Nje ukuba ungumama, izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka zitshintsha kakhulu kwaye ngequbuliso. Uyeka ukwenza izinto obukade unomdla kuzo. Indawo ohlala kuyo iyatshintsha, iindlela zakho, amasiko akho, ubomi bakho buthatha indawo ebalulekileyo. Kodwa akufuneki ulahle umbono Kulula kakhulu ukuphulukana nawe kunye nempilo yakho kuyo yonke loo maelstrom yotshintsho.
Enye yezinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzigcinile kukuzikhathalela. Ukunyamekela impilo yakho, umzimba kunye nengqondo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze unakekele usapho lwakho. Abayi kulunga ukuba awulunganga.
Ukubaluleka kukamama
Xa umntwana wakho ezalwa, wena notata wakhe lihlabathi lakhe liphela, kuba akakho omnye. Inkathalo yakho ibalulekile kuba ubalulekile. Usana lwakho alunakuzikhusela, alunako ukondla, ukuhlamba, okanye ukugcina amaqondo obushushu omzimba ngaphandle kwakho.
Ukuba uncancisa, utata angamka kwaye ahambe usuku lonke ngaphandle kokuba umntwana wakho amphose, kodwa ngekhe. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba uthathe ithuba lokutyala ixesha lakho. Nokuba yimizuzu engama-20 kuphela ukuhlamba ngelixa umntwana wakho elele. Kubalulekile ukuba utye ngokwaneleyo kwaye uphumle, Ayisiyiyo kuphela kuba iphucula umgangatho wobisi. Kubalulekile ukugcina ulungelelwano lweemvakalelo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uzikhathalele ukuthintela iingxaki zempilo ezinjenge-anemia okanye ukungabikho kweevithamini. Kuya kufuneka uyenze ukuthintela iingxaki zempilo kwinqanaba leengqondo, njenge Ukudakumba emva kokubeleka.
Soloko uzikhathalela, hayi kuphela xa beziintsana
Njengokuba ungumama ngonaphakade okoko umntwana wakho ezelwe, ungumfazi kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke umntu, oko wazalwa. Kuya kufuneka uzikhathalele njalo kwaye uzinike ukubaluleka okukufaneleyo kunye nemfuno yakho. Kumaxesha akutshanje umnxeba uphuphuma koomama "ukudinwa" kwesifo okanye "ukutshiswa" kwesifo sengqondo somama.
Esi sifo sibonakala ngothotho lweempawu ezibangelwa kukudandatheka nokudinwa abantu abaninzi ababandezelekayo. madres hoy ngemini. Singomama, oomama abasebenza ezindlwini, abasebenzi, bonke ngaxeshanye kwaye sifuna ukugqibelela kuyo yonke into ithatha uxanduva.
Ukuphepha ukubandezeleka kubalulekile ukuba ukhathalele impilo yakho yomzimba neyengqondo. Inokukunceda ukuba uqhelise umthambo okusa kwimeko yokuphumla, njengeyoga. Oku kuya kuba luncedo ngakumbi xa uziqhelanisa nabantwana bakho, baya kukhululeka ngakumbi.
Ezinye iindlela zokukhathalela impilo yakho ukuze ube ngumama ongcono
Impilo ayilali kuphela kwisondlo esifanelekileyo kunye nokuzivocavoca umzimba. Kubalulekile ukukhathalela ingqondo. Ngamanye amaxesha eyona nto imbi kakhulu malunga nokuba ngumama kufuneka uyeke ukwenza izinto ozithandayo. Elona cebiso lilungileyo esinokukunika kule nkalo kukuba ungayenzi. Phuma nabahlobo bakho, funda incwadi, umamele umculo, ukonwabele yonke into ngokubanzi.
Kuya kufuneka uthathe ikhefu kwizinto ezithile xa usana lwakho luzelwe, kodwa ungaze uyeke ukwenza into othanda ukuyenza njengomama. Abantwana bakho baya kuyivuyela loo nto, kuba uya kuba ngumama owonwabileyo ofanelwe ngumntwana ngamnye.
Ngamanye amaxesha sicinga ukuba ngokuyeka umsebenzi wethu, izinto esizithandayo, senza ezona zinto zilungileyo kubo. Kwaye sizibeke ecaleni kancinci. Kodwa inyani kukuba thina ngokwethu siyile nto bayifunayo.
Umntwana akadingi mama ulusizi kwaye ukhathazekile. Uya kuziva ukuba ungcikivo kwaye uya kuba ngumntu omdala okhathazekileyo kuba akasayi kuze akwazi ukwanelisa umama wakhe.
Umntwana ufuna umama ovuyayo ukuba naye. Umama othi, ukuba akonwabanga kwaphela ukuba sekhaya yedwa kuye, ujonge indlela yokuziva ngcono ngaye. Lo mama ngumzekelo wokuphuculwa kwalo mntwana. Yi lowo uzikhathaleleyo angakhathali, ubeka umzekelo wokuba abe ngumntu opheleleyo, okhuselekileyo, ozimeleyo nonwabileyo, njengomama.