Kuluntu lwethu utywala buqhelekile. Ikho kwimibhiyozo nakwiminyhadala yazo zonke iintlobo, kwaye umntu akanakukhawulwa ngaphandle kotywala obubandakanyekayo. Yinto eqhelekileyo kuye wonke umntu, ukuba abantwana bethu bayafunda. Asinakho ukutshintsha uluntu esihlala kulo kodwa sinokwenza utshintsho ezindlwini zethu apho kubonakala khona iinqobo esifuna ukufundisa abantwana bethu. Masibone ukuba kutheni utywala bungafanelekanga kusapho.
Utywala, umazibuthe weengxaki
Utywala buhlala bunxulunyaniswa nokonwaba, ukubhiyozela, ukonwaba nokuba sempilweni. Sifundisiwe ukuba ukonwaba kufuneka usele, ukuba akukho kubhiyozelwa ngaphandle kotywala kwaye ukuba utywala yinto elungileyo. Iyakubakho kuzo zonke izindlu kula matheko, kuba yinto esinayo zingene nzulu kwinkcubeko yethu. Nokuba sihamba ngexesha elibi sizama ukusela ngokungathi iintlungu ziyadamba kwaye konke esikufezekisayo kukuzenza buhlungu kwaye siqhubekise ingxaki.
Kuba utywala buzisa iingxaki kwaye buninzi. Inesiphumo esingafunekiyo esenza ukuba siphulukane nolawulo kwinxalenye ethile yento esiyithethayo nesiyenzayo. Izinto esiza kuzisola ngazo ngosuku olulandelayo. Iingxaki zokuziphatha, ukungaqondani, iimfazwe, amagama abuhlungu, ukuba ndlongondlongo, ubundlobongela... endaweni yokwenza umbhiyozo wonwabe, utywala buhlala busicaphukisa ngeemeko ezingathandekiyo ezenziwe ngenxa yokusela utywala. Ungasathethi ke ngee-hangovers ezidumileyo ezenza ukuba siphulukane neentsuku ezipheleleyo (okanye nangaphezulu) zokufumana kwakhona.
Kunye notywala unokudakumba okukhulu yenkqubo ye-nervous system, yiyo loo nto emva kobusuku obude bokwenza itheko ngosuku olulandelayo sibuhlungu, siziva sinetyala kwaye sidakumbile ngaphandle kwesizathu. Sisiphumo sotywala, esisenza sonwabe, senza amanqanaba amancinci oxinzelelo ukuhlawulela iziphumo ezibangelwa yingqondo yethu. Unokubangela iingxaki ezinzulu zokulutha oko kuyakuchaphazela isifuba sonke sosapho. Zininzi iingxaki ezinokuthintelwa ngombono ochanekileyo wokusetyenziswa kotywala.
Utywala kusapho
Isizukulwana sethu sele sikhule sinotywala obukhoyo kuyo yonke imibhiyozo, kwaye izizukulwana ezitsha le ngxaki iya isiba mandundu. Udibana nje ukusela ngoku. Kwilinge lokukholisa iqela, landela ipakethi, okanye ngaphandle kwesidingo sokwamkelwa, ulutsha lulandela iipateni abanye bayayenza nokuba abachanekanga.
Asinakho ukutshintsha inkcubeko okanye intlalo, kodwa apho sinokuthi senze khona kumakhaya ethu. Yeyiphi imilinganiselo esifuna ukuyifundisa abantwana bethu. Sele uyazi ukuba umzekelo yenye yeendlela ezinamandla zokufunda ezinazo, kwaye ukuba usekhaya abantwana bakho bayabubona ubudlelwane bakho notywala bazokufunda nabo. Iya kuba yinto yothintelo ukuze ulutsha lungazisebenzisi iziyobisi. Sele sisuka ebuntwaneni senza uluvo lwezinto ngokwento esiyibonayo kubantu abadala abasingqongileyo, kwaye xa kufika ixesha lokufikisa, uluvo lwabo malunga nalo luya kuchaphazela indlela enxulumene notywala.
Oko akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka ucinezele bonke utywala emhlabeni, kodwa ukuba siyayibona indlela esidibana ngayo, luthini uluvo lwethu kwaye sithetha njani ngotywala. Singasela kodwa ngokumodareyitha, kwaye nobudlelwane obusempilweni nobunoxanduva. Ungaze unyanzele abantu abancinci ukuba basele, okanye ukhuthaze ukusetyenziswa kwabo.
Masikhumbule ukuba utywala buneziphumo eziyingozi kulutsha, kwingqondo yabo lusekwinkqubo yokukhula, enokuthi ivelise iziphumo ezingenakulungiswa.
Kungenxa yokuba khumbula ... asinakho ukutshintsha uluntu, okanye sikhethe abahlobo kunye neencasa zabantwana bethu. Kodwa ukuba singakunika umzekelo wendlela enokunxibelelana ngendlela esempilweni notywala ukuze ingangabi yingxaki.