Iiholide zabantwana zinokuba yingxaki kubazali ekufuneka bephangele, Kodwa phakathi kootatomkhulu nootatomkhulu, izikolo zasehlotyeni, iiholide zomsebenzi nokuqesha abantu abagcina abantwana ekhaya, baphumelela kuzo zonke iiveki zeeholide zehlobo zabantwana. Kodwa imfihlelo yehlobo elihle liphezu kwakho konke ukwazi ukulungelelanisa ukuguquguquka kunye neendlela.
Abantwana badinga iinkqubo zemihla ngemihla ukuba bazive bekhuselekile kunye nokuzinza kwangaphakathi, kodwa kwangaxeshanye, bafuna ukuguquguquka ukuze bakwazi ukulala emva kosuku kuba "lukhethekileyo", ukuya kwiindawo ezintsha kwaye babe namava amangalisayo njengentsapho, njl. Kucacile ukuba iinkqubo zisinceda silungelelanise kwaye silungelelanise ubomi bentsapho ngcono, kodwa xa iholide ifika yonke into iyatshintsha.
Iinkqubo ziya kwahluka kwaye iya kuba lithuba lokufunda kusapho lonke. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuziqhelanisa neeholide zabantwana kwaye ingengabo abafanele balungelelanise ngexesha labo lokukhululeka kubomi obucinezelayo babazali babo. Kuyimfuneko ukulungelelanisa izinto ukuze onke amalungu entsapho azonwabele.
Abazali banokubeka bucala inkqubo engqongqo yekhalenda yesikolo kwaye benze indlela yokuphumla ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, ukuba nje ngenxa yokuba iindlela zesiqhelo zahlukile, kuba ziphuma ngakumbi ukuhamba, ukuya elunxwemeni okanye echibini. Kuyimfuneko ukuba oku kuqina kuthathe isitulo esingasemva kwaye nabazali babeke phambili ixesha losapho kunye nemisebenzi kulo lonke ixesha lonyaka lasehlotyeni.
Kuba akuyomfuneko ukuba abantwana baye eholideyini baye kweyona ndawo intle ehlabathini, kuba kubo, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kwiholide yabo kukunandipha intsapho yabo, naphi na apho ikhoyo. Lo ngumlingo wokwenyani weholide zasehlotyeni.