, ungaphoswa yiyo yonke into anokuyifunda ngoku enkosi.
Ukususela kwiinyanga ezi-0 ukuya kwezi-2
Xa umntwana wakho esandula kuzalwa, uya kuqala ukuva yonke into emngqongileyo (ukusukela kwiinyanga ezisixhenxe zokukhulelwa wayenokuliva ilizwi lakho kunye nengxolo ehluzayo kulwelo olusuka esibelekweni). Kodwa xa ezalwa, umntwana wakho ufuna ukuba uthethe naye, umbambe ... Usana lwakho luyalazi ilizwi lakho kwaye kufuneka ulimamele rhoqo, nokuba ucinga ukuba akakuqondi (kwaye ayikenzeki), isandi selizwi lakho simnika ukhuseleko lweemvakalelo kunye nentuthuzelo.
Ukongeza, umntwana wakho akanawo umbono ophucukileyo wokubona kwaye ubona kufiphele ngenxa yokuba umbono wakhe usasazekile, kodwa kufutshane naye unokubona kakuhle. Ngale ndlela, xa uncancisa umntwana wakho, uya kuba nakho ukubona ubuso bakho ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye azi ukuba ungumama wakhe. Ukuba utata umondla ngebhotile, ubudlelwane obuhle bunokusekwa phakathi kwaba babini.
Ivumba lakho nalo libalulekile. Ivumba lomntwana liphuhliswa kakhulu ekuzalweni kuba ngale ndlela baqinisekisa ukwahlula ivumba likanina ukuze bakwazi ukondla ngobisi lwabo lwebele. Iintsana ezineminyaka emi-3 ubudala zinokuxela ngokugqibeleleyo ukuba yintoni ubisi lukanina kunolo lomnye umntu ngevumba. Iintsana ziyalithanda ivumba likanina kwaye kuyathuthuzela. Usana luthanda ukuzimela phakathi kwesilevu nendoda kanina kuba lunokuzithuthuzela ngevumba lalo ... Luyazi ukuba ngumama!
Iintsana zifunda ukondla xa zilambile. Iintsana xa bezimalunga neeveki ezintandathu ubudala bazakube bondle malunga namakhulu amabini amaxesha ukuze babe sele beqhelene nolandelelwano lweziganeko. Iintsana zifunda ukuba xa zilambile kufuneka zikhale ngokutya. Bafundile ukukuthemba xa belambile kwaye bathule kuphela xa besazi ukuba bazokutya kunye nokutya. Akayi kuwaqonda amazwi akho kodwa xa usitsho izinto ezinje: 'thatha ubusi, uza kutya', uya kuyazi ukuba uyamkhathalela.
Uya kwazi ukuba uya kumthuthuzela nanini na eyidinga. Xa umntwana wakho ekhala, akenzi oko ukukwenza ube nexhala, uyenza kuba efuna uthando lwakho olungenamiqathango ukuze abuyele kwimeko yokuzola nokuphumla. Yiyo loo nto ekhala, ukuze usondele uze umwonge. Funda ukuba eyona nto ikukuthuthuzela ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukususela kwiinyanga ezi-2 ukuya kwezi-6
Xa umntwana wakho edlula kwiinyanga ezimbini zobomi ukuya kuthi ga kwisithandathu, uya kufunda izinto ezintle nokuba awuziqondi ngokupheleleyo. Uya kuqala ukuqaphela ukuba abanye abantu banjengabanye kunabanye, uya kubuqonda ubuso bakho kwaye azive enothando olunzulu ngokukujonga nje, kodwa xa eneeveki ezili-12 ubudala uyakuqonda ukuba ukuba ujonga abanye abantu wabo ujongeka njengonina kunabanye (abafazi vs. amadoda).
Iintsana xa zimalunga neenyanga ezintathu ubudala zikhetha ukujonga ubuso babasetyhini kuba oonina ngabona babakhathalelayo, kodwa xa abona banonopheli bangamadoda, bakhetha ubuso bendoda. Umntwana usebenzisa ubuso bomkhathaleli ukuthelekisa nabanye
Phakathi kweenyanga ezi-2 ukuya kwezi-6 zobomi umntwana wakho uqala ukuqaphela ngobuso ukuba wonwabile okanye ulusizi. Kanye njengokuba umhlisa umoya kwaye umnike uthando xa umntwana wakho ekufuna, umntwana wakho uya kuzama ukukuvuyisa xa ekubona ulusizi ... kwaye uya kufuna ukubona uncumo ebusweni bakho. Unokuziva ucaphukisa xa ungancumanga. Usana lwakho lukufuna wonwabe ukuba uhlakulele ukukhula ngokwasemoyeni.
Usana lwakho lunokuziva iimvakalelo zakho ukuze ungothuki xa usana lwakho lucaphuka ngakumbi kunesiqhelo xa uxinezelekile. Ukuba unesimo esibi nangasiphi na isizathu, umntwana wakho uya kuziva iimvakalelo kwaye uya kuba nemeko embi naye. Iintsana ziyaziqhelanisa nazo naziphi na iimvakalelo onazo kwaye ziya kusabela ngokwendlela oziva ngayo. Ngale ndlela, kubalulekile ukuba uyikhathalele impilo yakho yeemvakalelo ukuze uxhamle impilo yomntwana wakho.
Umntwana wakho ufunda ukuba ungumntu ohlekisayo omenza azive kamnandi. Uyakumhlekisa, wenze izinto ezingenangqondo ukonwaba kunye naye ... Kwiinyanga ezintandathu, usana luqala ukukhulisa uburharha kwaye luya kukwazi ukuhleka ngentliziyo xa kukho into emenza azive kamnandi. Ukuba ubona okanye uve into ongayilindelanga, ukuhleka kwakho kuya kusasazeka kakhulu. Kodwa kuya kufuneka ulumke, kuba kuya kuxhomekeka kwizintlekisa ofuna ukuzenza endaweni yobabalo, ungamnika uloyiko olukhulu ... Ke cinga ngononophelo ngohlobo lokuqhula ofuna ukumenza ukuba ahleke endaweni yokulila ngokungalawulekiyo.
Njengoko ubona, iinyanga ezintandathu zokuqala zobomi bomntwana wakho zibaluleke kakhulu ekukhuleni kwakhe kwaye ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ukuvuseleleka rhoqo, uthando olungenamiqathango kunye nokunxibelelana nomntwana wakho kuya kubaluleka kulonwabo lwakhe. Umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba ungubani kwaye kwiinyanga zakhe zokuqala zobomi uya kuyifumana imeko yakhe enkosi kuwe. Uyibhulorho ekuvumela ukuba wonwabele usuku nosuku kwaye uzive ukhululekile ngokwasemphefumlweni, umama notata wakho zezona zibalulekileyo ngawo onke amaxesha!