Oomama abaninzi bacinezelekile ukuba unyana wethu uyangxola endaweni yokuthetha. Oku kuqhelekileyo ebuntwaneni bokuqala. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka simqwalasele, kwimeko yokuba ezi zikhalo zazifuna ukuba siqwalaselwe, ukuba singabona nasiphi na isigulo okanye ukuba kukho ingxaki yokuva, enokuba yeyethutyana.
Apha sichaza ukuba kutheni amakhwenkwe namantombazana amaninzi ekhala xa bethetha, izizathu ezinokuba ngasemva, siya kuzama ukuyihlalutya sikunike ezinye iingcebiso zokwehlisa ilizwi lakho. Kodwa khumbula into esisiseko: aba ngabantwana, hayi abantu abadala abancinci.
Eminye imibuzo yokuqala malunga nokuba kutheni umntwana wakho enokukhwaza
Sele simisele ukuba abantwana bacinga, baziva, kwaye baziphathe ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunabantu abadala. Enkosi Thixo! Kwaye asinakulindela ukuba benze, bacinge kwaye bazive ngendlela esenza ngayo. Abantwana bayazenzekela, bayadubula, bonwabile, banamandla, bathambekele ekuthetheni kakhulu nangethoni ephezulu.
Kufuneka sibamkele abantwana bethu njengoko benjalo, ngobuntu babo kunye nobuntu babo. Into ekufuneka siyenzile nesinokuyenza kukuba, njengoomama, hambani ukumodareyitha kunye nokumodareyitha intetho yabo yeemvakalelo. Kule nto kukho izinto ezahlukeneyo kwaye zixhobo enokukunceda.
Ukuba akukho siphazamiso okanye ubunzima, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntwana wakho akhwaze xa ethetha kuba Uqhele ukuba neli lizwi, ephezulu kunesiqhelo. Inokuba sele uyiqhelile ngoba endlwini yakho uthetha ngetoni ephezulu, ivolumu kamabonwakude, indawo enengxolo, kodwa isenokubangelwa bubudala okanye isidingo sokutsala umdla. Siza kuthetha ngako konke oku kungezantsi.
Izizathu zomntwana ongxolayo xa ethetha
Esinye sezizathu esikhokelela ekubeni umntwana athethe ngokungxolisa isenokuba ubudala. Ebuntwaneni bokuqala, ukuya kuthi ga kwiminyaka emi-6 ubudala, abantwana abalilawuli ithoni yelizwi abazivakalisa ngalo. Bayangxola kuyo nantoni na ebatsala, eboyikisayo, okanye ebonwabisa. Kakade, phakathi kweminyaka eyi-6 kunye ne-12, amabinzana abo ahlengahlengisiwe nangona esalawulwa kukunyanzelwa okwangoku.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uchitha iiyure ezininzi kwi isikolo apho kukho ingxolo eninziUmzekelo, kuba baninzi abafundi, uya kuqheleka ukuthetha ngethoni yelizwi ngaphezulu kwesiqhelo ukuzenza ukuba aviwe. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba abahlobo babo kunye nabo basebenza nabo. Kwenzeka into efanayo ukuba kusetyenziswe ithowuni ephezulu yelizwi kusapho.
Kukho abantwana abanesidingo sokwenza njalo fumana ingqalelo yabantu abadala ukuziva uthandwa. Ukufumana ingqalelo yethu, nokuba sibakhathalele, bayayamkela le lizwi, ke siza kubaxelela ukuba bangangxoli, kwaye ngale nto siyomeleza ngakumbi le ndlela yokuziphatha. Kwaye kufuneka siyiqonde into yokuba inokuba yiplagi yendlebe endlebeni, eya kuthi isonjululwe ngohlaziyo.
Iingcebiso zomntwana wakho zokwehlisa ithoni yelizwi
Enye yeengcebiso zokuqala esifuna ukukunika yona yile jolisa yonke ingqalelo yakho kwinto ayitshoyo umntwana xa ethetha. Yeka into oyenzayo kwaye umphulaphule ngenyameko. Ngale ndlela akazukufumana izizathu zokukungxolisa. Ukunciphisa ukungxama singamfundisa ukuba alihlonele ithuba lokuthetha. Oko kufuneka ngokwethu sikuhloniphe. Musa ukumphazamisa xa ethetha.
Umntwana wakho angangxola xa ethetha ephendula iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo ezinje ngokudana, umona, uxinzelelo. Qonda ukuba ngenxa yobudala babo, banesakhono esincinci sokubalawula, ke yindlela yabo yokubakhulula. Sebenza naye kwezinye iintlobo ze tshintsha la mandla, ngaphandle kokuthintela ukuzibonakalisa. Dlala imidlalo, imisebenzi, okanye imithambo emncedayo ukuba alinganise ubungakanani belizwi lakhe.
Kwaye nangona kubonakala kucacile, ukuba awufuni ukuba umntwana wakho aqhubeke ekhala xa ethetha, musa ukungqinelana nokukhala kwabo ngokukhwaza ngakumbi. Akuncedi nto ukuthi sukundingxolisa! ukuba siyenza ngezwi eliphezulu. Akukho nto injengokuvavanywa kwesazela kwaye sihlalutye indlela esinokuthi siphucule ngayo ukuze kulawule ukuzola emakhayeni ethu, kwaye, ewe, kugxothwe isohlwayo okanye izoyikiso zomlomo.