Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantwana bazive bexhalabile amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa ungazi njani ukuba iinkxalabo zomntwana wakho zezona zikukhathazayo? Bonke abantwana banoloyiko lwabo. Umntwana wakho angaboyika abantu angabaziyo, izinja, usenokuziva esiswini ngaphambi kokuba aye esikolweni… Nangona kunjalo, abanye abantwana bakhathazeka kakhulu kunabanye.
Kubuhlungu kakhulu ukuba utata okanye umama abone ukuba umntwana wakhe unengxaki yokuxhalaba okanye uhlala ekhathazekile, okrwitshayo iimvakalelo zabo ngenxa yokungabi namandla. Kunzima ngakumbi ukuba awuqinisekanga nokuba ungakhathazeka okanye hayi, kwaye ukuba uya kufuna ukucela uncedo.
Umahluko phakathi kwexhala eliqhelekileyo kunye nengxaki yoxinzelelo bubukhali kunye nobukhulu. Nangona uvakalelo loxinzelelo luyindlela yendalo yokusabela kwimeko yoxinzelelo okanye eyingozi, umntwana unokufuna uncedo ukuba unxunguphalo alunakulinganiswa, ukuba luyaqhubeka, okanye ukuba luyaphazamisa ebomini bakhe okanye ukukhula kakuhle.
Okulandelayo, siza kuchaza ezinye iinkxalabo zabantwana ekufuneka ukhathazekile ngazo kwaye ukuba iya ngaphezulu, ungathandabuzi ukucela uncedo kwiingcali.
Iimpawu zoxinzelelo
Umntwana omncinci oxakwe ziinkxalabo akanakuziveza ngamazwi, kodwa ngokuziphatha. Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhathazekile, olu xinzelelo lunokuqala ngento ethile. Inokwenzeka xa uphambi komnye umntu, kuba unexhala lokwahlukana, njl. Ukuba umntwana wakho ugula rhoqo okanye ukhubazeka, kuya kufuneka ukhathazeke.
Abantwana abanoxinzelelo olukhulu baya kuzama ukunqanda okubangela oko kuzo zonke iindleko. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uyala ukuthatha inxaxheba kwizinto ezenziwa ngabanye abantwana, ukuba uye wanomsindo phambi kokuba abonwe ngugqirha wamazinyo okanye xa eqeshwe ngugqirha, ukuba uyagula ngeCawa ebusuku ngokucinga ukuba ngosuku olulandelayo kukho isikolo ... Kuya kufuneka uqale ukhathazeke ukuba kutheni ezo meko zikwenza unyamezele olo xinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.
Ukwahlukana koxinzelelo lwexhala
Ukuba ithemba lokwahlukana nabazali okanye abanonopheli libangela umntwana ukuba axinzelelo olomeleleyo emntwaneni, banokuba noxinzelelo lokwahlukana. Ukwahlukana kobunzima kuyinto eqhelekileyo ebuntwaneni, iba sisiphazamiso ukuba uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo ziphazamisa indlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha.
Umntwana onexhala lokwahlukana kunokuba nzima kakhulu emntwaneni kuba ngekhe anyamezele ukwahlulwa kubazali bakhe naphina, nokuba sele elala. Abantwana bacinga ukuba ukuba bohlukene nabazali babo kuya kwenzeka into embi kubo. Umntwana osele ekhulile onoxinzelelo lokwahlulahlula akazukufuna ukohlukaniswa nabazali nangaliphi na ixesha, kwaye ukuba kunjalo, banokuba neengxaki ezithile.
Ingxaki yoxinzelelo ngokubanzi (GAD)
Ukuba umntwana ubonakala exhalabile kakhulu ngayo yonke into, ngendlela ebanzi, malunga nezinto zemihla ngemihla kunye nezinto eziqhelekileyo, unokuba nesifo sokuphazamiseka ngokubanzi. Olu hlobo loxinzelelo luhlala luchaphazela ukusebenza esikolweni okanye kwezemidlalo, Ukongeza, inokudala uxinzelelo ngakumbi, ngakumbi ukuba kufuneka benze iimvavanyo.
Abantwana abanengxaki yoxinzelelo ngokubanzi (GAD) bakhathazeka kakhulu ngokungakwazi kwabo ukufikelela kulindelo. Uloyiko lwabo yintuthuzelo yabo kwaye oku kunokuba nzima kwaye kubacaphukise bona kunye nabanye. Olu xinzelelo lunokubangela iingxaki ze-somatic ezinje ngeentloko, isisu esibuhlungu, okanye nokudinwa.
Yiba ne-phobias
Umntwana wakho unokuba ne-phobias ethile. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho uziva esoyika kakhulu into ethile okanye imeko ethile. Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba ene-phobia ethile. Uloyiko olwenziweyo lubonakaliswa xa umntu ejongene noko kumnika uloyiko olukhulu. Banokuba ziingcungcu, izinja, ingxolo enkulu, amanzi, izinambuzane, ubumnyama, njl. Kuyimfuneko ukwazi ukuba kutheni kusenzeka kuba umntwana onephobia ethile anokuba nobomi obulinganiselweyo ngenxa yayo.
Abantwana abane-phobias banokukhala okanye banomsindo wokuphepha into okanye imeko ebaphazamisayo, okanye babe neempawu zomzimba ezinjengokungcangcazela, isiyezi, ukubila, kunye nokugabha.
Ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo kwezentlalo
Uninzi lwabantwana banokuba neentloni ngaxa lithile, kodwa xa umntwana (okanye umntwana ofikisayo) exhalabile kakhulu ngokwenza into ehlazo, ukugwetywa ngokungalunganga ngabanye… banokuba nengxaki yokuxhalaba ekuhlaleni. Ukoyika ukwenza into ethoba isidima kunokwenza umntwana afune ukunqanda ukuya esikolweni okanye naphina apho iimeko zentlalo zenzeka khona.
Abanye abantwana abanengxaki yokuxhalaba ekuhlaleni banokoyika xa bethetha eklasini, abanakuze bafune ukuthetha nabanye abantu-njengokucela umphathi-mali ukuba ahlawule okanye acele ibhilikhwe. Abanye abantwana banokubonisa unxunguphalo kwiimeko zentlalontle, nokuba ayingobantu ekugxilwe kubo ... nditsho nokutya esidlangalaleni, ukusebenzisa izindlu zangasese zikawonke-wonke okanye ukuya kwiindawo apho abantu baninzi- abantu abangabaziyo- kunokubenza bazive bekhathazekile.
Ihambisa i-mutism ekhethiweyo
Ukuba umntwana uyathetha emfihlakalweni ekhaya kodwa akakwazi ukuthetha esikolweni okanye kwezinye iimeko zentlalo, unokuba nokukhetha mutism. Maxa wambi abazali nootitshala bayakutolika oku kuthula njengento enenjongo, kodwa enyanisweni kukuba umntwana ukhubazekile.
Ukukhetha ukungaguquki kunokubangela uxinzelelo olomeleleyo emntwaneni kuba akathethi kodwa uyafuna. Khawufane ucinge ukuba ufuna ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela esikolweni kodwa ungathethi… Aba bantwana bayaqina xa becelwa ukuba bathethe. Banokusebenzisa izijekulo, imbonakalo yobuso ... kodwa abafuni kuthetha. Ekhaya, banokuzivalela ngaphandle ukuba kukho omnye umntu ongenguye owosapho.
Ingxaki yokujonga okungalunganga okunyanzelekileyo (OCD)
Ukuba umntwana wakho unoloyiko olukhulu okanye uziva enyanzelekile ukuba enze amasiko aphindaphindiweyo okwenza ukuba uxinzelelo okanye uloyiko luphele, unokuba nengxaki yokuziva enyanzelekile. Abantwana abane-OCD baxakeke ziingcinga ezingafunekiyo kunye noloyiko- ukuthambeka- okuyekisiweyo okanye kungafakwanga isenzo esiphindaphindayo okanye sokunyanzelwa.
Ukuthambekela okuqhelekileyo komntwana kunokuba luloyiko lokungcola, ukuba kukho into embi eya kwenzeka kubo okanye kwilungu losapho ukuba abenzi amasiko abo ... Banokuhlamba izandla, baphindaphinde intshukumo, bavule kwaye bavala iingcango, babambe amalungu omzimba wabo ngendlela elinganayo yokunciphisa uloyiko kunye nokuzola. Ngamanye amaxesha banokucela abanye ukuba bathathe inxaxheba kwizithethe zabo.