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Kukhuliso (noluphelelwe lixesha) lokukhulisa, ukuhlonipha abazali kwakudidekile ngenxa yoloyiko. Kuyimfuneko ukuba abazali bafundise abantwana babo ukuba yintoni imbeko kubantu abadala, ngaphandle koloyiko. Abantwana bahlala bengayiqondi imithetho okanye imida kwaye balibale into echanekileyo nengafanelekanga, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba abanakufunda izinto ukuba zikhokelwa ngokuchanekileyo.
Abantwana abancinci baxhomekeke koomama nootata babo ukuba babafundise indlela yokubonisa imbeko kubantu ababangqongileyo.. Yile nto kufuneka wonke umzali ayifundise abantwana bakhe ngentlonipho ke baba ngabantu abakhulileyo onokuziqhenya ngabo.
Wonke umntu ufanele ukuhlonitshwa
Abantu nezilwanyana ... yonke into ephilayo ifanelwe yintlonipho. Into ebaluleke kakhulu onokuyifundisa umntwana wakho malunga nentlonipho kukuba yonke into ephilayo iyifanele. Ukusuka kwivenkile ekhupha imali ukuya kwikati enqumla isitalato. Umntwana wakho kufuneka azi ukuba abantu kunye nezinto eziphilayo kufuneka baphathwe ngentlonipho, nokuba yeyiphi enye into. Sisifundo esibalulekileyo esiya kuba luncedo kuwe njengoko uqhubeka ebomini kwaye kuya kufuneka udlule kwisizukulwana uye kwesinye.
Intlonipho kufuneka inyaniseke
Xa uhlonipha umntu kufuneka unyanisekile, oko kuthetha ukuba ukubonisa iziphene zomnye endaweni yokuqala ukhombe owakho, akukho ndawo. Kuya kufuneka ufundise abantwana bakho besebancinci ukuba imbeko kufuneka inyanisekile. Umntu uya kuba nakho ukuxelela ukuba uyazenzisa malunga nento oyithethayo kunye nento oyicingayo, nokuba awuyiqondi. Kungcono ukuqhelisela ukunyaniseka kwaye ufunde ukuya phambili ngovelwano nokuzithemba.
Ukwahluka akuyonto imbi
Asinguye wonke umntu ofanayo kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba intlonipho kufuneka ilahlekile. Umntwana wakho kufuneka afunde ukuba bonke abantu bafanelwe yintlonipho, nokuba zithini na iimpawu zabo. Oku kubandakanya nawuphi na umntu okhubazekileyo okanye onesifo sengqondo, umntwana onolibaziseko lokukhula, indoda elahlekileyo emzimbeni, umntu otyebe kakhulu, njl.. Umahluko kufuneka uhlonitshwe kwaye kufuneka ubafundise indlela yokwenza.
Abafazi kunye namadoda abaluleke ngokufanayo
Abantwana bathambekele ekucingeni ukuba abantu basetyhini ngandlela thile kuxhomekeke kwindoda esecaleni kwabo, kodwa inyani kukuba umfazi ubeka eyakhe imbeko. Kuya kufuneka ufundise unyana wakho ukuba akukho mfazi ungaphantsi kwendoda ngaphandle kwetalente okanye imisebenzi. Abantu kufuneka babe nobudlelwane obuthe tyaba ukuze izinto zihambe kakuhle nokuba bayindoda okanye bafazi. Abasetyhini abasebenza ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwekhaya bafanele ukuhlonitshwa njengamadoda. Umntwana wakho kufuneka asifunde esi sifundo phambi kokuba uluntu luzame ukumxelela ngenye indlela, ke uluntu aluyi kuba nakho ukuba naye kwaye kwixa elizayo kancinci oku kuya kuba nobunzima obumfaneleyo.
Kufuneka uhloniphe igunya
Njengokuba umntwana wakho ekhula, kuya kufuneka azi ukuba kukho abantu abanegunya ekufuneka elihloniphile kuba basebenzela ukulungelwa kwakhe. Ndithetha ootishala, oonjingalwazi, abaphathi, abaqeqeshi, abazali, kunye naye nabani na onegunya nosebomini bakho. Abantwana kufuneka baqonde ukuba kufuneka babahloniphe (kodwa bangaboyiki) aba bantu ngenxa yezikhundla zabo.
Yiba ngumzekelo obalaseleyo
Njengamaxesha onke kusenzeka ukuba ufuna abantwana bakho bafunde ukwenza into kwaye bayenze ngokuzithandela, ungabanyanzeli ukuba bayenze, kungcono ukuba ube ngumzekelo wabo. Ukuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba kufuneka ahloniphe wonke umntu kulungile, kodwa kuya kufuneka ulolonge indlela aziphethe ngayo ngokuba ngumzekelo ofanelekileyo. Ukuba uza kudelela iqabane lakho okanye nawuphina umntu (owaziwayo okanye ongaziwayo), kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho aqale ukucinga ukuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokuphatha abantu, ke iya kuba ngumcimbi wexesha ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukungazihloniphi wena okanye abanye abantu.
Unyana wakho ufanelwe yimbeko yakho ephezulu
Ukuba ufuna umntwana wakho abaphathe ngembeko abanye, eyona nto unokumfundisa yona ngaphandle kokuba ngumzekelo kuye kukuba umhlonele. Ngamanye amaxesha abazali, kuba nje bengabazali, bayalibala ukuhlonipha abantwana babo kuba becinga ukuba banegunya phezu kwabo, kwaye akukho nto inokugqitha kwinyaniso. Umsebenzi katata nomama kukuqinisekisa ukuba abantwana babo bakhula besempilweni ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, kwaye ukufezekisa oku kuyimfuneko ngaphezulu kwako konke ukuhlonipha abantwana kuzo zonke iinkalo. Akukho sizathu sokuba umntwana aphathwe ngokungenantlonelo, nokuba mdala kangakanani, umntwana wakho kufuneka ahlonitshwe nguwe nakubo bonke abantu abanxibelelana nabo mihla le.
Ukuze uhloniphe umntwana wakho, kufuneka unike ingqalelo ukuba yeyiphi indlela yakho yobuzali, indlela othetha ngayo naye kunye nendlela onxibelelana ngayo nayo yonke imihla. Umntwana wakho uya kufuna ixesha elisemgangathweni kuwe, ukuba ube secaleni kwakhe, uthethe naye, umkhathalele kuzo zonke iinkalo, uyamxhasa, uyamqonda, uyamphulaphula, uyaqonda kuye, ukuba uyasihlonipha isithuba sakhe xa efuna ukuba yedwa, uyakuhlonipha ukuthula kwakhe xa efuna ukukuxelela into ngelinye ixesha, ukuba uyazihlonipha izigqibo zakhe, umncede enze olona khetho lufanelekileyo, ukuze ube bhetyebhetye, ukuba umnike elinye ithuba ... Zininzi iindlela zokuhlonipha umntwana, kodwa ngaphezulu kwako konke, kufuneka uqale ngokuzihlonipha.
Ubafundisa njani abantwana bakho imbeko kubomi bemihla ngemihla?