Abantwana xa bezalwa bafana neencwadi ezingenanto ezibhala imbali yabo ngoko bakufundayo kunye nezinto abaphila ngazo kumzuzu ngamnye. Ngale ndlela, kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba oko akubonayo kuwe, uyafunda kwaye abhale kwincwadi yakhe engenanto. Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bakho baqalekise ngaxa lithile okanye elinye ebomini babo, baphinda into abayivayo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zobomi babo. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abadala baqalekisa nje ukuvavanya indlela abasabela ngayo abazali babo.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uqalisile ukuqalekisa isazela kwaye ukhetha amagama ngendlela eyiyo ukukhathaza abanye, lixesha lokuba ukhethe iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha onazo ukuze unqande olu lwimi kwaye uqaphele ukuba ayifanelekanga.
Amaxabiso osapho
Amaxabiso osapho adlala indima enkulu ekuthatheni isigqibo ngendlela yokuphendula kumagama amabi. Kwezinye zazo, ukuqalekisa akubalulekanga kwaye abazali bayayamkela into yokuba abantwana basebenzise la magama ahlabayo ... Nangona enyanisweni ingezizo iindlela zokuthetha nawuphi na umntwana okanye umntu omdala, kuba ukongeza ekubeni krwada kunokungahloniphi abanye abantu okanye, vusa iingxoxo okanye ungquzulwano nabanye.
Kwezinye iintsapho, ukuba nabantwana bathethe amazwi arhabaxa okanye isiqalekiso kuyacaphukisa kwaye kuya kufuneka bayisombulule ingxaki ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa nangayiphi na indlela, into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukuthetha nomntwana wakho malunga nendlela abantu abahluke ngayo kwiimpawu zabo. Ke, Nokuba uqalekisa ngaphandle kweenjongo ezimbi, inokubacaphukisa abanye abantu.
Kutheni uqalekisa?
Kuya kufuneka ukuba uvavanye ukuba umntwana wakho usebenzise amagama akrwada njani kwaye phi. Ukuba umntwana oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala uyatsho, kungenxa yokuba uphinda into ayivileyo kwenye indawo. Kwelinye icala, kukude kwinjongo yomntwana okwishumi elivisayo oneminyaka eli-5 xa eqalekisa utitshala wakhe wezibalo, apho emva kwala magama kunokubakho intiyo kunye / okanye ukukhathazeka.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana xa beqalekisa okanye besebenzisa amagama akrwada benza njalo kuba bengenazo izakhono zobomi ezibalulekileyo, ezinje ngezakhono zonxibelelwano okanye ezentlalo. Ukuba kunjalo, kuya kubaluleka ukufundisa abantwana ezi ntlobo zezakhono zobomi ezibalulekileyo. Ngaphandle koko, Uya kuba neengxaki kunye neziphumo ezibi kubomi bakho bonke ngenxa yokusilela kwezi zakhono zibalulekileyo.
Abantu abadala abangenalo unxibelelwano okanye izakhono zentlalo baya kuba neengxaki kulawulo lwempembelelo kwaye banokuba nomsebenzi kunye neengxabano zobuqu, besebenzisa ulwimi olungalunganga kunye nemfundo engalunganga xa benxibelelana nabanye. Banokuba neengxaki zobudlelwane ukuba bayabakhubekisa abanye abantu ngokuthetha rhabaxa kwabo.
Abantwana kufuneka bafunde iindlela zokuziphatha ukuze bazi ukuba ukubiza igama kuyingxaki. Ukuthuka abanye kunokuba nengxaki ebangela oko, njengokungalawuleki komsindo. Umntwana okwimeko yokucaphuka angaqalekisa, athuke kwaye athethe inkohlakalo kuba engalawuleki ngokweemvakalelo. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuzibamba ukuze uphephe ezi meko zingathandekiyo.
Kuya kufuneka ube ngumzekelo olungileyo onokukhetha kuwo
Kuya kufuneka uthathe ingqalelo indlela oziphethe ngayo kubantwana bakho. Ukuba uhlala uthuka okanye usebenzisa intetho engcolileyo, unethemba lokuba abantwana bakho baya kufunda ntoni? Ungoyena mzekelo ubalaseleyo kubo kwaye baya kukulinganisa kuyo yonke into. Ukuba uyakhwaza, bayakhwaza. Ukuba uyaqalekisa, bayakuqalekisa. Yinto elula nje leyo. Ukuba awufuni ukuba oku kwenzeke, kuya kufuneka uqale usebenze ngokuziphatha okuhle kunye nezakhono zentlalo kunye nezonxibelelwano ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuba uxelela abantwana bakho izinto ezinje: 'La magama anokuthethwa kuphela ngabantu abadala', yazi ukuba akwanelanga. Abantwana bafuna ukufana nawe kwaye baya kukukopa. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukutshintsha indlela othetha ngayo ngesiqhelo, lawula umsindo wakho kwaye uveze iimvakalelo zakho ngaphandle kokuthuka okanye ukusebenzisa amagama akrwada. Ukuba uyayenza kwaye uyaphumelela, umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukuyenza naye.
Kwakhona jonga ezinye iindlela anokuboniswa ngazo umntwana wakho kulwimi olungalunganga. Ukuba uvumela umntwana wakho abukele iimuvi okanye adlale imidlalo yevidiyo ebandakanya ulwimi olunezinto ezininzi ezingcolileyo, nabo baya kwenza njalo. Nciphisa oku kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Ungayihoyi iminxeba yokujonga
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bayayiphinda indlela yokuziphatha ukuba ifumana ingqalelo yabazali babo, nokuba ayihoywanga. Ukuba uyahleka, uhlekise, okanye ucaphuke xa umntwana wakho eqalekisile okanye esebenzise amagama akrwada, baya kuphindaphinda kwakhona.
Ukungahoyi umnxeba wokuvuka kunokuba sisicwangciso esihle, ngakumbi abantwana abancinci. Ukuba amagama amabi ayaphindaphindwa, ngaphandle kokungawahoyi, kuya kufuneka uxelele umntwana wakho ukuba ayilogama lilungileyo eli kwaye mabayeke ukuwathetha.
Misela imigaqo kunye neziphumo
Ukuba, ngaphandle kwayo yonke into, umntwana wakho uyaqhubeka nokuthetha kakubi, kuya kufuneka umisele umthetho ekhaya othi: 'Sebenzisa ulwimi olufanelekileyo'. Abantwana banokufuna isilumkiso kunye nezikhumbuzo zokuseka umkhwa wokuthetha kakuhle.
Ukuba uwaphule umthetho, nangona kunjalo kuya kufuneka ube neziphumo ezibi. Ukuba umntwana wakho unomsindo ngexesha lokuqalekisa, kuya kufuneka usebenzise isicwangciso sokuphuma, kuba oku kuya kumnceda ukuba afunde ukuzola ngaphambi kokuba athethe into ehlaselayo kwabanye.
Olunye ukhetho ziziphumo ezilungileyo ngohlobo lomvuzo. Oku kubandakanya ukunikezela umvuzo kumntwana wakho ngokusebenzisa ulwimi olufanelekileyo. Umntwana ongena engxakini esikolweni okanye othanda ukuqalekisa abantu xa enomsindo angaxhamla kwinkqubo yomvuzo esesikweni emvuza ngokumsebenzisa ulwimi olufanelekileyo. Inkqubo yoqoqosho lwethokheni inokuba yindlela entle yokukhuthaza abantwana ukuba basebenzise amagama anomusa kunye nolwimi olufanelekileyo imini yonke.
Injongo kukuba abantwana baqonde ukuba ulwimi olungafanelekanga lunokukhubekisa abanye abantu kwaye kufuneka ube nolwimi olufanelekileyo lokuthetha nawe kunye nabanye. Oku kubalulekile kukuziphatha okuhle kunye nolawulo lweemvakalelo.