Funda ukubala kwaye uwazi amanani zizigama ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Abantwana abasuka kunyaka wabo wokuqala wobomi sele beqalile ukuqhelana nomxholo wamanani kwaye phantse ngengozi sele beyazi indlela yokuxelela ukuba badala kangakanani ngeminwe yabo. Singabazali sibafundisa ukuba bathi kwaye bawaqonde amanani, kodwa kwahlukile xa sizama ukufundisa unyana wethu ukubala.
Kuba yahlukile? Kuba abantwana banako ukucengceleza amanani ngokulandelelana, bafunda ngentloko, kodwa xa kufikwa kubalo, abayenzi ngokulula. Ukuba unomntwana ubala uthotho lwezinto, uyakuyibona loo nto bazibala nganye nganye. Kodwa ngokungazi banokutsiba enye, okanye babini babala kunye, okanye into inamanani amabini ngexesha elinye. Kulapho basenendlela encinci yokufunda ukubala.
Ndingamfundisa njani umntwana wam ukubala?
Kufuneka sicace gca malunga nomba wophuhliso ngengqondo kunye nokuqiqa ukuba kuya kuba njani ukufunda ukubala. Kwiingcali ezininzi, imbalelwano yomntu nomnye kuya kufuneka yenziwe, eya kuthi ibe kukunika into inombolo, ngokungathi ligama.
Ungaqala ngokwenza imidlalo elula engena kubomi bemihla ngemihla, njengodweliso lweenombolo zeglasi ezifunekayo ukuseta itafile, ukubala inani lezihlangu, amalungu omzimba wakhe, kunye nokubala ukuphatha. Inqaku kukuba baqala bonakalisa umdla kumanani nakwimathematika.
Ngale ndlela inokukhula ulwahlulo, apho unokuthiya izinto kunye 'kubaliwe' kwaye 'kungabalwa' kwaye kuya kufuneka uyenze ukubizwa kwezinto ngamanani. Olu hlobo lokuzilolonga kufuneka lwenziwe njengomdlalo kwaye lungaqala ukwenziwa emva kweminyaka emi-5 okanye emi-6, nangona iya kuxhomekeka kubuchule bomntwana.
Olunye uhlobo lomsebenzi onokusetyenziswa unaye indlela Montessori, apho usebenza khona ngendlela yokwahlulahlula izinto ngolungelelwano okanye ngokudibanisa ngezinto zemizwa. Ukuba umbono kukwenza ukuba umntwana afunde ukubala, kungcono ukuyenza ngemisebenzi ukukunceda uhlele kwaye u-odole, endaweni yokuhlala ufundisa amanani abhaliweyo.
Imisebenzi okanye imidlalo yomntwana yokufunda ukubala
Eyona mizekelo ilungileyo yokuba abantwana bafunde ukubala yile ngokusebenzisa imidlalo okanye neemeko eziboniswa ngezinto zemihla ngemihla. Ezo uqhelene nazo zingasetyenziselwa ukuzithelekisa nobungakanani okanye namanye amaqela anenani elifanayo lezinto.
Enye indlela yokufundisa kukuba ngomculo, Ngeengoma, izicengcelezo, imibongo, imizobo okanye iividiyo ezihlekisayo ezinikwa ngamaqonga. Ngolonwabo, indlela yokufunda ukulandelelana kwamanani inokuphuculwa kakhulu. Ngeengoma Bayakufunda ukwamkela inani kunye nokuqonda ukulandelelana kwamanani.
Imilo kunye nemibala yimizekelo elungileyo nakuwe funda ngendlela ebonakalayo. Abantwana bangcono kakhulu ekusebenziseni iithoni ukuze bakwazi ukukhumbula ngcono besebenzisa ubudlelwane.
Kukho imidlalo emininzi ekhoyo ukuthenga kwaye bafunde ngokudlala. Ngendlela yokwenza ekhaya unakho Sebenzisa iibhola ezincinci ukwenzela ukuba bayabala kwaye bongeze omnye komnye. Enye indlela yokonwaba kukwabela inani emntwini, kwinto yokudlala okanye yezilwanyana ezifakiweyo. Ke elowo kubo uya kwabela 1 uPablo, 2 uTata, 3 utatomkhulu, njl.
Nangona kungabonakali ngathi, ukubala kubalulekile kwaye abantwana banokubuphucula obu buchule besebancinci. Ngale ndlela banethuba elikhulu lokufunda ngokwendalo ukuba yintoni ubungakanani kwaye umba "ongaphezulu" no "kuncinci" kwaye ke ukwazi ukuba ezintathu zithetha 'izinto ezintathu'.