Njengomntu, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kumaxesha amaninzi uzibhaqe ‘uyasilwa okanye usaba’ ngenxa yomsindo okanye ngenxa yokuba umsindo uye waphuma ngenxa yesiganeko esithile. Maxa wambi usenokuvakalelwa kukuba umntwana wakho uqalisa ukufana notshaba. Xa uqhutywa ngumsindo, uya kuba ulungiselela ngokwasemzimbeni ukulwa. IiHormones kunye ne-neurotransmitters zikhukula emzimbeni ... ukuba kwenzeka kuwe, ziya kubangela ukuba izihlunu zakho ziqine, i-pulse yakho ikhawuleze, kunye nokuphefumla kwakho ukwenza njalo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uhlale uzolile kwezi ngongoma, kodwa sonke siyazi ukuba ukubetha abantwana bakho AKUSOKHO lukhetho olusebenzayo.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo omele uyikhumbule ngomsindo KUNGAKWENZI senzo ngelixa unomsindo. Uya kuziva ungxamisekile ukuba wenze okuthile, ufundise umntwana wakho isifundo. Kodwa ngumsindo wakho lowo. Unokucinga ukuba yimeko kaxakeka, kodwa ngokwenene ayikho... Unokumfundisa umntwana wakho kamva, kuba iya kuba sisifundo ofuna ukusidlulisela ngokwenene.
Ukuzinikela
Kufuneka uqale ngokuzibophelela ukuba ungaze ubabethe, ubathuke, okanye ubathuke abantwana bakho...ungaze ufake isohlwayo ngelixa unomsindo. Xa ungxolisa abantwana bakho, AWUbafundisi… unomsindo nje wabantu abadala! Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene okanye ufuna ukukhwaza, yenze apho kungekho mntu unokukuva ... Ungasebenzisi amagama kuba iya kukucaphukisa ngakumbi. KHALA NJE.
Abantwana bakho nabo bayacaphuka, ngoko kusisipho esiphindiweyo kubo xa umisela umzekelo omhle wokulawula umsindo: awupheleli nje ekubeni ubenzakalise, kodwa baya kuba ngumzekelo omhle. Umntwana wakho mhlawumbi uya kukubona unomsindo ngamaxesha athile, yinto eqhelekileyo ... Kodwa Yindlela ozisingatha ngayo ezo meko eza kubafundisa ngokwenene.
Ngaba uya kumfundisa umntwana wakho into ayenza kakuhle? Ngaba abazali nabo banomsindo? Ukukhwaza yindlela abantu abadala abajongana ngayo neengxabano? Ukuba kunjalo, baya kwamkela ezi mpawu njengebheji ngokuxelisa ukuziphatha kwakho okubi. Ukuba akunjalo, zibuze lo mbuzo: Ngaba ubuya kukhetha ukubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba umsindo yinxalenye yomntu ukuze afunde ukuwulawula umsindo ngokufanelekileyo njengenxalenye yokuba ngumntu oqolileyo? Ukuba impendulo yakho ngu-ewe, ngezantsi uya kufumana indlela yokuyiphumeza.
Funda ukuwubamba umsindo wakho
Apha ngezantsi uya kufunda amacebo athile anokukunceda ukwazi ukulawula umsindo wakho ukususela ngoku kuse phambili nokuba abantwana bakho bangaze baphinde bakunyamezele ukungakwazi kwakho ukuzeyisa. Landela ezi ngcebiso kwaye iyunithi yosapho lwakho iya kuphucula kakhulu!
Zibekele imida ngaphambi kokuba ucaphuke
Kumaxesha amaninzi xa ucaphukela abantwana bakho kuba ungababekelanga mida kukho into ekuhluphayo. Lo mzuzu uqala ukuba nomsindo luphawu lokuba kufuneka wenze into kwaye AKUNXA. Ngenelela ngendlela efanelekileyo yokuthintela umzuzu ukuba ube mbi ngenxa yokucaphuka.
Ukuba ukucaphuka kwakho kuza ngenxa yokuba unosuku olunzima kwaye umonde wakho uphelile, cacisa oku kubantwana bakho kwaye ubacele ukuba babe nolwazelelelo kwaye baziphathe kakuhle. Ukuba abantwana benza into ecaphukisayo ngakumbi—ukudlala umdlalo apho ubani anokwenzakala, angqengqe xa ecelwa ukuba enze okuthile, nilwe ngoxa nisemnxebeni—kusenokufuneka uyiyeke loo nto uyenzayo. , Qinisekisa ulindelo lwakho kwaye uqondise abantwana bakho kwakhona ukunqanda imeko kunye nomsindo wakho ukuba unyuke.
Zola phambi kokuba uthathe inyathelo
Xa unomsindo, ufuna indlela ethile yokuzola. Ukwazisa kuya kusoloko kukunceda ukuba usebenzise ukuzilawula kwakho kwaye utshintshe i-physiology yakho: Yima, yeka (i-ajenda yakho, umzuzu nje), kwaye Phefumla. Loo moya unzulu liqhosha lakho lokunqumama. Ikunika ukhetho. Ngaba ngokwenene ufuna ukuqweqwediswa zezo mvakalelo ziqatha nezimbi? Ngoku, khumbula ukuba asiyomeko kaxakeka. Vuthulula uxinezeleko ezandleni zakho.
Thatha uphefumle nzulu ngakumbi. Unokuzama ukufumana indlela yokuhleka, ekhupha ingxabano kunye nokutshintsha isimo sengqondo. Nokuba uzinyanzele ukuba uncume kuthumela umyalezo kwinkqubo yakho yemithambo-luvo yokuba akukho ngxamiseko kwaye iqalisa ukuthomalalisa. Ukuba ufuna ukwenza ingxolo, ncwina. Inokukunceda ukukhupha umsindo wakho ngokwasemzimbeni, ngoko unokuzama ukubeka umculo kunye nokudanisa.
Ukuba ungafumana imizuzu eli-15 ngosuku lokuziqhelanisa nokubamba ingqondo okanye ukucamngca ngelixa abantwana besesikolweni okanye belala, unokwakha amandla e-neural ukwenza kube lula ukuzola ngala maxesha okungonwabi. Kodwa nobomi bemihla ngemihla nabantwana kufuneka bukunike amathuba amaninzi okuziqhelanisa, kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha ukuchasa ukwenza oko unomsindo, uyayibuyisela ingqondo yakho ukuze ukwazi ukuzibamba ngakumbi.
Kukho abo babamba umqamelo okanye umqamelo baze bakhale... Kungcono ukwenza olu hlobo lokukhutshwa ngokweemvakalelo ngasese. Ungambethi okanye ukhwaze phambi kwabantwana bakho kuba oko kusenokuboyikisa. Uyazi kakuhle ukuba umqamelo uthatha indawo yentloko yakhe kwaye umfanekiso womama obethayo uya kufakwa kwinkumbulo yakhe. Oku mhlawumbi iqhinga elithandabuzekayo nangona kunjalo, kuba uphando lubonisa ukuba ukubetha into, nantoni na, iqinisekisa emzimbeni wakho ukuba le yimeko engxamisekileyo kwaye kufuneka uhlale "ekulweni okanye ekubalekeni." Ngoko ke, Unako "ukukhulula" amandla kwaye udinwe, kodwa awusebenzi kwiimvakalelo ezibangela umsindo kwaye unokuba nomsindo ngakumbi.
Ukuba unokuphefumla ngokunzulu kwaye unyamezele iimvakalelo ezinomsindo, mhlawumbi uya kuqaphela ukuba ngaphantsi komsindo ukwesaba, ukudabuka, ukudumala. Zivumele uzive ezo mvakalelo ngokuqaphela iimvakalelo ezizibangelayo emzimbeni wakho. Musa ukubomeleza ngokuthi "ucinge" malunga nokuba kutheni ukhathazekile; phefumlela nje loo ngcinezelo emzimbeni wakho kwaye uyibukele itshintsha kwaye iphela. Umsindo uya kuphela kwaye awuyi kuqaphela.
Ngobu buchule, ukulawula umsindo wakho HAYI owomntwana wakho kuya kuba lula kakhulu...