Kutheni umama eya kuhlala elungile kubantwana bakhe

Sonke sithethile ngamanye amaxesha ebomini bethu, "Umama wam ngoyena ulungileyo." Kuhle ukuhlala phantsi ucamngce ngesizathu sale nto. Nangona kukho oomama abatyikityiweyo okanye abantwana abahlukanisiweyo kwaye ingenakwenziwa ngokubanzi, phantse ibe yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntwana ngamnye, umama wakhe, abe ngoyena ulungileyo.

Isenokuba sisibakala esingokwengqondo sokuba lonke usana ludinga i umzobo wokuncamathisela, umtyise, ahlangabezane neemfuno zakhe zomzimba kunye neemvakalelo ngawo onke amaxesha ngokona kunakho konke anako.

Umama umanyene nosana lwakhe ukusuka ekukhawulweni

Umama webhayoloji uncamathele kunyana wakhe oneenyanga ezili-9 ubudala ngentambo, ekuthi kungekuphela nje ukuba igazi lijikeleze ngezakhamzimba, kodwa kunye neziphelo zemithambo-luvo, zilayishwe ngolwazi kunye nezinto ezikhuthazayo umntwana azifumana kunina.

Ngexesha lokuqala lobomi, olo sana luphila, ngokoqobo ngunina. Uyayoliswa yiyo yonke into ayithandayo, kwaye uyala into angayithandiyo. Le ntambo isitrato esinamacala amabini, kuba umama ukwaqaphela ukuba umntwana wakhe uyaphazamiseka kwaye uziva etshintshiwe yimeko ethile kwimeko yakhe okanye ukuba ukhululekile kwaye uzolile, nangona iindudumo ziwela kuye.

Umama angatya ibhaskiti epheleleyo yeeorenji kuba usana lwakhe luyazithanda kwaye uyazazi. Nangona isayensi isenokungachazi ngokuchanekileyo nangokuchanekileyo ukuba olo nxibelelwano lukhona ngokwenene okanye sisiphumo sesiphakamiso kunye neenkolelo ezithandwayo kunye neenkolelo, ezinje ngokuba kubizwa ngokuba "yiminqweno".

Umama, nokuba uyamkhulisa, ukhethekile kwaye unobudlelwane obukhulu nonyana wakhe.

Ujonge inzala yakhe ukusukela xa inikezelwa kuye ezingalweni zakhe kwaye ehlangabezana nemfuno yokhuthazo ukuba umama wakhe omzeleyo akakwazanga ukumnika. Njengoko sele nditshilo, kuyinyani ukungqinisisa kwizifundo zengqondo ukuba bonke abantwana badinga inani elinye okanye nangaphezulu lokunamathela kuphuhliso oluchanekileyo lwezakhono nobuntu babo.

Owona mfanekiso uqhotyoshelweyo uqhelekileyo kwaye ke oyena uphambili, usengunina. Nangona inkqubela phambili yomhlaba kunye nendima yesini isasazeka ngakumbi kwaye kukho abazali abaninzi abajongene nokukhathalela iimfuno zomzimba kunye neemvakalelo zabantwana babo, nguye ophethe olu xanduva lumnandi nolunzima.

Abantwana bayazi ukuba oomama babo bahlukile ehlabathini.

Abantwana ngabantu kwasekuzalweniKe ngoko, nangona bengenakho ukuchaza ngendlela efanayo naleyo besifunda ngayo kule minyaka idlulileyo, bafumana isikhuthazi. Umntwana akafundi ngamazwi, umntwana ufunda kwimizekelo. Abantwana babona oomama babo bebondla, bebanxiba kwaye bebacoca, bewola, bebabalisela amabali kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, okubaluleke kakhulu, kubenza bahleke ngokungabikho namnye umntu apha emhlabeni.

Ezi ntsana ziyakhula Kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha, bayazi ukuba ngalo lonke ixesha umama wabo ebengekho, kungenxa yabo, ukuba akhale ngaphakathi kunabo xa kukho into ebuhlungu, engakhange alale kwakhona xa bevuka phakathi kusasa kunye nomkhuhlane, nokuba kufuneka aye emsebenzini ngosuku olulandelayo. Kwaye ziyaqhubeka zikhula kwaye ubone njani Umama wabo uyekile ukuthenga eyona nto ayithandayo kakhulu ukuze babenezihlangu ezitsha, okanye ngubani oyeke isikolo ukuze abancede ngcono, ngokufutshane, bayayiqonda loo nto yonke imihla wenza idini elitsha ukubondla, ukubanxiba, ukubacoca nokubenza bahleke njengoko kungekho namnye kweli hlabathi.

Umama umazi umntwana wakhe akekho omnye umntu.

Isenokuba njalo Umama uyayibona yonke indlela aziphethe ngayo okanye indlela aziphethe ngayo unyana wakhe, ukujongana nayo nayiphi na imfuneko enokubakho, nokuba injani na. Umama uyazi, njengoko besesitshilo, ukuba usana lwakhe luthanda iiorenji, ukuba unee pee, ukuba uyayithanda inkwenkwe okanye intombazana xa ikhula, okanye ukuba ufuna ukwenza ubuGcisa obuhle okanye ubuNjineli xa sele bebadala kwaye kufuneka Khetha ikamva labo. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba abantwana bahlale beziva inkxaso kunye nothando olungenamiqathango loomama babo.

Umama uyazi ukuba umntwana wakhe unokude akwazi ukuya phi, uluva ukhuthazo, inkxaso yakhe, inkuthazo yakhe, ethi ibangele ukuzithemba kwakhe. Umama uyakwazi ukukhuthaza ngomzekelo wakhe, iipateni zokuziphatha okanye zokuziphatha. Uyabazi abantwana bakhe kwaye uyabaqonda, uyazazi izinto abazifunayo ngamaxesha onke. Kungenxa yoko le nto umntwana ngamnye esazi ukuba kuye, umama wakhe uya kuhlala engoyena ulungileyo.