Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ungutata okanye umama owahlukana naye, ungumhlolo waphinda watshata, okanye ongazange atshate kodwa waba nabantwana nomlingani wakhe, ngoku ucinga ngokuhamba epasejini. Kungakhathaliseki isizathu, inyaniso kukuba ukuba utshata ngoku, loo mini iya kuba ibaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kwaye ukuba unabantwana ... kubo.
Xa abantwana bakho befumanisa ukuba uyatshata, mhlawumbi baya kuvuya gqitha. Bayazi ukuba baya kuba yinxalenye yolu suku lukhethekileyo kwaye unokwenza kube njalo. Ukuba awuyazi indlela onokwenza ngayo abantwana bakho babe ngabalinganiswa bomtshato wakho, ungaphoswa zezi ngcamango zilandelayo.
Mabasasaze iipetali phakathi kweendwendwe
Olu shicilelo kwiintsapho ezininzi xa zishiya umsitho, iipetali okanye irayisi ziphoswa kumtshakazi nomyeni. Irayisi okanye iipetali zinokufakwa kwiingxowa ezintle zomntu ngamnye ukuze undwendwe ngalunye lube nezabo kunye ngoko unokuphosa kumtshakazi nomyeni xa ushiya icawa okanye ekupheleni komsitho waseburhulumenteni.
Abantwana bakho banokuhambisa iibhegi zabo kwiindwendwe. Baya kuvuya kakhulu ukuba bakwazi ukusasaza kwiindwendwe, usapho kunye nabahlobo ezi bhegi ozilungiselele ngalo lonke uthando lwakho ngalo mzuzu ukhethekileyo.
amagama amnandi
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, umzuzu onomdla kakhulu womtshato uya kuhlala umzuzu wezifungo. Esi sibini sithetha amazwi athile azele luthando ukubonisa indlela esivakalelwa ngayo omnye komnye. Lixesha elikhethekileyo eliya kuhlala likwinkumbulo.
Abantwana nabo banokuba yinxalenye yalo mzuzu. Ngaphambi okanye emva kwezifungo zesi sibini, abantwana banokuthetha amazwi amnandi anikezelwe kubazali babo. Kwanotata okanye umama unokuthi anikezele amagama ambalwa kubantwana babo ukuze bazive bebaluleke kakhulu ngolu suku lukhethekileyo.
Imisebenzi esemthethweni
Unganika abantwana bakho imisebenzi esemthethweni, oko kukuthi… uxanduva losuku lomtshato. Baya kuziva bebaluleke kakhulu kwaye banesikhundla abangenakukwala ngosuku olubaluleke kangaka kumntu wonke. Kukho iindlela ezininzi onokukhetha kuzo ukuze ukwazi ukunika abantwana bakho uxanduva kwaye uqinisekise ukuba bakwenza kakuhle.
Kakade ke, uxanduva luya kuxhomekeka kubuchule nakwiminyaka yabantwana bakho, ubuntu babo nokuba bafuna kangakanani ukuba yinxalenye yolu suku lumangalisayo. Ngaphambi kokuba ubabele nayiphi na imbopheleleko, unokubabuza enoba bayafuna kusini na ukuba nenxaxheba, ngoko ukuba baziva bekhuthazekile yaye ngabo abagqibayo enoba bayaba nenxaxheba okanye akunjalo.
Eminye imizekelo yokunika uxanduva kubantwana ngolu suku luhle yile:
- Khokela iindwendwe ezihlalweni zazo
- Ukuhamba nomtshakazi okanye umyeni phantsi kwepaseji ukuya esibingelelweni
- Yiba ngumakoti
- Yenza intetho ethekweni
- Xelela iindwendwe ukuba ziye phi emva komsitho
- Funda umbongo okanye ucule ingoma ethekweni
Umdaniso wosapho
Umzuzu womlingo kuyo yonke imitshato ngumzuzu womdaniso. Lixesha apho isibini siqala umdaniso wothando okanye owonwabileyo ukunika indlela yokudanisa emva kokunyangwa. Emva koko, iindwendwe zinokudanisa kwaye zibe nexesha elimnandi de itheko liphele.
Abantwana bakho nabo bangathatha inxaxheba kulo mzuzu womlingo. Phambi komtshato, kwiiveki ezingaphambili, ninokulungiselela i-choreography kunye ukuze xa ilixesha lokudanisa iphele iyinto ekhethekileyo kakhulu. Kubalulekile ukuba bayirekhode kwividiyo! Kuba ngale ndlela unokukhumbula kwaye uhlale ukonwabela loo mzuzu ukhethekileyo.
Umzuzu wamakhonkco okanye umanyano
Umzuzu wamakhonkco unomlingo kumsitho. Kuxa isibini sifunga uthando olungunaphakade (okanye ubuncinci njengoko lukhona) kunye namakhonkco otshintshiselwano njengophawu lomanyano nokuzibophelela. Ukuba abantwana bakho bancinci (okanye akunjalo), Basenokuzisa imisesane esibingelelweni ukuze umtshakazi nomyeni bazithabathe baze bawanxibe.
Inkwenkwe okanye intombazana iya kufuneka ibe nayo kwaye inakekele amakhonkco ngexesha lomthendeleko, kwaye xa lixesha lokutshintsha amakhonkco, ngomqondiso ofihlakeleyo kuya kufuneka bawathwale ukuya esibingelelweni. Ngaphambi komkhosi, kuyimfuneko ukuthetha nenkwenkwe okanye intombazana malunga nomqondiso oza kunikwa wona, ukuze bakwazi ukuphulaphula kwaye ngexesha elifanelekileyo, bakwazi ukuwalayisha.
Bonke kufuneka babe kwikhekhe!
Ngokuqhelekileyo kumaqebengwane omtshato imifanekiso yomtshakazi nomyeni ibekwe phezu kwekhekhe. Kodwa ukuba isibini sele sinabantwana, bonke bamele babe yinxalenye yeqebengwana ekubeni bonke beyinxalenye yolo manyano nentsapho edalwayo! Ikhekhe le-fondant elinamanqanaba ahlukeneyo iyona nto ibhetele, kuba ngoko unokubeka umzobo womtshakazi nomyeni kwindawo ephezulu kunye nabantwana, kuwo wonke amanqanaba, behleli, bedlala ... nantoni na onokucinga ngayo! Kuya kuba kuhle ukuba oonodoli nabo benziwe umntu kwaye bazazise kwikhekhe, Kuya kuba yinto emangalisayo emangalisayo kunye nekhekhe eliyingqayizivele kunye nekhethekileyo!
Ifoto ixabisa iwaka lamagama
Emitshatweni, umtshakazi nomyeni badla ngokuthatha iifoto ezininzi ukuze bakhumbule. Ngokwesiqhelo, sisibini kuphela esime kwiifoto, kodwa xa unabantwana, oku kunokutshintsha kakhulu!
Nangona ninayo imifanekiso apho nina nobabini njengophawu lothando lwenu, unokucinga ngokuzonwabisa kunye neefoto zangaphambili apho abantwana bakho bavela khona. Ukuba uqesha umfoti, mcele ukuba akuxelele iindlela zokuzonwabisa onokuzenza kwaye kwanga ungabenza abantwana bakho bangafi kwimifanekiso ngale mini imangalisayo.
Ezi zezinye iimbono onokuthi uzithathele ingqalelo ukubandakanya abantwana bakho emtshatweni wakho kwaye ubenze bazive bebaluleke kakhulu ngolu suku lumnandi kuye wonke umntu. Unokuba nenkumbulo emangalisayo apho nonke niyinxalenye yomanyano lwale qhina lomlingo, uthando olungenamiqathango!