Ngokuqinisekileyo ngamanye amaxesha, unyana okanye intombi yakho ibingafuni ukumanga umhlobo wakho odibene naye esitratweni, umalume okude ongamazi nokuba sisalamane esisondeleyo. Le meko ihlala ingonwabisi kuba kulisiko ukubulisa abantu ngohlobo oluthile lokuthintana, nokuba kukwanga, ukwanga okanye ukubambana ngesandla. Ke, abazali abaninzi baneentloni xa abantwana babo bengafuni ukwanga abantu abathile, njengoko benoloyiko lokuba baya kuthathwa njengabangenabuntu.
Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka siqale ukutshintsha i-chip kwaye sihloniphe izigqibo kunye neemvakalelo zabantwana bethu. Kuba eyona nto ingamhloniphiyo kukunyanzela umntwana enze into angafuni kuyenza. Ngaba unokucinga ukuba uhla ngesitrato kwaye umntu ongamaziyo akubuze ukuba akuphuze? Ubuya kusabela njani?
Kutheni le nto ungabanyanzeli abantwana bakho ukuba babange kwaye babange?
Kubantwana, ukwangana nokwanga kukubonakalisa uthando lokwenene
Yenzelwe abantwana, ukwanga nokwangana luphawu lothando phakathi kwabantu abasondele kubo okanye oziva uthandwa ngabo. Abantwana bahlala bephuza abazali babo, ootatomkhulu noomakhulu, okanye abantakwabo ukubonisa uthando lwabo. Kodwa kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba baziva bemadolw 'anzima ukumanga umntu abangadibani naye okanye abangakwaziyo kwaphela. Ukongeza, kulungile ukuba bakhethe kwaye bafunde ukwahlulahlula kwabo bafuna ukuba nezo ziboniso zothando kunye nabo bafuna nje ukuba nembeko.
Kungenxa yokuba sibenza baqonde ukuba iimvakalelo zabo azibalulekanga
Ukuba unyanzela umntwana wakho ukuba ancamise umntu xa engaziva, uthumela umyalezo wokuba iimvakalelo zakho azinamsebenzi kwaye nokuba zeziphi na, kuya kufuneka ungazihoyi ukukholisa omnye umntu. Oku kungakhokelela kubunzima kwixesha elizayo lokuchaza indlela abaziva ngayo kwaye bathembele kwimo yabo, ukuba baphathwe lula ngabantu abakhohlakeleyo.
Kungenxa yokuba sidlulisela kubo uluvo lokuba imizimba yabo ayiyiyo eyabo
Xa usenza ukuba umntwana wakho angadibani nomzimba ngokungafunekiyo, umfundisa ukuba umzimba wakhe awunako ukulahla umzimba wakhe kwaye uthathe isigqibo ngawo. Oku, kuluntu apho ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwesondo komntwana ngelishwa kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kuyingozi kakhulu. Ukuba ufundise umntwana wakho ukuba ancamise nokuba akaziva ngathi, xa umntu eneenjongo ezimbi esiya kuye, umntwana uya kuthobela nokuba azive kakubi kuba uyaqonda ukuba kufuneka bonwabise abantu abadala ngexabiso leemvakalelo zabo. Ke, Ukuthintela ukuphathwa gadalala, kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bazi ukuba akukho mntu uya kuze ayichukumise imizimba yabo ukuba abafuni.
Ukuphuzana okanye ukwangana akufani nesimilo
Nangona kwinkcubeko yethu ukubulisa ngokwanga okanye ukugona kufana nokuziphatha okuhle, ayisiyiyo kuphela indlela yokubonisa isimilo. Fundisa abantwana bakho ntoni Banokuba nembeko kwaye babonakalise uthando ngeendlela ezininzi ngaphandle konxibelelwano lomzimba. Ngokomzekelo, uhlala ubulisa kwaye uthetha kamnandi okanye ulale kamnandi kwabanye abantu, ubulela iinkcukacha okanye izipho ngombulelo kunye noncumo kwaye uhlala uziphatha ngokuchanekileyo phambi kwabanye
Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bacacelwe ngumahluko phakathi kokuziphatha kakuhle nokuba nothando. Umsa kufuneka ubonakaliswe ngendlela yendalo, ungaze uzibophelele okanye ubambe iindibano zasekuhlaleni. Khumbula ukuhlala ubuza unyana okanye intombi yakho ukuba bafuna ukubulisa umntu ngokumanga okanye ukumanga. Ukuba uphendula ngohayi, hlisa umoya, akufuneki ube neentloni okanye umnyanzele. Ngokuqinisekileyo ngokuhamba kwexesha kunye nomzekelo wethu, uya kufunda ukwahlula ezo kiss zothando kwi-kisses enembeko. Ngale ndlela, uyakube umnceda ukuba akhule ngokulinganayo ngokweemvakalelo kwaye uyazi ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe zihlala ziqinisekisiwe.