Ukuba ngutata okanye umama akuyi kuba ngowona msebenzi ulula ebomini bakho, kunzima, kuyadinisa kwaye kuyadinisa. Kwakhona yeyona nto intle uya kuyifumana kwaye uya kubathanda abantwana bakho kakhulu ngeyona ndlela ubungasoze ucinge ngayo ukuba uthando olukhulu kangako lwalunokubakho phakathi kwabantu ababini. Indlela yobuzali yindlela enzima kodwa yeyona ibalulekileyo ebomini bakho bonke.
Kodwa ngelishwa, kuya kubakho izinto ekufuneka uzitshintshe xa abantwana bakho beza ebomini bakho. Ngoku uya kuba nezinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka: wena, abantwana bakho kunye nentlalontle yosapho lwakho. Ke ngoko, uya kuqala ukuqonda ukuba kukho izinto ezingasayi kuba yinto ephambili kuwe xa sele ungumama / utata. Kodwa yintoni ezi zinto?
Izinto ezingasekhoyo ebomini bakho xa usiba ngumama
1. Umsebenzi wakho
Hayi. Asitsho ukuba uncama yonke into osokola ukuyifumana ukuza kuthi ga ngoku okanye uyeke umsebenzi ukuze ubakhathalele, kude lee kuyo! Kodwa kufuneka ubenenyani kwaye mhlawumbi unabantwana abakukhawulelayo kwiinkalo ezithile zomsebenzi wakho, nokuba kukwasemsebenzini okanye kwizifundo. Ukuba nabantwana kuthetha ukuba kufuneka unikezele ixesha kubo kwaye, ngenxa yoko, kukho izinto ezihlala zingasemva.
Kuyinyani ukuba ukuba uyakwazi ukuhlela ixesha lakho kakuhle kwaye ungumntu olikhoboka lokusebenza (into engacetyiswanga kwaphela), ungasoloko uthatha ixesha elingaphezulu lomsebenzi kunabantwana bakho. Kodwa kule meko uya kuyityeshela ukukhula kunye nothando ekufuneka ubanikeze abantwana bakho njengotata okanye umama. Nangona kuyinyani ukuba kufuneka usebenze nzima ukondla usapho lwakho, kuya kufuneka ubekhona ebomini nasekukhuliseni abantwana bakho.
2. Izinto endizithandayo
Izinto ozithandayo azisayi kuba yeyona nto iphambili kuwe, okanye ubuncinci ayizizo zonke. Xa uba ngumzali, izinto ozithandayo nazo zihlala kwisitulo esingasemva. Asithethi ukuba uyeke ukwenza into oyithandayo (into engafanelekanga, kuba kufuneka uthathe ixesha lokuzikhathalela kwaye wenze oko kukuzalisa ngokwenene), kodwa uya kuba nexesha elincinci lokwenza. Ngapha koko, cIsikhukula unabantwana okanye abantwana abancinci kakhulu, kunokuba nzima ngakumbi ukudibanisa ukuba ngumzali kunye nezibophelelo kunye nezinto ozithandayo.
3. Izilwanyana zasekhaya
Mhlawumbi ngaphambi kokuba ngutata okanye umama ubucinga ukuba uyazithanda izilwanyana zakho ngokungathi ngabantwana bakho. Kuyinyani ukuba bayathandana kakhulu, kodwa awusoze uthelekise uvakalelo malunga nesilwanyana sasekhaya kunye nothando lwabantwana, kwaye xa ungutata okanye umama ungohlula kakuhle kule nto. Xa unabantwana, izilwanyana (kunjalo) ziya kuqhubeka ziyinxalenye ebaluleke kakhulu yosapho, kodwa baya kuhamba kwinqanaba elisezantsi ebomini bakho kuba abantwana bakho baya kuba ngaphezulu kwabo.
4. Ubomi boluntu
Xa usiba ngumzali uza kuchitha ixesha elininzi ekhaya. Oku kunokubangela iingxaki zoxinzelelo okanye isithukuthezi, ke kuya kufuneka ufumane indlela yokwenza ukuba ngumzali kube mnandi, inkqubo yokuyila kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, oko kukugcwalise ngaphakathi ... Ngale ndlela uya kuziva uzalisekile. Yintoni egqithisile, ukuba uziva ubambekile ebomini bakho kwaye ufuna ixesha lasimahla, cwangcisa ixesha losapho lwakho ukuze ukwazi ukufumana eli xesha lixabisekileyo ulichitha kunye neqabane lakho nedwa okanye nabahlobo bakho.
Cela uncedo xa kufuneka okanye ufumane umntu ogcina umntwana onokumgcina onako ukubakhathalela abantwana bakho iiyure ezimbalwa. Nangona kuyinyani ukuba ubomi bakho ekuhlaleni buya kujongeka bunomsindo, oku akuthethi ukuba akufuneki ubonwabele ubomi. Ngokucwangcisa ixesha lakho, ungathatha ixesha ngeveki ukuzinikezela.
5. Umhombiso wekhaya lakho
Ukuba ubuqhele ukuba nomhombiso ongenakuthelekiswa nanto ekhayeni lakho ngaphambi kokuba ngutata okanye umama, nayo yonke into icocekile kwaye icwangciswe kakuhle. Xa unabantwana, umhombiso uya kwahluka kakhulu ... Iya kuhambelana nobomi bosapho kwaye ayizukubekwa. Iya kuba ngumhombiso owahlukileyo kwaye uya kuyithanda ngaloo ndlela.
Kuya kubakho iintsuku apho indlu yakho iya kuba yintlekele kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kufuneka wenze utshintsho olululo ekucwangcisweni kwendawo kunye nefenitshala yabantwana bakho. Ukuba ukhathalele umbutho kunye nokuhonjiswa kwekhaya lakho, ungaphoxeki ... Le yinxalenye yokuba nabantwana, yeyona nto iqhelekileyo emhlabeni. Ukongeza, kubalulekile ukuba ulungelelanise ikhaya nabantwana bakho ukuphepha iingozi ezingeyomfuneko kunye nokufumana yonke into oyifunayo ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Iindawo zokugcina ziya kuba yeyona nto iphambili kuwe, ngaphezulu kokuphambili kwezinto zokuhombisa zobuhle. Ngabantwana, ukuba nekhaya elonakeleyo akunakuphepheka.
6. Thatha uhambo
Ewe ungaqhubeka nokuhamba kodwa ayizukufana ngoba ukuba uyenza nabantwana kuyakufuneka ubakhathalele kwaye ubakhathalele maxa onke kwaye awuzukukonwabela ukutyelelwa kwiindawo ezintsha ngendlela efanayo. Kwelinye icala, unokuziva ungonwabanga ngokuchitha imali kuhambo xa ungayichitha kwezinye izinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi ekukhuliseni abantwana.
Kwakhona, ukuba usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa, kufuneka ungahambi umgama kude kangangeenyanga ezimbini zokuqala. Utshintsho lwemozulu kunye nohambo olude ayisiyonto abantwana abanokuyinyamezela ngendlela efanayo nabantu abadala. Kude kube ubuncinci iinyanga ezintathu ubudala, kungcono ukuphepha iihambo ezibandakanya umsebenzi omninzi.
Ezi zinto zintandathu eziya kuthi ziyeke ukubekwa phambili xa usiba ngumama (okanye utata). Kuba Ubomi nabantwana bubomi beenguqu, sukulindela ukuba yonke into ihlale injalo xa befika emhlabeni, kuba ayinjalo. Abantwana bayakutshintsha indlela ophila ngayo, indlela yakho yokucinga ... Yonke into iyakwahluka. Kodwa masiqinisekise ngento enye: izakubangcono kakhulu kunangaphambili. Ulonwabo oluziswa ngabantwana ebomini alunakuthelekiswa nanto, kwaye nangona usuku ngalunye lungumceli mngeni omtsha kwaye ukhathaza into oqhele ukuyenza engqondweni yakho, awungekhe ubatshintshe nantoni na emhlabeni.