Asingabo bonke abazali abathanda ukohlwaya nokukhalimela abantwana babo. Nangona kunjalo, abantwana kufuneka bazi ngalo lonke ixesha ukuba amanyathelo athile kufuneka abe neziphumo. Kuyinyani ukuba isohlwayo masingasetyenziswa rhoqo kwaye sisetyenziswe kuphela kwiindlela ezithile zokungathobeli kwicala labantwana.
Ubudala bomntwana ngoyena ndoqo xa ukhetha uhlobo lwesohlwayo olunokunceda ukuhambisa umngeni okanye ukungaziphathi kakuhle. Emva koko sikunika uthotho lwezikhokelo eziza kukunceda wazi ukuba isohlwayo kufuneka sibe njani kwaye kufuneka usisebenzise nini.
Ukohlwaya ebantwaneni
Imfundo elungileyo isekwe, phakathi kwezinye izinto, ebantwaneni abafunda ukuhlonipha uthotho lwemithetho nemimiselo ebekwe ngabazali babo. Ngenxa yoku, Ngamaxesha onke abazali kufuneka babeke umzekelo kwaye baziphathe ngendlela efanayo abafuna ukuba yenziwe ngabantwana babo.Ngamanye amaxesha iindlela zokuziphatha zinobuzaza kakhulu kwaye isohlwayo kufuneka sikhethwe njengenyathelo lokuthintela isimilo esinjalo ekuphindaphindweni. Ukuba akukho enye indlela ngaphandle kokukhetha isohlwayo, kuya kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo le miba ilandelayo:
- Ukohlwaya akufuneki kube bububi ebantwaneni okanye kuhlasele ukuzithemba kwabo. Abantwana kufuneka basiqonde isohlwayo ngenxa yesenzo esingafunekiyo.
- Phambi ukohlwaya abantwana, kufuneka baqonde ukuba kutheni bohlwaywa.
- Ukohlwaya akufuneki kuqondwe njengeyona nto imbi, kodwa endaweni yesivumelwano.
Indlela yohlwaya abantwana ngokweminyaka yabo
Iingcali zicebisa xa kufikwa ekufumaneni okuhle imfundo, ukugcina unxibelelwano oluhle kunye noqeqesho olulungileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho amaxesha apho kuye kufuneke ukubhenela ukohlwaya njengeendlela zokuba abantwana bazi indlela yokwahlula phakathi kokuziphatha okuhle kokubi. Xa wohlwaya abantwana, ubudala babantwana kufuneka buthathelwe ingqalelo ngawo onke amaxesha. Isohlwayo somntwana omalunga neminyaka emihlanu asifani nesomntwana oneminyaka eli-5 ubudala.
- Kwinqanaba eliqala kwiminyaka emibini ukuya kwemihlanu, isohlwayo kufuneka senziwe ngokukhawuleza ukuze umntwana azi ukuba kunxulumene nokuziphatha gwenxa ebenako. Ukukuvimba amalungelo athile sesinye sezohlwayo ezicetyiswa ziingcali. Ngale nto, omncinci unokuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba isimilo esithile esingathandekiyo sinokuba neziphumo ezithile njengokungakwazi ukudlala ngeyona nto bayithandayo. utata usenokukhetha ukumgxotha kuloo ndawo angaziphethe kakuhle kuyo. Ngale ndlela unethuba lokucinga ngale nto uyenzileyo kunye nokuzola.
- Ukusukela kwiminyaka ye-6, abantwana sele beyiqonda ngakumbi into abayenzayo nento elungileyo nengalunganga. Ukurhoxiswa kwamalungelo kuyaqhubeka nokusebenza njengesohlwayo esisebenzayo. Ngale ndlela unokukhetha ukuyishiya ungakhange ubukele umabonwakude okanye ungaphumi uyokudlala nabahlobo.
- Ngokufika kwinqanaba lokufikisa, izinto ziya zisiba nzima ngakumbi kuba ziye zizimele ngakumbi kwaye akukho nzima kubo ukwamkela imigaqo. Ukuba kufuneka ukhethe isohlwayo njengenyathelo eligqithisileyo, ukuphulukana namalungelo kuyatshintsha kwakhona: ukungasebenzisi iselfowuni, ukungadlali ikhonsoli okanye ukungabinakho ukuphuma nabahlobo uhambe.
Khumbula ukuba isohlwayo kufuneka sibeyinto yokugqibela kwaye kwimeko yokuyikhetha kufanele ukuba ibenze baqonde ukuba benze okungalunganga kwaye kwixesha elizayo indlela abaziphethe ngayo yahluke ngokupheleleyo. Musa ukugqitha ukohlwaya njengoko oku kunokuba yinto engenampumelelo xa kufikwa ekuphumezeni isimilo esihle.