Xa unomntwana, ihlabathi elitsha ngokupheleleyo liyavuleka, elizaliswe luvuyo kodwa noloyiko oluninzi. Ukuba ngumntwana wokuqala ke uloyiko luphindwe kabini xa sibabona benemikhwa engaqhelekanga, esingayikhumbuliyo ukuba siyivile okanye oomama bethu abakhumbuli nokuba, emva kweminyaka emininzi kangaka.
Umntwana yindalo entsha kwaye yonke imihla sifunda into kwaye sizibuze imibuzo emitsha. Umzekelo, Kutheni umntwana wam ebetha ngentloko ebhedeni lakhe? Ngaba akukho buhlungu? Awenzakali na? Ndingayenza njani ukuba ingaphindi iyenze? Kuyandikhathaza ukukubona! Hayi ke namhlanje sizakuzama ukucacisa umcimbi sibashiye bodwa oomama.
Usana kunye nokubethelwa kwentloko yakhe
Ubamba usana ezandleni zakho kwaye ulushiye kwibhedi ukuze ulale ngokufanelekileyo. Yonke into inoxolo kwaye umntwana ukhangeleka njengelekese, uswiti, ulele, uzolile. Kodwa emva koko, ngokungalindelekanga, uqalisa ukubetheka ngentloko yakhe encinane kusana lomntwana. Ngaxeshanye. Kwaye enye. Kwaye enye. Ngoba?! Kutheni usana lwam lubetha ngentloko ebhedini yakhe?
Nawuphi na ugqirha wabantwana uya kukuxelela oko ukushukuma kunye nokubethelwa kwentloko yindlela eqhelekileyo yokuziphatha, edla ngokuvela phambi kweenyanga ezili-12 ubudala nokuba abantwana abasayi kuphinda bayenze phakathi kweminyaka emibini nemithathu. Ewe, kukho ingcaciso kwaye iqhelekile. Ukuzola?
Ke intloko kunye nomzimba ukubetha kukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kwe ukugungqa ngapha ukuzithuthuzela kwiintsana. Intshukumo enesingqi yokubuyela umva nangaphandle inokumthoba usana lwakho kwaye lumncede alale, kanye njengokugungqa kwisitulo esishukumayo okanye ukushukuma ngeengalo zakho.
Okumangalisayo kukuba, umntwana wakho unokubetha intloko yakhe ukuphazamisa intlungu (ukuba unamazinyo okanye unosulelo lwendlebe), umzekelo. ukubetha intloko yakho iqhelekile ngokumangalisayo. Ukuya kuma-20 ekhulwini kwiintsana kunye nabantwana abancinci babetha iintloko zabo ngenjongo, nangona kunjalo Amakhwenkwe anethuba eliphindwe kathathu lokwenjenjalo kunamantombazanas.
Ukubetha kwentloko rhoqo kuqala kwisiqingatha sesibini sonyaka wokuqala kunye naphakathi kwe-18 kunye ne-24 yeenyanga ubudala. Umkhwa ingahlala Iinyanga ezininzi, okanye iminyaka, nangona abantwana abaninzi, njengoko besitshilo, badlula iminyaka emi-3.
Kanye njengokuba ezinye iintsana zidlala ngeenwele zazo, ezinye zincanca izandla, ezinye zibetha entloko. Ibanika ntoni? Izazi zengqondo zabantwana zithi oku kuxhomekeke kwinto abayenzayo ngaphambi kobhukuqo-mbuso, kodwa ngokusisiseko i ukuziphatha okungenabungozi.
Abanye abantwana babetha ibunzi labo okanye umva wentloko yabo entlokweni yebhedi, ngelixa abanye beyingxenye yokukhalaza. Abanye abantwana baqengqeleka iintloko zabo ngapha nangapha ngoxa belele ngomqolo, nto leyo edla ngokuphumela ekubeni kubekho inkqayi ngemva entloko.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba iintsana zibethela iintloko zazo kwibhedi yazo ngenxa yomsindo okanye ukudandatheka? Ukuba kunokwenzeka. Iintsana azikwazi ukuzichaza ngomlomo, azithethi, ngoko ulwimi lwazo lulwimi lomzimba olusulungekileyo kwaye ngemizimba yazo zivakalisa ukunxunguphala kwazo. Kwakhona mhlawumbi ndizama ukufumana ingqalelo yakho, emva kwayo yonke into uyamangala, uyoyika kwaye wenze isijwili xa ubona loo kuziphatha. Kwaye ngaphezu koko, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kumbamba ngengalo yakho kwaye umthuthuzele kancinane. Umntwana, ngendlela yakhe, ukrelekrele, ngoko uyazi ukuba xa ebethe intloko, umama okanye uyise uya kusabela.
Ngamafutshane, nangona kuninzi lwamatyala, phantse iyonke, ukuziphatha okungenabungozi kunye nokuqhelekileyo, kusenokubakho amaxesha apho usana olubetha ngentloko kukhuko lwalo lunokuthetha ingxaki. Ukuba igqiba ukopha kwaye oko akuyeki ... yiya kugqirha wabantwana! Uya kukwazi ukufunda isimo sengqondo somntwana, uya kukubuza ngezinye iindlela zokuziphatha kwaye uya kukwazi ukukuxelela ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo okanye kufuneka kuthathwe amanyathelo ngalo mbandela, mhlawumbi ukuthintela ezinye. I-autism spectrum disorder.
Ndingenza ntoni ngayo? Ukubetha kwentloko kwiintsana kunqabile ukuba kube ngumqondiso wengxaki yophuhliso okanye yeemvakalelo, kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho wenza, qhubeka uthethe nogqirha wakho. Njengoko besitshilo, ngezihlandlo ezinqabileyo (ingakumbi ukuba umntwana wakho unokulibaziseka ekukhuleni) ibonisa ingxaki. Okona kunokwenzeka, nangona kunjalo, kwindlela umntwana aziphethe ngayo, nangona iyacaphukisa ukubukela, kunjalo ayinabungozi. Umntwana wakho akazukuzenzakalisa ngokubetha entloko.
Olona nyathelo kufuneka uluthathe kukuya kulo qinisa izikrufu nezitshixo ukusuka esibelekweni rhoqo. Musa ukubeka imiqamelo, iingubo okanye iibhombu ebhedini yakhe ukuthambisa indalo. Ezi zinokumela ingozi yokumisa. Ukuba isandi somntwana wakho esibetha entloko siyakukhathaza, zama ukuhambisa isikhululo kude nodonga.
Ekubeni umntwana wakho mhlawumbi ezama ukuzithuthuzela, mnike isandla. yenza eyakho indawo yokulala ethuleyo. Mncede aphumle ibhafu eshushu ngaphambi kokulala, mnike ukuthambisa kancinci, okanye uchithe ixesha elininzi ndiyinyikimise ukuyilalisa. Ezinye iintsana zifumana umculo othambileyo okanye ukubetha okungaguquguqukiyo kwe-metronome tapping, njengendlela yokuzola ngaphambi kokulala.
Hlala ukhumbula ukuba iintsana zihamba ngeendlela ezininzi ekukhuleni kwazo, kwaye ngelixa ukubethelwa kweentloko zabo kungabonakali njengento enomdla kuthi njengokufumana izinyo labo lokuqala ngeentsini zabo, kuqhelekile kwaye kubalulekile.
Ukubetha intloko yakhe kwibhedi yakhe kubonakala ngathi inxalenye yezo zenzo ziphindaphindayo ezibonwa ebuntwaneni (ukuluma iinzipho, ukumunca ubhontsi, ukudlala ngesilungu, njl. njl.). Ezi ziziphatho ukuba nceda uphuhliso lwenkqubo ye-neurological ukusebenzisana neempembelelo zokusingqongileyo, kule meko ibhedi.
Ukushwankathela:
- Iimpawu zokubethelwa kwentloko: Ukubethekisa intloko ngokuphindaphindiweyo kumatrasi okanye ibhedi ngokwayo, ihlala kanye emva kokubetha kwentloko. uhambisa intloko yakhe ngapha nangapha ayibethe, aphumle ngomqolo aze ajike intloko yakhe ngapha nangapha ngamandla aneleyo ukuba ayishukumise.
- Ingaba le ndlela yokuziphatha ihlala ixesha elingakanani?: ukuziphatha ngokwayo akuhlali ngaphezu kwemizuzu eyi-15, kodwa iqala phakathi kweenyanga ezintandathu kunye nesithoba kwaye imise malunga ne-3 iminyaka, nangona kukho iimeko zabantwana abanempilo abayigcinayo ukuya kwiminyaka emi-5. Ukuba iyaqhubeka, qhagamshelana nogqirha wakho wabantwana.
- Unobangela onokwenzeka: ukuzithuthuzela ukuba ulale, yimpendulo yokukruquka, ukuphoxeka okanye ukuxhalaba okanye indlela yokuzivuselela.
- Inokuba yingxaki nini?: ukuba ukuziphatha kuyaqhubeka emva kweminyaka emi-3. Ke inokunxulunyaniswa ne-autism, ukuphazamiseka kwentshukumo ye-stereoscopic, okanye ingxaki ethile yemithambo-luvo.