Ububele yenye yezona mpawu zixhaphakileyo kwiintsomi. Inkcazo yeOxford Dictionary: "Umgangatho wokuba nobubele, onesisa kunye nolwazelelelo". Kutheni ububele luluphawu oluhle?
Ububele businceda ukuba: sidale ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye nobudlelwane okanye ubudlelwane, sikhuthaze abanye, nangona kungengenxa yethu kuphela, ukwandisa impilo-ntle yethu, ukoneliseka kunye nozinzo.
Bunokukunceda njani ububele?
Umntu onobubele uyakwazi ukuphumelela abantu ngokulula. Bafumana abahlobo kunye namaqabane alula kuba bayabona xa abanye befuna uncedo kwaye bazimisele ukunyuka. Oku kunokusebenzela iinjongo zakho zobuqu, njengoko befumana abanye bezimisele ukunceda ngaphandle kokuthandana.
Uphawu oluphambili oluhambelana nomlinganiswa olungileyo xa sithetha ngobubele "sisibindi." Kufuna inkalipho ukusoloko ubaphatha kakuhle abanye ngemfesane. Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa ukuba siyaboyika okanye sizenzakalise. Ububele bomntu omnye bunokukunika:
- Amandla okoyisa imiqobo kunye nokudana ngenxa yokuba bezama ukukhathalela nokuqonda kwaye bekhululekile ngale ndlela.
- Iindlela zokwenza unxibelelwano abaludingayo ukuze bakhule kwaye bafumane impumelelo kwiinjongo zabo nakwimisebenzi.
Kubalulekile ukucacisela abantwana ukubaluleka kobubele nobubele ebantwini kuba ngale ndlela, baya kuziqonda zonke izibonelelo ezinokubazisa ebomini babo. Ububele, ububele… ukuba ngumntu olungileyo ngokubanzi kubalulekile kuluntu ukuze luqhubele phambili ngokufanelekileyo kwaye nabantwana bazive bonwabile ngabo nakwabanye njengoko bekhula. Ukufezekisa oku, ufuna umzekelo wabazali yonke imihla.