Kukho abazali abathi ngempazamo babe nomntwana wabo abathandayo kwaye abanakukunceda. Mhlawumbi bubuntu okanye indlela yokuziphatha nabo, ebangela ukuba abazali bazive bonwabile xa bekunye nomntwana endaweni yabanye.
Oku kunokuba yimpazamo yokuba ngumzali, ngakumbi xa abanye abantwana befumanisa ukuba ngubani oyena mntwana wabo amthandayo.
Ungaze uvumele abantwana bakho bacinge ukuba unayo into oyithandayo. Kuyinyani ukuba abazali abaninzi bacinga ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kuyahlekisa ukwenza ezi zinto kuba banomntwana. ukuba mhlawumbi uyathobela okanye kulula ukukhulisa kunabanye abantwana. Nangona kunjalo, awunakukwazi ukuthi unomntwana omthandayo kuba eli gama litolikwa njengothando olwahlukileyo kumntwana omnye kuphela.
Abantwana baya kucinga ukuba ukuba unomntwana omthandayo kungenxa yokuba umthanda lo mntwana ngaphezu kwabanye. Kubuhlungu ukucinga ukuba umntwana wakho uya kuziva ngathi awumthandi kakhulu ngenxa yokukhetha, Kodwa yindlela abavakalelwa ngayo xa usenza impazamo yokuqhula malunga nabantwana obathandayo.
Sebenzisa ibinzana elithi 'ungunyana wam oyintanda' yimpazamo enkulu. Abantwana bakho kufuneka bazi ukuba wonke umntu uthandwa ngokulinganayo kwaye uthando lwakho alwahlulwanga, kodwa luyaphindaphindwa ngomnye wabo. Kuya kufuneka bazi ukuba uthando lukatata nomama alunamida kwaye luya kuhlala lukhona entliziyweni yakho ngamnye kubo. Bafundise ngobulungisa kwaye nokuba unovelwano omnye komnye, oku kufanele kube okwethutyana, mhlawumbi ngenxa yeemeko zangoku ... Kodwa abantwana bakho, bonke bangabona bantu babaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakho ngokulinganayo, nawe Siyakuqinisekisa, ukuba ungoyena mkhulu kwabakho.