Kukho izinto malunga nokukhulelwa ekungaxelelwa mntu kodwa ingangumbono olungileyo ukuba wazi ukuze ubuncinci uzilungiselele into ezayo ukuba usandula ukukhulelwa. Ukukhulelwa linqanaba lemilingo ukuba abantu basetyhini banethamsanqa lokuphila, kwaye nangona kuyinto entle kwaye iyamangalisa ukukwazi ukwenza ubomi ngaphakathi kwethu, inyani yeyokuba kukho iindawo zokukhulelwa ezingamnandi kangako kwaye kukho izinto ekufanele ukuba zathethwa kuwe ... ke ngoku ndiza kukwazisa wena zonke ezo zinto!
Kodwa kuqala kwinto yonke, kufuneka ndikuxelele ukuba andifuni ukukukhathaza kakhulu kuba zonke ezo "zinto" ekungekho mntu ukuxelelayo zinochuku olunezona zisombululo. Kungenxa yokuba ukongeza kubunzima, uya kuba nezinye izibonelelo ezininzi zokuba ukhulelwe, umzekelo, ulusu lwakho luhle, iinwele zakho zomelele, unokulala ngakumbi kwaye unikwe izihlalo kwizithuthi zikawonkewonke. Nangona ingeyiyo yonke into intle, kuya kufuneka ujonge indawo elungileyo, kuba okona kulungileyo kuseza kwaye kuya kuba semva kokuhanjiswa.
Musa ukutya ezimbini
Ewe, esi sisizathu sokuba uninzi lwabasetyhini lube nakho ukwanelisa indlala yabo okanye iminqweno yabo ekukhulelweni. Kuyinyani ukuba ayizukwenzeka nakubani na ukuba axelele umntu okhulelweyo ukuba ayeke ukutya xa elambile, kodwa ngumfazi okhulelweyo ekufuneka azi ukuba uzokutya nini kwaye njani. Kodwa kuyinyani ukuba abasetyhini abakhulelweyo bahlala bexelelwa ukuba bangatya nantoni na abayifunayo xa oku kungeyonyani.. Ukuba utya into oyifunayo okanye ucinga ukuba kufuneka uyitya isibini, uya kuthi chu ukutyeba kwaye utyebe oya kuthi kamva akubize kakhulu ukushiya ngasemva.
Kufuneka ucace ukuba ukukhulelwa kuthetha ukuba nokutya okusempilweni, ukutya ukutya okuncinci kodwa amaxesha amaninzi emini ... kodwa ukulandela ukutya okunezondlo. Iminqweno ilungile ukuba ube nexesha elithile (ukuthanda kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba ufuna into ethile), kodwa kufuneka ubalawule. Ukuba uchitha lonke ixesha lokukhulelwa kwakho usitya iitshokholethi okanye abaqhotsi, unokufumana umbono wefuthe elinokuba nalo kwimpilo yakho nakumntwana wakho.
Iimpahla zokubeleka ziyabiza
Iimpahla zokubeleka ziyabiza, oku kuyinyani kodwa uyakudinga. Awudingi kuthenga iimpahla ezininzi zokubeleka okanye uchithe imali eninzi kuzo. Ukukhulelwa kuthatha iinyanga ezilithoba kwaye iimpahla zokukhulelwa ziya kugcinwa ekhabhathini. Ngokufanelekileyo, kuya kufuneka ubuze abahlobo okanye abanye oomama ukuba banempahla yokukhulelwa abanokuboleka ngayo kwezi nyanga, okanye bathenge iimpahla ezithengiswayo okanye banxibe iimpahla ezinobungakanani obukhulu obukulingana kakuhle. Kodwa into ekufuneka uyicacisile, xa isisu siqala ukukhula, ungazami ukunxiba iimpahla zakho zesiqhelo kuba ukongeza ekubeni ungonwabanga ungasenzakalisa isisu sakho.
Ukukhulelwa akukho lula
Nangona kuyinyani ukuba kukho abantu ababhinqileyo abathi ukukhulelwa kwabo kulula kwaye abakhange bakubone oko, inyani yeyokuba uninzi lwabasetyhini ehlabathini, ukukhulelwa kunokuba namaxesha anzima kakhulu. Ubuhlungu bemisipha, xa uvuka uhlale phantsi kuba ngumceli mngeni, xa kufuneka uye kwigumbi lokuhlambela amatyeli angama-20 ngeyure ezimbini, xa unesisu, xa isitshisa siba sentlokothweni ekuphefumleni, xa udiniwe ngalo lonke ixesha, xa iihormone zikwenza ube nemvakalelo yokucaphuka kwaye uyacaphukisa wena kunye nabanye ... Yonke into inokuba liqoqo lamaxesha anzima. Kodwa kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba umzimba wakho uyatshintsha ngamanye amaxesha kwaye ufuna amandla kunye nezixhobo ezininzi ukunika ubomi.
Ungaze nanini na ucinge ukuba ubuthathaka kuba iintlungu zikukhathaza okanye ucinga ukuba kunzima kakhulu okanye kunzima. Ukukhulelwa kunzima ngokubanzi kubo bonke abantu basetyhini kwaye akukho mntu uya kuba nakho ukonwabela yonke imizuzu yokukhulelwa, kunokubakho amaxesha anzima ngakumbi kunabanye. Kodwa inye into onokuqiniseka ngayo, uya kumthanda umntwana wakho ngaphambi kokuba azalwe nokuba awuyithandi into ohamba kuyo ngeenyanga ezili-9.
Awunakho ukuhlala phantsi
Ukuba uhlala uhlala phantsi ngesiqhelo, kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba ngekhe uhlale xa ukhulelwe. Kuya kufuneka wenze umthambo nokuba uhamba iyure ngosuku, kufuneka uzilungiselele umsebenzi kwaye oku kuyakufuneka ubume. Ukongeza, kubalulekile ukuba ungafumani ngaphezulu kweakhawunti kuba oko kunokubangela iingxaki ekuzithembeni kwakho emva kokuba usana luzelwe. Oomama abaninzi bakufumanisa kunzima ukubeka ijee zabo ezixineneyo kuba bengakhange batye ukutya okufanelekileyo kunye nokungahambi ngokwaneleyo ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Namhlanje unokwenza imisebenzi eyenzelwe abasetyhini abakhulelweyo ukuba basebenzise kwaye ukubeleka kunye nasemva kokubeleka kunokuba yinto elula ngaphandle kweengxaki ezongeziweyo.
Lumka uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka
Ukudakumba emva kokubeleka yinto eyenzeka kubantu basetyhini xa bezala. Uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka luhlala lubonakala ngomhla wesibini okanye wesithathu emva kokubeleka kwaye ihlala ihlala ukuya kuthi ga kwiiveki ezimbini, kodwa iya kuxhomekeka kumfazi ngamnye kuba kwiimeko ezinzima kakhulu inokuhlala ngaphezulu kweeveki kunye neenyanga. Emva kokubeleka uya kuba sisidududu seemvakalelo kwaye kunokuba yingozi.
Kukho oomama abacinga ukuba abazithandi iintsana zabo kwangoko kwaye bazive benetyala ngayo, abanye bacinga ukuba ibingeyiyo le nto bebeyilindele, abanakho ukuba ngoomama, bazive bedidekile okanye bedidekile, okanye amadoda abo zingumqobo ... zonke ezi ziingcinga ezingenangqondo ngenxa yoxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka zinokulawulwa ngokwazi ukuba yeyokwexeshana. Uya kuba neemvakalelo ezingalawulekiyo, kodwa ungazithathi, cinga ukuba ungumama, ukuba emva kokusebenza nzima kokukhulelwa umzimba wakho kufuneka ubuyele esiqhelweni nakumahomoni akho. Womelele kwaye uthando lwakho ngomntwana wakho lukhulu kakhulu.