Iindlela zokuthintela ubundlongondlongo ebantwaneni

Inokuqala kancinci ngokuluma, ukubetha, ukukhaba okanye ukutyhala abanye abantwana. Ziqhelekile kubantwana abaqala i-kindergarten, phakathi kweminyaka emi-2-4. Ukuza kuthi ga kwiminyaka emi-5, abantwana abanandlela yakulawula okanye ukulawula indlela abaziphethe ngayo, ke inokuthathwa njengento ethile. Bafuna ukunxibelelana kwaye abanakho okanye abazi ukuba benze njani, kwaye bayayenza ngokuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo.

Kodwa ukuba asenzi nto, ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zinoburharha ezinokubonakala ngathi yi-anecdote elula kunokuba nzima ekuhambeni kwexesha. Isenokuba yingxaki enkulu kootitshala nakubazali, kwaye okukhona sijamelana nabo kwangoko, kwaye iziphumo ziya kuba ngcono.. Kuyimfuneko ukuba uqondise le ndlela yokuziphatha ukuze ingabi ngumkhwa.

Umntwana uthathwa nini njengomntu onengcwangu?

Ubundlongondlongo bomntwana ngu xa umntwana ngabom esonzakalisa umntu okanye into, kwaye ukwenzakala kunokuba kokubini ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni.

Njengoko besesitshilo ngaphambili, abantwana abancinci banokuba nokuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo ngenxa yolawulo lwabo olubi lokuziphatha kwabo. Oku akuthethi ukuba babe ndlongondlongo xa bekhula, kodwa bayenza Kuya kuba lula ukubona ukuba yintoni ebangela ezi ndlela zokuziphatha ukuze uzithumele kwakhona.

El Injongo kukuthintela ukuba ungonzakalisi abanye kunye nawe, kwaye uphephe iziphumo ezibi. yehambo yabo.

Unobangela wokuhlaselwa kwabantwana

• Ukuxelisa. Abantwana bafana neziponji, bathatha lonke ulwazi abanalo. Banokuvezwa kubundlobongela kumabonwakude, esikolweni, kwimidlalo yevidiyo, kusapho ... Ukuba bayabona ukuba indlela yokusombulula ukungavisisani ngogonyamelo (ngomlomo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni), baya kuyithatha njengesiqhelo. Usapho lolona phawu lubalulekileyo ebantwaneni, ukuba uyaqaphela ukuba abazali babo bayanxibelelana ngokundlongondlongo, uyakuthatha njengendlela eqhelekileyo yokunxibelelana nokusombulula iingxaki
• Ubunzima bokuthetha. Njengoko besesitshilo ngaphambili, abantwana ukungabinamyalelo wolwimi ekunxibelelaneni, kudala unxunguphalo. Ukuba baziva benomsindo, benomsindo, belusizi okanye ukuba imeko ayinabulungisa, ngekhe bazi ukuba bangayichaza njani na nangayiphi na enye indlela ngaphandle kokuyisebenzisa ngezandla.
• Ukungabikho kwezicwangciso zokulwa. Nditsho nokwazi ukuthetha abantwana abaninzi abayazi indlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo zaboAbanazo izicwangciso zokuthetha ngokuzithemba ukuze bangabheneli kubundlobongela.
• Ukunganyamezelani ekubhekaneni nokudana. Ukuba abafundanga ukumelana nokukhathazeka, baya koyiswa ngabo nabuphi na ubunzima kwaye baya kuphendula ngomsindo. Unokufunda inqaku lethu "Ubafundisa njani abantwana ukuba balawule ukukhathazeka kwabo" ukubanceda.
• Imfundo evumayo. Abantwana bafuna imida, kunye a Uhlobo lokufundisa ngokungabikho kwemigaqo kunye nemigaqo ngumngcipheko wokuvela kobukrakra bomntwana.

Kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuthintela ubundlongondlongo bomntwana?

Into yokuqala ekufuneka siyicacisile yile kufuneka ungaguquguquki. Asinako ukohlwaya ubundlobongela ngogonyamelo. Kuya kufuneka sibone okungaphaya kokuziphatha komntwana. Jonga ukuba yintoni ekhokelele kule ndlela yokuziphatha, fumana imvelaphi. Ukuziphatha okugwenxa kukuziphatha okufundwayo, ke ngethamsanqa banokuguqulwa.

Iindlela zokulawula ubundlongondlongo bomntwana

Kufuneka sehlise umoya. Ukuziphatha okugwenxa kuyinto eqhelekileyo kubantwana abancinci, kuyinxalenye yokufunda kwabo. Kukho iindlela zokulungisa olu hlobo lokuziphatha kwezinye ezamkelekileyo.

• Thetha naye. Thetha ngethoni ecacileyo neqinileyo. Yenza kucace ukuba awukwazi ukubetha omnye umntu.
• Beka iimvakalelo zakho ngamazwi. Uya kuziva uthuthuzelekile kwaye uqondwa. "Unomsindo wokuba umntakwenu wophule into yakho yokudlala, akunjalo?" okanye "umzobo wakho omhle wonakele, ngaba ulusizi, akunjalo?" Makhe afunde ukuba obu buhlungu bunamagama, ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuziva ngale ndlela kwaye zininzi iindlela zokukuchaza.
• Bonelela ngezinye iindlela zokulwa. Indlela oziva ngayo iyaqondwa, ngoku kufuneka sikuncede ube nezinye iindlela zokuhlangabezana noluvo lwakho. Umzekelo, ukuba umzobo wakhe wonakele, singathi "Ngaba ungayenza kwakhona?" Singabanika ezinye iindlela zokusombulula into ebangele imvakalelo engathandekiyo. Ngale ndlela siyakubabonisa ukuba ubundlobongela asikuphela kwento enokwenzeka.
• Inkqubo yolawulo lweemvakalelo. Singakufundisa ubuchule bokukhanya kwetrafikhi obubandakanya ukumela iimvakalelo zakho ngokwasemzimbeni. Yindlela yokulawula iimvakalelo:

1. Isibane esibomvu: Yima. Xa singakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo, siyema. Iya kubanceda babone imiqondiso edala iimvakalelo zabo.
2. Ukukhanya kweorenji: Cinga. Uyazi ukuba unomsindo. Lixesha lokuba ufumane izizathu kunye nezisombululo.
3. Ukukhanya okuluhlaza: ingxoxo. Kukuthetha-thethana kunye nokubonisa iimvakalelo zethu ezinamava ukubuyela esiqhelweni.

• Amaculo. Abantwana abancinci bayazithanda iingoma, bayabafundisa ngelixa ibaphumza. Singakufundisa iingoma ezichaza ukuba liliphi ilungu lomzimba. "Amazinyo asetyenziselwa ukutya, iingalo zokuwola, .."

Kuba khumbula… abantwana badinga umntu oza kubakhokela ukuba baqonde kwaye balawule iimvakalelo zabo.